Three Books that Made Me Rethink My Life
Self-help books lead the way
I don’t think there was ever a time I wasn’t crazy about books. They have been my shelter throughout life, my haven, comforting me when I had no else to turn to. An escape from reality.
As far as I remember, reading was a habit I picked up in kindergarten and I have been hooked ever since. Though, I must say over the years my reading preferences have changed . I have had obsessive phases for certain genres that circled around fiction, poetry, memoirs, romance, and thrillers, eventually advancing towards self-help books.
Before being exposed to self-help books I read books merely for the sake of entertainment, an escape, a way to ease the days. But with self-help books, I am ready to devour each word, craving for some more, as I force myself to read until my eyes burn.
Self-help books, for me at least, were the game-changer. These books shaped me into a better person. They opened my mind to see things differently, consider different perspectives, look at things I have been doing wrong all my life, and have flipped some firm beliefs of mine upside-down. But even among self-help books, some stand out and have had me second-guessing my life for days. Other genres that I enjoy reading and have learnt a lot from are auto-biographies, semi-autobiographies, and memoirs. I would like to share the books that changed my life for the better, or worse. After much reluctance and resistance, of course, I narrowed my list down to three books:
- Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl
During the first lockdown back in the beginning of 2020, I stumbled upon this book ‘Man’s Search for Meaning’, and I thank my lucky stars for that.
This book yanked me from a depressive episode that was taking form with the onset of the pandemic. It reassured me that we have a chance to survive, to truly live despite the situation we are stuck in.
At some point in our lives, we all have had the thought of ‘what are we even doing here?’ ‘what’s even the purpose of all of this?’ and the like.
This book helped me figure out that there isn’t just a purpose, you need to find one to survive.
“Those who have a ‘why to live, can bear with almost any ‘how’.” ― Viktor E. Frankl
The book centers on the author’s experience and observations in the concentration camp, during the holocaust, from the perspective of a psychologist and a survivor.
As Victor provides details about his suffering, and about those around him, you realize all you need is hope.
This mind-opening book will make you feel like living instead of merely existing.
- The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg
Coming across this book was no accident, this book had been lying on my to-read list for quite a while.
Finally, I squeezed out some time to read it, and boy was it a read?
The Power of Habits, as the title itself, reveals, how significant is the role habits play in our lives. What you do each day, makes you into who you are, or what you will become.
The book presents the nuts bolts of a habit, how to make one, and change one.
“Change might not be fast and it isn’t always easy. But with time and effort, almost any habit can be reshaped.” ― Charles Duhigg
Little acts of undiscipline go a long way, you can waste away your life once you make a habit of drinking, however, you can get great things done once you build a good habit, like the diet you always wanted to go on but never could.
This book made me rethink the way I spent each day, how I reacted, worked, and my relationships.
- Bird by Bird by Anne Lamott
After graduating from high school, for some reason, the idea of writing a book intrigued me. So, I searched for the best books to read to write a book and guess what I found.
Bird by Bird, one of the first self-help books that I have read, opened the world of unlimited possibilities for me. The author emphasizes the fact that everyone around us is a walking-talking story, a story you can learn from, get inspired from, and write about.
It divulges how self-doubt can be a writer’s or a person’s worst foe.
Though this book is intended for writers, anyone can learn a great deal from it. Lamott emphasizes being you, on finding your voice instead of imitating a famous personality, having the time of your life, rather than sulking around a corner and being a decent human being.
“You own everything that happened to you. Tell your stories. If people wanted you to write warmly about them, they should have behaved better.” ― Anne Lamott
