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oathing people (I know, you wouldn't think it). And how do they easily drown out their inner critic? Surround themselves with people who’ll endlessly bend and fold to their demands, singing their praises like a songbird on ecstasy.Their very survival is reliant on validation, admiration, reassurance, and power. Whatever supports their falsified identity.That’s why they need control over you. To squash your thoughts, feelings, emotions and needs so you can focus on them. To give 100% of your energy to feed their insatiable ego.<h2 id="5025">To project their faults onto you while you eat it up</h2>Okay, we know they feel like worthless humans. Full of painful thoughts, feelings, and emotions that they find unacceptable.They need to get rid of these internal buggers quickly. What's the best way to do that?Project them onto someone else. You. Accuse you of these things. Offloading it from their consciousness and onto the nearest person. A quick and easy fix.For this to work, they need you to internalize it. Really feel the pain in your soul. That’s why they destroy your self-esteem and perception of reality.It’s a form of managing their emotional stability.<h2 id="80a1">To prevent narcissistic injuries</h2>Narcissists have spent years curating a wildly delusional self-perception to fend off their insecurities. And the image they’ve settled on is an omnipotent, God-like savior.Any inkling (from anyone) that isn’t aligned with their truth will be taken as a personal attack. Contradictions trigger painful thoughts. Ones that impede their self-importance and superiority.So, as a precautionary measure — they need to be in total control of their environment and everyone in it. That means making you believe you’re incapable and completely reliant on them so you’ll pander to their advice and superiority.It’s all just a fucked up preservation method.So, stand up for yourself.<h2 id="c437">Change your frame of mind</h2>Realize that these maladaptive personality types just don't think the same way as you do. Arguing with them is futile. It’s akin to two people watching completely different genres of movies, trying to talk about and critique the same one. Ridiculous, and never going to happen.Narcissists want you to fight your corner and go crazy trying to prove you’re right. They already know you’re bang on the mark — but want to see you

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squirm.So don’t feed into it.Adopt the J.A.D.E.technique.<ul><li>Don’t Justify</li><li>Don’t Argue</li><li>Don’t Defend</li><li>Don’t Explain</li></ul>Because why would you even need to defend your reality when what they’re pitching is so way off the mark? You’re dealing with someone who has extremely disordered and dysfunctional thinking — whose aim is to confuse and manipulate you.Engaging with them is unwinnable. The more you argue, the more they can gain insights to rewrite history and destabilize you. Don’t give them that ammo.<h2 id="1082">Practice emotional detachment</h2>Errant emotions and blow-ups are where narcissists thrive. Don’t play into it.If you get triggered and act up — they can gaslight you into ‘making them act a certain way’ (however shocking their reaction is). Give an inch, take a mile.And believe me, they’ll push every button possible to elicit an emotionally charged response from you. This will then be spun into an argument you need to be medicated or something.Practice keeping emotions separate from their words and actions. Because, ultimately, what they speak arent facts. No matter how convincing the delivery.Give. them. nothing. Be a grey rock.<h2 id="e910">Keep a journal</h2>Be a bookkeeper of all your interactions. Write them down while they’re still fresh — on the day. Then, if they get under your skin and try to convince you something ‘never happened,’ you have a reference.I used to record my narcissistic ex-boyfriend while he was abusing me. That way, if I turned the guilt on myself later down the line, I could listen to them and turn my sadness into rage.I wasn’t crazy. I was abused and punished. And when he was completely out of my life — I deleted them. No point reliving the hurt anymore. However, when his ex-employee asked if I wanted to take him to court, I had receipts.Thank you for reading. The conclusion is to love yourself, trust yourself, and don’t let no bitch tell you otherwise. And go no contact. There is NO NEED to be around someone so toxic and dangerous.But if you have to…<a href="https://nottodaysatan.beehiiv.com/">Sign up for my weekly newsletter, </a>where I unpack narcissist’s manipulation tactics. This’ll help you be on guard, preemptively prepare counter moves, and, better yet, sidestep them completely.</article></body>

This Is Your No. 1 Defense Against Narcissists

How to Make Yourself Unfuckwithable

Narcissists are the most soul-destroying, black hole machines allowed to walk on two feet. And they’re out for blood — carefully choosing targets who’ll be easily malleable and partake in their perverse reality.

Who’s the easy prey? Empathetic, traumatized individuals with a self-sacrificing nature and high tolerance for pain.

If that rings true, you’re on the hit list. Narcissists plot a maximum takedown of complete annihilation. On a hell-bent mission to destroy your sanity, confidence, self-worth, intuition, trust, and every relationship you hold dear.

Because nothing is off-limits when you’re devoid of a moral compass. And the end game is complete control. Harvested from a long strategy so insidious, often you won’t realize your sanity is slipping away.

But there’s an out. Here’s what you can do. And it’s a surefire way to fend off these social predators.

Be unshakably rooted in your reality. To a point where you have unwavering faith in your perception, identity, and beliefs. Nothing can sway you off course.

If you’re independent, strong-minded, highly confident, intelligent, and refuse to put someone else’s needs above your own — narcissists will back off. Too much work.

This steadfast belief in yourself will save you, bring you back to your senses, and give you the power to tell them to FUCK OFF.

Which will surprise them. Because they’ve relied on your good nature and belief that everyone operates like you do. They know your pure heart. This is where they do their best manipulative work.

But why do Narcissists want to change your version of reality?

Understanding the ‘why’ behind such vindictive behavior was galvanizing for my reality check and perception altering.

They need to feed their narcissistic supply

Deep down, narcissists are incredibly insecure, self-loathing people (I know, you wouldn't think it). And how do they easily drown out their inner critic? Surround themselves with people who’ll endlessly bend and fold to their demands, singing their praises like a songbird on ecstasy.

Their very survival is reliant on validation, admiration, reassurance, and power. Whatever supports their falsified identity.

That’s why they need control over you. To squash your thoughts, feelings, emotions and needs so you can focus on them. To give 100% of your energy to feed their insatiable ego.

To project their faults onto you while you eat it up

Okay, we know they feel like worthless humans. Full of painful thoughts, feelings, and emotions that they find unacceptable.

They need to get rid of these internal buggers quickly. What's the best way to do that?

Project them onto someone else. You. Accuse you of these things. Offloading it from their consciousness and onto the nearest person. A quick and easy fix.

For this to work, they need you to internalize it. Really feel the pain in your soul. That’s why they destroy your self-esteem and perception of reality.

It’s a form of managing their emotional stability.

To prevent narcissistic injuries

Narcissists have spent years curating a wildly delusional self-perception to fend off their insecurities. And the image they’ve settled on is an omnipotent, God-like savior.

Any inkling (from anyone) that isn’t aligned with their truth will be taken as a personal attack. Contradictions trigger painful thoughts. Ones that impede their self-importance and superiority.

So, as a precautionary measure — they need to be in total control of their environment and everyone in it. That means making you believe you’re incapable and completely reliant on them so you’ll pander to their advice and superiority.

It’s all just a fucked up preservation method.

So, stand up for yourself.

Change your frame of mind

Realize that these maladaptive personality types just don't think the same way as you do. Arguing with them is futile. It’s akin to two people watching completely different genres of movies, trying to talk about and critique the same one. Ridiculous, and never going to happen.

Narcissists want you to fight your corner and go crazy trying to prove you’re right. They already know you’re bang on the mark — but want to see you squirm.

So don’t feed into it.

Adopt the J.A.D.E.technique.

Don’t Justify
Don’t Argue
Don’t Defend
Don’t Explain

Because why would you even need to defend your reality when what they’re pitching is so way off the mark? You’re dealing with someone who has extremely disordered and dysfunctional thinking — whose aim is to confuse and manipulate you.

Engaging with them is unwinnable. The more you argue, the more they can gain insights to rewrite history and destabilize you. Don’t give them that ammo.

Practice emotional detachment

Errant emotions and blow-ups are where narcissists thrive. Don’t play into it.

If you get triggered and act up — they can gaslight you into ‘making them act a certain way’ (however shocking their reaction is). Give an inch, take a mile.

And believe me, they’ll push every button possible to elicit an emotionally charged response from you. This will then be spun into an argument you need to be medicated or something.

Practice keeping emotions separate from their words and actions. Because, ultimately, what they speak arent facts. No matter how convincing the delivery.

Give. them. nothing. Be a grey rock.

Keep a journal

Be a bookkeeper of all your interactions. Write them down while they’re still fresh — on the day. Then, if they get under your skin and try to convince you something ‘never happened,’ you have a reference.

I used to record my narcissistic ex-boyfriend while he was abusing me. That way, if I turned the guilt on myself later down the line, I could listen to them and turn my sadness into rage.

I wasn’t crazy. I was abused and punished. And when he was completely out of my life — I deleted them. No point reliving the hurt anymore. However, when his ex-employee asked if I wanted to take him to court, I had receipts.

Thank you for reading. The conclusion is to love yourself, trust yourself, and don’t let no bitch tell you otherwise. And go no contact. There is NO NEED to be around someone so toxic and dangerous.

But if you have to…

Sign up for my weekly newsletter, where I unpack narcissist’s manipulation tactics. This’ll help you be on guard, preemptively prepare counter moves, and, better yet, sidestep them completely.