Three Non-obvious Signs That You Are True Toxic Person

Learn from my old bad habits and behaviors.

Being toxic is like the joke about the guy going the wrong way on the freeway, turning on the radio, and, upon hearing “Information alert! mad driver driving in the opposite direction along Highway 33,” he says, “One? There are hundreds.”

I know firsthand.

When I was more toxic than making biscuits with hemlock, I thought others were the problem and not me.

It’s tough to realize that you are the toxic one because part of being toxic is thinking that others are your enemies and have something against you.

That’s why every time I detect these three signs in myself, I turn my car in the right direction on the highway of life so I don’t become the crazy driver of the joke again.

1. Be on the glass-half-empty team

There are only two types of people in the world, and I don’t mean those who get out of the shower to pee and those who don’t, but those who see the glass as half complete and those who see it as half empty.

(Although the latter will always pretend to be offended by saying they don’t see the glass as half-empty, they are realists).

What is real? What you think is real.

And if for you is always more accurate, the bad than the good, you may be turning to the dark side of the force, my young Jedi master.

And you don’t want to be Darth Vader.

So heed Yoda and ask yourself, “Do I look more at Yin or Yang?”

Note: In Chinese philosophy, Yin and Yang are two opposing forces that form a whole. Yang is the positive and is represented by the color white. Yin is the negative, which is defined by the color black.

The curious thing is that in the famous logo of the sphere, the Yang part has a point of Yin, and the Yin part has a point of Yang.

And this means that everything good has some bad in it, and everything terrible has some good.

When I was more toxic than a Christmas dinner with conflicting family members, I was the guy who only saw the Yin (the bad) in everything good.

My life improved when I focused on seeing the Yang (the positive) in even the worst moments.

2. Your level of mercy is 0%.

Not having mercy makes you reject the faults of others.

Mercy comes from the Latin misere (misery, need), cor, cordis (heart), and ia (towards others); it means to have a heart of solidarity with those in need.

And when you don’t have mercy at a minimum, you become more toxic than a salad dressed with bleach.

Everyone makes you uncomfortable. And that makes you self-exclude.

You don’t look for natural relationships but dietary ones: sugar-free kisses and low-calorie hugs so that your heart doesn’t get too wide and you can remain cold and distant.

You walk down the street and look at people with contempt as if they were to blame for their situation for walking slowly and not behaving as you think people should act to benefit you.

That selfishness is a blindfold, and you end up tripping and falling to the ground. One day, you will be the one who needs help, and since you have thrown everyone out of your life, there will be no one to give you a hand.

I know. It has happened to me.

But it is an easy solution: to understand the benefits of cultivating the glasses of mercy.

When you can see the reality of others and have compassion, you can spot personal and market opportunities.

Having mercy helps you make friends as well as customers.

People need help. And if you can offer it to them at a reasonable price, your life will change forever.

And about personal relationships, there is nothing more magnetic than mercy because it is a way of looking at the other, accepting and approving their faults.

An attitude that causes others to melt like butter on warm bread in your presence.

Only for writers: You can’t write well if you don’t feel mercy for others and the world around you. Because people don’t want papier-mâché stories, they want a look, a unique voice that makes them see this world, sometimes so cruel and senseless, as something worthwhile. Readers are not looking for a writer; they are looking for someone who makes them feel accompanied.

3. Begging for attention in front of closed doors

When the universe closes a door on you, it does so for a good reason.

I discovered this in the worst possible way because when I was more toxic than a black Mamba bite, I didn’t understand it.

The universe was closing the door on me

• My partner left me.
• I lost a job.
• A friend withdrew his greeting.

And instead of getting the message, I would turn into a wrecking ball and try to break down the door.

And the problem is not that the door remains closed after pounding on it with excuses, tantrums, and passive-aggressive pleas.

The problem is that sometimes it opens, and you lose years of your life.

Things should be closed when they are over. If you become obsessed with saving a relationship, a job, or a friendship, you are only delaying the inevitable and accumulating resentment on both sides. Which besides causing you heartburn ;-) It ends up making you more toxic than a yellow scorpion.

My unsolicited advice today is to refrain from accumulating food leftovers at the bottom of your fridge because they rot and corrupt everything.

In other words, let go of the one who doesn’t want to stay, and even if it hurts, you will notice the difference in your life.

A virtual hug

AG

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