Truths You Should Be Hearing Right Now
Because tough love is sometimes necessary.
1. They’re not thinking about you as much as you think they are.
Are you shy or self-conscious, do you ask yourself the too dangerous question What will people think? way to often? It’s ok, we’ve all been there, but what you need to know is:
they’re not giving your life as much importance as you think.
Do. What. You. Want.
Think about it this way: sure, they might talk about you for a minute there, but at the end of the day, everyone has their own lives, their own problems and desires, everyone lowkey thinks the world is about them. You don’t inhabit their minds as much as you think you do. Go do that thing you were postponing to do, wear whatever you want, become whoever you want. It’s your life and you only got one.
2. Stop taking things so personally.
It’s not about you
is a phrase we struggle with the most. Whether it’s someone ghosting us or a friend who never changes their toxic behaviour. Let it go, it really isn’t about you.
Maybe your ideal potential partner doesn’t feel the same connection with you as you feel with them. This doesn’t make you a bad, unloving, or even an undesirable person. It just means you don’t fit well together, but you can still be amazing persons individually. And as for the friend– we all have our own lives, we all have to make mistakes to learn from and to grow. You can give them advice and try to help them, but at the end of the day, it’s their lesson to learn.
3. Regrets are overrated.
Sure, we all experience regret sooner or later in life. In fact, it seems like regret is stuck to us. It could be about a minor thing or a bigger one. But what we should know is that this feeling shouldn’t hold us back.
It may help shape a part of who we are, but we shouldn’t let it become who we are as a whole.
Learn to take lessons from it and grow as a person, learn to live with it in a way that will motivate you to seize the day and live regret-free. But don’t contemplate about the old regrets, don’t get stuck in the past.
Whether it’s the feeling of regret from eating the whole chocolate last night or letting the one get away five years ago, remember that we are all only humans. We make mistakes. But what matters is what we take from these mistakes.
4. Nothing is guaranteed.
This is a sort of a cliché one, but bear with me.
Enjoy the moment
is something we hear so often, whether from movies, books, coffee mugs or that one glass-is-always-full kind of friend. But just because the phrase is overused, doesn’t mean it isn’t true.
The people you have in your life now most likely won’t be there forever. This moment you’re experiencing now, you’re experiencing it only once. The person you are now won’t be the person you will die as. So, pause, stop for a moment, breathe and look around. Be kind to the people closest to you, or to anyone for that matter. Embrace every day, even though it definitely won’t always be as easy. Because trust me, when you look back on this moment, you will wish you had seized it fully.
5. Just wanting it is not good enough.
We all know this… we all want something soooo badly, we would die for it. But would we put in actual effort, work, ENERGY? Nah, that’s ok, it clearly wasn’t meant to be.
When it comes to getting what we truly desire (either a dream home, faster car than your neighbour or becoming a millionaire), there really isn’t any other way around it. You will have to put in all your last ounce of energy on the path of reaching your goal. Sure, at the start you’re going to feel like you’re getting nowhere, you might even wish to quit at some point; but with work, with persistence and with never letting the goal out of your sight, comes the highly anticipated reward.
Next time you feel discouraged, remember these famous words:
“If you really look closely, most overnight successes took a long time.”
— Steve Jobs
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