Summary

The author, an ex-player, shares four traits that women secretly love, emphasizing the importance of embracing one's shadow and connecting with emotions.

Abstract

The article titled "Traits women SECRETLY LOVE (From an EX-PLAYER)" is a personal account of the author's experiences with women and the lessons he learned about masculinity and what women truly appreciate. The author, who has been with several women for both short-term and long-term relationships, shares four qualities that he believes have a magnetic pull on women. These traits are not commonly discussed but go deep into understanding one's self and connecting with emotions. The author emphasizes the importance of embracing one's shadow, facing one's dark masculine side, stepping into the magician's shoes, opening one's heart, and being wild at heart. He shares personal exercises and challenges to help readers connect with their emotions and overcome their fears. The author also shares his experiences with specific women who helped him learn these lessons.

Bullet points

The author shares his experiences with women and the lessons he learned about masculinity and what women truly love.
The author shares four traits that have a magnetic pull on women: embracing one's shadow, facing one's dark masculine side, stepping into the magician's shoes, opening one's heart, and being wild at heart.
The author shares personal exercises and challenges to help readers connect with their emotions and overcome their fears.
The author shares his experiences with specific women who helped him learn these lessons.
The author emphasizes the importance of embracing one's shadow and connecting with emotions.

Traits women SECRETLY LOVE (From an EX-PLAYER)

When I look back at my life, at my relationships I am GRATEFUL for all the, albeit painful, lessons.

I’ve been with plenty of women for one night, and also a few for longterm (Sarah, Lea, Kathi, Marie, Telina & Sandra).

And each and every woman taught me something special about MYSELF, masculinity and what women truly LOVE.

Here are, from my personal experience with women myself and the stories I observed working as a Bartender, in Finance in London and well, as a former player, the traits that have a magnetic pull on women.

And these aren’t the ones you usually read. They go DEEP.

Embrace Your Shadow

Before I share with you the 4 qualities, there’s one overarching theme I want you to walk away with. Embrace your sh1t bro. Sarah was the mirror that first showed me my insecurities. I was petrified of not being enough, which literally let me to build a shield around her. My auto-immune disease (Psoriasis) was spreading like wildfire until almost 60% of my skin was covered in it. (It was actually triggered by my childhood trauma but that’s another story.) Look man, as Carl Jung said, “Everyone carries a shadow, and the less it is embodied in the individual’s conscious life, the blacker and denser it is. If an inferiority is conscious, one always has a chance to correct it”.

So, read the next few lines with curiosity and an open mind.

Face your Dark masculine side

Women are drawn to men who connect to their wild side.

It’s important to discover who you really are. It’s like going on an adventure to find the bravest and best part of yourself.

Exercise:

Create a personal vision board with your deepest desires.

Personal Exercise: Write down your fears. Face them. Understand that embracing your darker side doesn’t mean giving in to it, but acknowledging it as a part of your whole self.

Step Into the Magician’s Shoes

Kathi, who was deeply into spirituality and had more crystals than shoes, showed me the magic of true connection. I learned that my fear of rejection was not about her. It held me back from genuine interactions. She showed me how intimacy is about more than just p3nis and vag1na. It’s about breath, eyes and CONNECTION. But to experience that, you gotta overcome your awkwardness around being afraid of getting judged.

Daily Challenge: Talk to someone new every day. It could be as simple as asking for the time or directions. This isn’t about finding a date but about conquering the fear of the initial ‘hello.’

Open Your Heart

Don’t be afraid to connect to your emotions bro. Integrate don’t reject them. To build a DEEPER connection with women you gotta speak their language which is “Emotions”. No connection means no intimacy and you’ll just be another stranger.

Exercise:

What do you feel on a day to day basis bro?

When was the last time you SAT with your feelings?

Wild at Heart

Sandra, my litte Bambi as I call her. We’ve been through lots of ups and downs and she showed me the beauty of being unapologetically myself, connected to nature, and free from societal expectations. We are both weirdos, completely disconnected from society’s expectations. We are both deeply connected to our inner child, you see us dancing in public, you see as running around like little children…Why? Because why the fck not? And we bring that wild concept into the bedroom and go DEEP ;)

Love and Peace,