True Version of Feminism you Need to Know

By mistake, I clicked on a trash email from amazon. It “took” me to a book called Good Night Stories for Rebel Girls. I clicked to look inside the book. I read a list of amazing women and then I came across this:

“To the rebel girls of the world:

Dream bigger

Aim higher

Fight harder

And, when in doubt, remember

You are right”

It’s beautiful!

It’s even more beautiful little girls get to read the stories of amazing women around the world.

In today’s world, what suffragettes worked for all of us, women are now going backward a bit. As Natasha Walther says in her book Living Dolls, The Return of Sexism.

“While girls have always been encouraged to see self-decoration as a central part of their lives, today they are also exposed to a deluge of messages, even at an early age, about the importance of becoming sexually attractive. These dolls are just a fragment of a much wider culture in which young women are encouraged to see their sexual allure as their primary passport to success. This highly sexualised culture is often positively celebrated as a sign of women’s liberation and empowerment.”

Today young girls beautify themselves so they get a man. These young women don’t care about their education, aspirations, and their own future in their own right. They think to get a man that’s all they need. For instance, I see women half naked on the streets of London. I see women half naked from Northern Europe on holiday in Barcelona.

It’s not a pretty sight. Those women, in fact, stopped our car in Las Ramblas in Barcelona and asked to participate in their drunken hen game. We are in the driving car!!!

That’s not feminism in my world. What feminism means to me is freedom of knowledge and making your own choices to do whatever a woman wishes.

It’s not feminism to be half-naked dancing on a pole. Supposedly expressing their femininity through dance whilst they can barely make the ends meet. Live in the tiniest room somewhere in the middle of nowhere in London. That’s not feminism!

I have been to a party where half the women there were prostitutes. I was shocked. I always wondered how does a girl end up in the industry? Is it an innocent friend who says ‘hey let’s go to this bar I know some wealthy guys, they are looking for fun and you’ll be able to buy many shoes if you behave right?’

It was a high end party with many people in high positions. That’s how it is isn’t? I’d watch the behaviour of the men. They’d dance around the women as if they were best “cock” in town.

Feminism is you can have the education to give you options.

I am not a feminist in a way that says a woman has to work to prove her freedom or a woman has to dress in a certain way to prove her freedom or a woman has to act in a certain way to prove her freedom.

I am feminist supporting women no matter their occupation whether they choose to be housewives, career eager women, or business owners. I am a feminist in a way that allows humanity in women not just to show off their status for the status’ sake.

If a woman wants to just have babies and look after her family that doesn’t mean she’s under the thumb or she’s not a feminist. By the way, looking after your family is huge and unpaid 24/7 work for the rest of a woman’s life. Never put down a mother who gave up her career to raise her children!

It’s different when a woman wants to be attractive and look sexy. Natasha Walther says in Living Dolls, The Return of Sexism

“Of course wanting to be sexually attractive has always and will always be a natural desire for both men and women, but in this generation a certain view of female sexuality has become celebrated throughout advertisements, music, television programmes, films and magazines. This image of female sexuality has become more than ever defined by the terms of the sex industry.”

Feminism is you can choose what you want to do. How you want to do things without a struggle of paying for the living using your own body. Feminism is a woman who can have a family and a successful business, be an artist, have an academic career, be an astronaut, and anything they wish.

That’s what this book for little girls is about. I am super excited and happy to see there are such books in the world for girls. I hope we can encourage women, friends and if you have daughters to be whomever they want to be. The world needs successful, inspiring, smart, educated, fabulous women.

Without women, the world wouldn’t be what it is today. I hope we can all be better at loving and appreciating women. I hope we can all love more and be more and do better.

Love and light!