This Specific Date Idea Can Determine the Shallowness of a Woman
But men must be willing to plan this specific date.
I remember the first day I met my ex in person. He came to visit me in college for two weeks. I didn’t know that on the first day, he had this specific date idea in mind.
We walked to the park. He brought a backpack filled with items he needed to create a memorable experience for me. We arrived at the park, and he took out a bandana and asked me to tie it around my head to cover my eyes.
You may be thinking, in the words of Whoopi Goldberg from Ghost,
“Teri, you in danger, girl.”
But I trusted him — probably too much throughout the relationship. Okay. I trusted him too much, and that’s why I had my heart broken. Are you happy!?
But what worried me was not that I couldn’t see but couldn’t hear, either. All I could do was stick my tongue out to see which direction the wind was blowing and hope he didn’t come and cut it off with a machete.
Okay! I was naive as hell! But you have been a fool in love before, haven’t you?
He had put headphones on me, with one of my favorite songs at the time playing on the highest volume. I would tell you the song, but I hate the song now. Like, seriously. I haven’t heard the song since I broke up with my ex. He ruined the song for me — and sometimes I wonder if I allowed him to ruin my 20s.
But I digress.
But I went from having five senses to having three for about two hours. All that kept going through my mind was that I was being pranked — after sitting for the first hour. Then by the time the second hour ended, I felt like I had invested too much time to be afraid of what I may see when the blindfold was pulled off.
Basically, I was a sitting duck for someone to kill me, or there was a positive reason to go through two hours of one song on repeat with no clue of what was happening around me. I decided to be optimistic and go with the latter thought. Again, I know how dumb I was back then. You don’t have to rub it in.
So, my ex walked over to me, touched me on my shoulder, and almost got backhanded. You have to remember, I couldn’t see or hear, so my touch sense was more intense.
He took off the headphones, then the blindfold, and then I had to turn around to see what he had done.
Before I could turn, I noticed that his backpack was empty. So, whatever this dude had done, he had put every single item into it.
I was in the park with a guy I had known for a year who used bean and cheese burritos, apple soda, a lighter, and over one hundred candles to tell me he loved me.
No. Seriously.
He used over one hundred white miniature candles to spell out I love you. I was more surprised that he didn’t set the park on fire, but he had set up a picnic with some of my favorite junk food, and the candles stayed lit while we ate, laughed, and talked.
That was the day that I fell in love with him. And no. I didn’t fall in love with him because he spelled out the three special words. I didn’t even fall in love with him because he spelled them correctly. This wasn’t the first time he stated that he loved me — but I had never said it back to him because I didn’t love him — at least not yet.
But the point I am trying to make is that most women just want a few things in a healthy relationship, and two things that I personally find extremely attractive are effort and creativity. But there are also the women who want men to jump through fire hoops and be the ringmaster of a circus that may be too expensive for most to afford.
But the date idea I want you to pull from my personal experience is to go on a picnic — but do one thing that may be outside the box that is not expensive or flashy but will bring out a fun, laidback vibe.
Some women are used to five-star restaurants or over-the-top gifts on the first date, but men, you know how to tell if a woman really likes you and not just into you because of what they think they can get from you?
Do something cheap and creative that is thoughtful. I know many people who meet someone today, and then they go on their first date the same night. But this date idea should be one of the dates within the beginning of getting to know the woman because a few of the things it may show you are:
- Can you enjoy each other in a simple setting?
- Does she value your time — or your money?
- Do the simple things matter?
- And anything else that you may question about the intention of the woman
I feel like men are more motivated to do extraordinary things for women who aren’t expecting dates that can put them in the poorhouse. No. I am not implying that men should not do fancy dinner dates, but why not build up to some experiences over time?
I mean, I do believe this is why some women play some men like fiddles because the women who want to brag about going out to dinner with a rich guy, an established guy, or the good guy that may actually spend his last for a date, may just be sticking around because they are getting an expensive dinner or gift out of the situation.
Let’s be honest, women can have bad intentions too, and good guys are still out there — even if some women aren’t prioritizing them.
But there are actually women who will cherish a man who simply puts effort into dating. But the keyword is effort. But I think many men have given up on the idea of traditionally dating a woman because of a few rotten apples in the bunch who set an impossible standard for most men. Because even if a man has a lot of money or is financially secure, there is more to men than just what’s in their pockets.
— Teri Nickels
What are your thoughts?
