Tough Critics

Summary

The author reflects on the human tendency to be self-critical, despite recognizing and celebrating others' achievements, as evidenced by their own reaction to being named one of Medium's top 1000 writers.

Abstract

The article "Tough Critics" delves into the theme of self-doubt and internal criticism, contrasting it with the ease of acknowledging and valuing others' successes. The author shares a personal experience where they immediately believed in their friend's writing accolade but questioned their own. Despite being recognized for their outstanding writing and engagement on Medium, the author initially doubted the legitimacy of the award, highlighting the internal struggle many face with self-worth and recognition. The piece underscores the importance of self-love and the ongoing journey of self-acceptance, encouraging writers to celebrate their own achievements just as they would for others.

Opinions

The author expresses that people, including themselves, tend to be more skeptical and critical of their own achievements compared to those of others.
There is an acknowledgment of the irony in doubting one's own worthiness after receiving an award, especially after having just celebrated someone else's success.
The author believes that self-love is a continuous practice and that individuals should actively work to change the narrative of self-doubt and negativity.
The article suggests that society is "hard-wired for negativity, fear, and self-doubt," but it also asserts that individuals have the power to alter this mindset.
A sense of community and mutual support among writers is valued by the author, who is proud to be part of a group that writes publicly and embraces vulnerability.
The author emphasizes the importance of not only affirming others but also celebrating and elevating oneself.

We are our own worst enemies

Why do we do that Hold others to high regard But doubt our own selves?

Just this morning a friend texted to let me know she had been selected and recognized as one of Medium’s top 1000 writers for outstanding writing and engagement, impacting the most readers this month, and earning her a writing bonus.

“OMG!!!! Amazing!!!!” I responded. I was so happy for her and so proud of her, for her writing is exquisite and she deeply deserves it.

A moment later, I got the same email from Medium. My reaction a bit different this time: “Wait, I just got it too. I’ll believe it when I see it,” I added.

It wasn’t until later in the day that this gnawing discomfort set in.

Why was I so trusting and affirming in this recognition for my friend, but suspecting of its validity when it included me?

I doubted it so much in fact that I emailed Medium support to verify it, suspecting that perhaps it was a scam. Medium support quickly responded with “it’s real, thank you for writing on Medium!”

It was real; I was somehow selected as one of the 1000 writers recognized and incentivized for outstanding writing and engagement this month, and yet I still felt confused and perhaps undeserving. Why me, I thought? There are so many stronger writers here than me! The irony wasn’t lost on me that just earlier that morning, I had posted this poem on the heartbreak that was the catalyst for my writing and celebrated both my writing and my courage to do so. And there I was doubting myself just an hour later. Thanks, universe!

The bottom line is that we are our own worst critics, by design. We are hard-wired for negativity, fear, and self-doubt, but we can change the narrative.

Self-love is a never-ending process, a practice to be cultivated on our ongoing journey of becoming. So get out there and practice; affirm not just those around you, but celebrate and elevate yourself too.

Congratulations to all of us who received the Top 1000 recognition this month, but more importantly — kudos to all of us who write publically and dare to be known. I am proud to be part of this community.

POETRY / HAIKU

Tough Critics

We are our own worst enemies