Summary

The article presents three life lessons about embracing trade-offs, the importance of forgiveness without forgetting, and the synergy of the laws of G.O.Y.A. (Get Off Your Arse) and attraction for personal growth.

Abstract

The author of the article shares three personal insights that have shaped their life perspective. The first truth emphasizes that life is full of trade-offs, where one must choose between different paths or desires, such as the pursuit of a dream versus the acceptance of a more secure but less passionate route. The second truth discusses the significance of forgiveness in healing from past grievances, while also cautioning against forgetting these experiences, as they can serve as powerful reminders and learning tools. The final section introduces two 'laws': the law of G.O.Y.A., which stresses the importance of taking action, and the law of attraction, which suggests that positive thinking and emotionalizing beliefs can attract desired outcomes. The author reflects on their journey of applying these principles and encourages readers to consider what beliefs they must adopt to achieve their own goals.

Opinions

The author believes that being 'interested' in a goal is not enough; one must be 'committed' and willing to endure the associated struggles, as exemplified by Charles Bukowski's long journey to success.
Forgiveness is presented as a means to release oneself from the burden of past wrongs, while remembering these events is seen as a way to maintain personal power and avoid repeating history.
The article suggests that the mind can be reprogrammed through consistent affirmations and visualizations, which align with the law of attraction, and that taking action (following the law of G.O.Y.A.) is crucial for making progress towards one's goals.
The author aspires to emulate successful writers like Tim Denning, Nicolas Cole, and Ayodeji Awosika by actively writing and improving their craft, demonstrating their commitment to the principles they advocate.

Three Truths to Liven Up Your Thursday.

A four-minute read.

Truths can’t be changed but, they go unnoticed. For example, you can’t hum while holding your breath, it’s the truth, but we’ve never noticed that. Everyone needs to get hit with some truth bombs, so here are three truth bombs that I’ve learned from my life.

Life is a bunch of Trade-Offs.

Let me ask you a question:

Are you interested in or committed to your goal?

You and I have goals and dreams that we didn’t accomplish.

For example, I wanted to start a band, like Kurt Cobain, singing in front of the packed crowds of Wembley, never happened, and here’s why.

I was in love with the idea of being the frontman of a famous band, not the struggle. The risk of being a bummed out musician living in van playing gigs at shady nightclubs didn’t appeal to me. The hours of practice never interested me it wasn’t my shit sandwich to eat.

I traded it in for a cricket bat and a laptop. Out of that laptop, I realized that I like writing, I love cricket, and the stock market is something I keep circling back to.

Life is a series of trade-offs, you don’t want to eat the salad, so you eat a burger, that trade-off means you trade your perfect summer body for some lush love handles.

Let me ask you another question:

What are you willing to struggle for?

If you’re willing to struggle for your goals, you’ll achieve them. Charles Bukowski became famous in his mid-fifties, but he had been writing since his teens, and he worked as a postman for thirty years before making it as a writer. He was happy in the struggle of becoming, and he left with the words don’t try.

The worst mistake you could make in achieving your goals and still feeling empty. You may have climbed your success mountain but, did you teach yourself to be happy along the way?

Forgive but Don’t Forget.

I’ve been a bully. I remember bullying others because I had never forgiven the guy who bullied me, and someone smaller than me was a target I could vent my unaddressed emotions on looking back, this was destructive.

Bullying was wrong. When you don’t forgive someone, you’re taking a spoonful of poison and hoping the other person will die.

One day, I confronted my bully, and I asked him why. Why was he such a dick? We were on the verge of fighting, but I broke through to him he never had a dad, I did, and he was jealous of that. Suddenly, he wasn’t a dick. He was a lost boy looking for his father.

What about your bully? The person who treated you wrongly? Have you forgiven them? From my experience, forgiving someone is like getting rid of the hand that chokes you. You start to breathe, and the world becomes better.

Another realization I’ve had is that bullies don’t know better. Bullying others was his protocol, and it was my protocol as well. I won’t forget him. Do not forgive and forget. Forgive, but please don’t forget.

When you remember, you’re powerful, and memory is an underrated power tool. Every bad experience and every good experience could be leveraged, and if I’ve learned something, always give yourself the upper hand.

The Two Laws.

You’ve heard of the law of attraction, but you may not have heard of the law of G.O.Y.A. No G.O.Y.A isn’t a mantra that will unlock your third eye, and give you cosmic powers, It is the law of getting off your arse. Get it? G.O.Y.A.

There’s a lot of power in doing,

I’m making progress, and two years down the line, you’ll see me in the same league as Tim Denning, Nicolas Cole, and Ayodeji Awosika. Why? I’m writing and getting better at it.

Secondly, we have the law of attraction. Its scientific beliefs are nothing but a group of cells that have been connected and then reinforced. If you listen to empowering beliefs and emotionalize them, you will get what you want.

I’ve started listening to affirmations for ten days now, and it’s like I can’t lose, funny coincidences keep happening, and it works. The first three days, my mind was telling me that this is shit, and it was not accepting my affirmations, but it’s learning to accept these beliefs.

The mind is malleable. When your brain tells you that you’re a piece of shit, understand that it’s trying to protect the old beliefs that you’ve been functioning on, and you can’t let that happen.

The key here is to emotionalize. When you feel good, dopamine gets released, and our brain recognizes that affirmation or visualization is good, and it craves more. The law of attraction is sent into hyperdrive.

These are three truth bombs that I have learned and wanted to share with you, and before I go, I want to leave you with a question:

“What would you have to believe to achieve your goals?”