Summary

The author reflects on the necessity of taking a step back from life's struggles to find inner peace and reevaluate personal priorities, advocating for self-preservation and the pursuit of personal growth amidst uncertainty.

Abstract

In the face of relentless challenges, the author contemplates the importance of withdrawing from the constant battle to reassess and focus on self-care and personal development. Recognizing the value of solitude and the need to confront hardships daily, the author emphasizes making the best of difficult situations by concentrating on what truly matters in life. The narrative suggests that survival sometimes requires giving up certain battles, including potentially straining relationships, to prioritize one's well-being. The author argues that being self-centered under such circumstances is not inherently negative, as it allows for the preservation of one's unique contributions to the world. The text underscores the significance of intuition and moral actions in navigating life's uncertainties, advocating for embracing ambiguity and the pursuit of inner peace to ultimately benefit oneself and others.

Opinions

The author feels it is necessary to take a break from the constant struggles of life to regain a sense of self and prioritize personal needs.
Solitude is seen as beneficial for mental clarity and dealing with hardships, although it does not make them vanish.
There is an emphasis on the importance of making sacrifices, including potentially withdrawing from relationships, for the sake of personal survival and well-being.
The author believes that true altruism is contingent on having enough to give without jeopardizing one's own survival.
Self-centeredness is viewed as justified when it is a matter of survival, as long as it does not involve exploiting others.
The author suggests that solving one's problems independently is preferable, with assistance being secondary and not always necessary.
Kindness should be extended to oneself as well as others, without expecting anything in return.
The text posits that certainty in life can be achieved by embracing uncertainty and making informed decisions based on intuition and moral conscience.
The author advocates for a period of solitude to reevaluate life's purpose and learn methods to reach a state of inner peace, which can eventually benefit the collective.

Uncertain Times Call For Certain Measures

A Choice To Withdraw From The Struggles Of Life

I need a break. A long one at that, perhaps. Recently, this year has felt like the climax of all things tough and hard. I have always strived for tearing through my hardships and struggles. Never have I ever withdrawn from this mindset. The following years haven’t been kind. But this year seems to favor me as I have chosen to take a step back and let life take me wherever I might go.

I want to give up, on the struggle of life to savor the taste of solitude once more. Taking a break from everything that either makes joyous or blue.

A solitude of mind does fair well in most situations. But what most people don’ tell you that even with the solitude of mind — your hardships won’t disappear.

You will still have to face them every day.

As they say, make the best of bad situations — I am making the best with my time by focusing on the things that matter — my life.

In this time, I am motivated to do the things I had always put on hold during those harsh years when I would just focus on the goal right in front of me. Putting small efforts every day, but I have grown weary of the mental stress and torture over the years that I receive from the people in my life.

Be willing to lose a battle, in order to win the war.

Thus it is a decision, I have to take as I need to reconfigure my self and my soul, once more. In life, there are times when the situation demands that you need to give up when your survival depends on it.

It is the wise decision one has to make, but a hard price to pay for that as well.

Will you save yourself, at the cost of your relationships with others?

I have never considered this, though I do have pondered it for a while. It has been on my mind, ever since I started to experience mild episodes of headaches that continue onwards for days on end.

But that never really phased, I would still sit down patiently — play a few games, read a few books, and do many certifications or build something altogether with my mentees.

In this situation, this choice is necessary if I need to live. Altruism never really fares when one loses everything he owns at the cost of making others happy. True Altruism works when one has enough that even if he or she gives it away to others they will still have some for themselves to survive.

Does being self-centered when your survival depends on it, a bad thing?

I believe so because you can’t serve others if you aren’t alive and well. You have to survive yourself to become the beacon of hope for others. If there won’t be any you left, then who would be able to do what only you can do.

There is no one but you who can only do the things you were gifted with. That’s the ultimate truth for each of our existence. What we leave behind is what we were able to do, and if we taught someone what we learned in life will be the “how we did it?” as well.

It doesn’t mean that you would change your ways. You would just be trying ones that will help you live. There is nothing wrong with that unless you are using others to get what you want.

The best way to solve one’s problem is to solve it themselves. Assitance is sometimes essential but not always needed. We learn to pick our problems one by one, by making mistakes. When we forgive each other, we learn to accept one another.

That’s what the essence of kindness is, we have to be kind to ourselves as well when we are kind to another. Otherwise, that’s the negative side of being self-centered, because you might be showing kindness to get something back. That’s never what moral action stands for.

Can we be certain, in uncertain times? Should I give up on certain struggles to achieve zen?

We have to keep in mind that our survival is an instinctive response. Our intuition is something that calls from us, a choice of sacrifice. It guides with certain truths that we have to accept to survive the odds.

Those truths might be easy to digest once you accept them. It makes it easier but if you don’t then there is an excruciating journey ahead of you.

Life is uncertain, we can plan all we want but they might never really fare. As the spontaneity of life is always changing our paths and destinies. Each word that we speak changes the outcome as we move along.

Each breath that we take moves us towards something we have never known. This is where we have to embrace the ambiguity.

I know it’s hard to grasp something we don’t understand well.

This is where we have to make a choice, of changing our perspective and seeing uncertainty in a newer light. Certainty is derived from decisions and understanding. It takes effort, moral conscience, and moral action for us to become certain in ourselves to embrace ambiguity.

Moral actions can always help us in such scenarios where we have to safeguard not only ourselves but limiting the effects of what we might experience from our peers as well.

Because uncertainty can bring a lot of devastating emotions that can harm the sentiments of the people we love. We have to distance ourselves, by choice because we can’t let small things ruin our relationships with others.

Solitude is the best measure one can take to reevaluate what is needed to be done for one’s sake. As they say, you need to be of sound mind, and sound body to make a change.

Solitude does that for you. It helps you to become certain in uncertainty. It makes you the one who’s certain at the core of ambiguity. The best way to see any problem is from within.

In the core is where it lies, the answer to all of life’s strife. A realm of peace resides at the core of even the harshest of environments i.e. the calm of the storm.

This is the reward that lies at the end of this choice that I have made. Though, I’m not concerned about it. I am more concerned about learning the methods of how I can reach such a destination where peace is eternal.

That perhaps is the struggle I am aiming to persevere through by giving up on the struggles of life. Because that is what I believe we should do. To think of the bigger picture, knowing there lie a struggle and a place where we can go when we give up the ones that shackle ourselves to life.

A path towards learning the secrets, of life that can benefit those around me when I choose to go back and help them as well again.

Thank you for reading.