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This One Toxic Habit I Got Rid Of Led To Extreme Peace Of Mind

The moment I realized what was pulling me down.

I was terrified of being hated from a very young age. I was terrified that someone, for some strange reason, disliked me and thought of me as a nasty person.

Toxic tendencies I continued into my twenties included a need to please others and a general obsession with being kind and warm.

Aside from that, I was under the impression that “those who are despised are evil people”

In a twist of fate, you’re slapped in the face with what you fear the most. If you want to grow spiritually as a person and test your own views, you must face your innermost fears and emerge a stronger person.

I’ve spent the majority of my life trying to please everyone but myself. I had no idea at the time that this was the exact formula for attaining the opposite consequence and leading down the path of self-destructiveness.

However, despite the fact that the majority of my friends and family considered me to be a peaceful individual who always put others first, there was always that one person who would twist the facts and blame me for their problems, dubbing me as the ‘villain’.

One of the most important lessons I learned last year was to accept the possibility that I might be the villain in someone else’s story.

It may not be right from a neutral perspective, but to them it is and they will continue to see it that way because it fits their preconceptions and feeds their cycle of drama and self-induced unhappiness.

Despite your best efforts, you will never be able to please everyone, no matter how lovely and compassionate you are. There may be someone who refuses to see the good in you and instead focuses on your flaws in order to build a case and plot for themselves. That’s fine, too!

One of the most difficult things to grasp is that you cannot change how others perceive you and that you are not responsible or held responsible for it.

It is our attitude, experience, and mood that affect our perception of others and the world around us. It’s important to remember that you have complete power over how you treat others, but you cannot control how others interpret you.

Do not let the opinions of others influence your own self-image.

Keep your head high and know that you have no control over the part that fate has assigned you in someone else’s story. Don’t let anyone down, especially those who matter most to you.

Everything else is insignificant.