Two Reasons Why Birthdays and Holidays Are Just Another Day to You
I recall people saying, “it’s just another day” when asked about plans for their birthday or holidays.
Now that I am more experienced in life, I have deduced two reasons people feel this way: 1) they have found their passion for life or 2) they have lost their passion for life.
passion: strong and barely controllable emotion
Found Passion for Life
People who have found their passion(s) in life don’t need a special day to feel passionate. They treat themselves very well every day and have passionate activities and people in their lives. These people will say, “I will be in my season seats with my best friend for the game” when asked about their plans for a holiday or “I scheduled my monthly spa appointment” when asked about their plans for their birthday. These people don’t need the fanfare of an annual day to feel special or loved — they incorporate special things and people they love throughout the year and have found content with that.
These people are in control of their lives, meaning they recognize and leverage their power to create the life they want every day. They take charge of their emotions and do things that make them feel good. In essence, they feel good about every aspect of life, including themselves, which means they don’t need the gifts or attention from others to have what they already have within.
Loss of Passion for Life
Life happens. Sometimes not-so-good things happen, and others affect our moods and psyche. This sometimes takes a lot out of people.
People who allow the emotions of their past to run their present life only attract a life of lethargy that makes them feel lethargic emotions. They are in a cycle of lethargy and have lost control of their lives. They have low energy, low moods, and low expectations about their life. Every day is just another day to them because they have no passion from yesterday to drive energy of expectation for more passion the next day even if it is an annual day to celebrate.
How to Regain Passion One must have an unwavering determination to always control their emotions and their life. One must be determined to hold on to their passion despite what happens in life. If that strong, barely-controllable emotion comes when you dance, run, laugh, volunteer, or have a great conversation, then no matter what happens to you, you need to make sure you incorporate the activity that will make you experience that strong and barely controllable emotion.
Ask yourself what you are passionate about. Ask yourself what activity makes you feel a strong, barely-controllable emotion.
Then do it every day, multiple times a day. Over time you will regain more passion (a strong, barely-controllable emotion). Life will still happen, but those circumstances will be sandwiched between your passionate activities. Even if the life circumstance is a long-enduring one — find ways to incorporate passionate activities to keep you balanced.
Sometimes a lack of passion in life is the result of a loss of passionate people. I fully understand, from personal experience, the emotional and physical effects of losing a person you had a strong, barely-controllable emotion for. That takes time to heal, but here’s how you start the process of overcoming the loss: You love yourself and love those around you.
Challenge: Mentally send love to everyone you encounter for one day — from work to the grocery store and everywhere in between.
I have experienced both of these circumstances. I am blessed and grateful to say that “I once was lost but now I’m found.” I am definitely not in a place where I have lost my passion for life. and my scales of life are leaning more toward having found my passion for life. For 2022, I will do more of what excites me and causes a strong, barely-controllable emotion while still looking forward to great times regardless of the day on the calendar.
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