To My Ex-Best Friend

Summary

The author reflects on the end of a meaningful friendship that began in university housing and was characterized by shared interests and mutual support during difficult times, despite the eventual drifting apart due to personal circumstances and regrets about not reconciling.

Abstract

The text is a personal letter addressed to an ex-best friend, expressing gratitude for their bond formed during university days in less-than-ideal living conditions. The author cherishes the memories of their shared preferences for quieter social settings over the party scene. The friendship deteriorated partly due to the author's disapproval of the ex-friend's boyfriend and the growing emotional distance that followed. Despite the eventual split, the author acknowledges the ex-friend's support during a time of personal grief and questions whether they could have been more supportive of the ex-friend's relationship, suggesting an element of self-blame for the friendship's dissolution.

Opinions

The author values the friendship and the support provided during a tough period.
There is a sense of loss and sadness over the friendship's end.
The author expresses regret for not trying harder to maintain the friendship.
There is an acknowledgment of possible fault in not supporting the ex-friend's romantic relationship.
The author seems to harbor guilt, indicated by the apology for possibly being a bad friend.

Our friendship is over

Dear Ex-best friend,

I’m grateful we found each other, living on the same floor of that shockingly rundown university student accommodation. We quickly became great friends, finding kindred spirits amidst annoyingly loud and boozed eighteen year olds. I was overjoyed to find we shared a liking for nice restaurants and cosy cafes over binge-drinking and disgusting slimy clubs.

I’m sad we drifted apart but truthfully your then boyfriend was horrible to you. And though you eventually broke up, too much distance already existed between us.

I still regret not making more of an effort to reconnect.

Regardless, thank you for your kindness during the most heartbreaking time in my life. You supported me through my grief, and I am eternally grateful.

Perhaps I should’ve supported your relationship in a similar way? Maybe I’m the bad friend? I’m sorry.