To feel a victim you have to disconnect from your spirit.

Why your spirit cannot comprehend victimhood.

Right and wrong is a human construct. It is a self-created illusion bestowed with meaning used to communicate. Despite being a manufactured idea, it is not wrong to believe that some things are wrong — it is a legitimate choice. It is not wrong to judge judgment, even if that is to be a state of judgment. It is a reality-shaping free choice as to whether or not you believe in the idea of right and wrong. It is reality-shaping because to call ‘things’ wrong is to live in a reality where your choices are either right or wrong.

To believe in right and wrong is to live in a reality where your choices regularly feel like tests.

In the final two articles in this series, I would like to look at what navigating your choices can look and feel like when you don’t approach them like a test but as something to have fun with … something to express yourself through from an empowered standpoint. This is to act from the knowing that you are a creator (and not God’s subject) by meeting reality through the knowing that it is your choice/creation. This requires the release of victimhood (our subject today). It is to meet life through:

“I am choosing this,” instead of “Why is this happening to me?”

That said, to know you are choosing/creating your own reality is not necessarily to know why you are choosing it. This is a part of what makes this reality so enticing. Your reality is a translation of your will/intention. In incarnating here, we not only forget the wider reality we come from, but we also forget why we came / our intention. We do not come to the human experience with a mission, but we do have an intention to explore certain qualities/aspects of being human.

From the knowing that ’you are choosing your experience’ and ’your personal reality is a reflection of your intention’ births the transformative experience of meeting reality through the question:

“Why am I choosing this?”

It is an excellent question because of how it is asked with such a deep knowing/assumption that it is your choice. In this state of mind, reality is a puzzle. It is a game. It is a gradual reveal. It is a tease. It is an invitation. Can you solve it? Can you work it out? Can you crack the case? Why are you here creating what you are creating? What on Earth are you doing?

The beauty of the answer to “Why am I choosing this?” is that it creates meaning, and the more you ponder that meaning and ask questions about it, the more it will unfold and reveal itself. This revealing question cannot be answered in a sentence or two. It is an onion with many layers that must be gradually peeled back (unfolded).

You will know when you’ve got the answer you’re looking for (and you can stop peeling) when you no longer want to change that answer. When the meaning you discover slows in its transformation, and you can meet/embrace it, you will be in a new level of communication with your spirit.

• To know your spirit is to be your spirit.
• To know your spirit’s intention is to be your spirit’s intention.
• To be your spirit’s intention is to be the will of your spirit in human form.

In this state, you will be able to see the value of all the painful experiences in your life. You will see how your most challenging experiences changed your course, shaped your experience, and molded your personality in ways you would never want to undo (despite how challenging/painful the event was). This is to look at the traumas of your life and see how they changed you in ways that you now value.

Inside of every event is change. Some events are painful to unpack, but we choose to unpack them because we want the change they bring.

We are not, however, just talking about going back through your personal history from an empowered perspective. We are talking about meeting present trauma by knowing you are creating it (through the knowing that you are not a victim).

It is easier to see that we are not victims of events in our past because we usually have most of the pieces of the jigsaw and the benefit of hindsight. With a current traumatic event, you do not have all the pieces. The only way to achieve this kind of trust in your own knowing is through clearing enough of your emotion wounding for you to see the pattern. When we learn the pattern of something, then we can recognize it in its early stages and trust we know how it will continue to unfold.

Sometimes you cannot fully see how an event has changed you until you complete the journey of being changed by it.

Can you imagine facing a traumatic event through the idea that, as bad as it feels, you know that one day, you will look back and be grateful for how it changed you?

Letting go of the idea that you are a victim can feel strange because it feels like you are being asked to no longer ever see other people as victims (which is difficult when there are people in pain saying they are victims and need help). Letting go of the idea that you are a victim has nothing to do with being less compassionate. The core idea is that we are all one consciousness, which makes your pain my pain.

Victimhood has to be addressed during the spiritual awakening process because you cannot know yourself as your spirit as long as you identify yourself as being a victim.

I am not on any mission to tell the world that no one is a victim. That wouldn’t be welcome or helpful (plus, it is only true from an atypically wide perspective). I only want to tell people who want to spiritually awaken that they will first need to address any identification they have with victimhood because it is an entirely human notion that interferes with spiritual connection. Being a victim is an entirely real experience. It is as real and impactful as being devoutly religious. It is real because it has a clear presence in this experiential world/reality.

Not only is having compassion for others the natural response to seeing them clearly. But I encourage you to have compassion for the challenging experiences your younger self endured. Seeing through the illusion of victimhood does not magically erase the experience/wounds of victimhood. It does create an almost magical shift of perception, but emotional baggage encoded in your body through the trauma of that victimhood must still be dealt with.

There is a reason it is natural to feel compassion for victims. Having compassion for victims and seeking for there to be fewer victims is not antithetical. Make less victims by empowering people, not by telling them that victimhood is an illusion.

Feel compassion for yourself for all you have been through (even though you chose to experience it).

You cannot communicate in this world without the concepts of victims and oppressors. The meaning of these terms has validity/reality. However, we can remove the charge with which we view them. We can reduce the level of good — bad and right — wrong that we apply to them. We can seek to understand the perspective of the side we do not agree with. We can seek to understand how the intention of one side interacts with the intention of the other side.

There is nothing wrong with living in a world where there is a clear sense of who is a victim and who is an oppressor and for there to be a world challenge to eliminate all the oppressors. That sounds exciting to me on many levels. It sounds like the ‘imaginary’ concept of a ‘real’ computer game I might play. Similarly, all the people taking part in that human idea in this ‘real’ world found the idea of it exciting.

• We are here to have an experience, and sometimes that experience is brutal, and sometimes it is magical.
• This world tells us how infinite consciousness can be brutal with itself.
• This world tells us how magical a reality can be.
• We are that which chooses to span the magical to the brutal.

Your spirit never sees you as a victim. Your spirit does not see victims. So, if you want to explore the idea of releasing victimhood instead of getting caught in all the polarized emotional charges in the world, start with looking at yourself. This is not about other people. This topic is all about you … just about you.

YOU are not a victim.

You realizing you are not a victim doesn’t stop other people from choosing to experience themselves as a victim. So look at this just in yourself and ask, “Are there times in my life when I have been a victim?” and address only those situations as evidence that victimhood is an illusion.

See if you can come to a point where you can stand and look at the whole of your past and say, “I have never been a victim. I can now see how I have always been choosing my experiences of victimhood.” Why? Because that is how your spirit views your past, and if you want to connect with your spirit, you must step into its shoes (which includes its way of perceiving).

Connecting with your spirit is integrating your spirit. To integrate your spirit, you must integrate its vantage point.

Your spirit does not know duality in the way that you do. It just sees victims and oppressors as two sides of the same coin. It sees them as being in a dance together. This is because your spirit never looks at the two sides of the coin as separate. It sees every coin of duality as spinning. Imagine a coin spinning on a table … around and around … forming a sphere / a wholeness.

Your spirit sees through time, and by seeing through time, it knows that for a life predominantly defined by experiences of victimhood, there are other lives for that same being that are defined by being an oppressor. So, it does not matter what the duality is. From the view of your spirit, it may see a person is deep within an experience of victimhood, but it also sees the times when they were the oppressor. This is the wholeness of perception / undivided perception through which it sees the dance of consciousness.

Your spirit cannot say, “You are one or the other,” because life is never about being one or the other. We ALWAYS explore both.

Spirit looks at the whole and says, “You are both. You are cruel, and you are kind. You are spiritual, and you are unspiritual. You are hateful, and you are loving. You are male and female.” These things are all within you. You have experienced them all. You came to this life to experience the complete palette. And, no matter where you are in this moment in your life, across all your lives, you have been all things.

• We have all played at being both victims and abusers.
• To condemn abusers is to condemn ourselves.
• To help both victims and abusers see the cycle of abuse they are engaged in is to help ourselves.

This is the understanding of ‘the all and the nothing.’ You are neither a victim nor an oppressor. Or, you are both a victim and an oppressor. The all and the nothing. This is how spirit sees all things. It cannot divide you up. It cannot see anyone as one side of a coin. It sees in wholeness. It sees across time. It sees across lives.

You, too, have the ability to perceive wholeness because you can bring your spirit into your body, into your heart, and into your choices.

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