This Is How You Make People Instantly Like You
And how to adapt this habit
We all want to be liked by other people, right?
I mean who likes to make enemies, not me. And I believe neither of you guys.
In today’s fast-paced world it’s important to connect with people to succeed. You need a good network of people who can help you in your career. So naturally, you want people to like you so that they can help you when needed.
However, we have lost the art of making a good connection with people. We are busy with ourselves, our success that we are neglecting everyone around us. Then we hope that people will help us when needed.
That’s why it’s important to surround yourself with people who like you, appreciate you, and are genuinely interested in you.
Author Dale Carnegie talks about this topic in his book — How to Win Friends and Influence People. I am reading the book currently and thought of sharing some things I have learned.
As Dale described, if you want to make other people like you:
“Make them feel important and do it sincerely”
There are different ways to make people feel important, I am sharing some of them:
Show genuine appreciation
Of course, I am talking about the flattery here. But you can show genuine appreciation. For example, you can say
“I wish I had hair like you”
“I like your dress. Where did you get it?”
Appreciate the things the other person cares about.
Show willingness to spend time with people
Whenever I am at work and somebody asks me to have lunch together, I feel special and touched by that person. They make me feel important.
Take out time from your schedule to hang out with people who matter most to you. It shows that you like them and their company.
Give your full attention
When you are with someone, make sure you don’t use your phone. Give them your undivided attention. It makes people feel important.
Ask about their day
Just a simple question, “How was your day?”
These simple words make people feel important. It shows that you are interested in their life and care about them.
Whenever I meet somebody after work, this is the first question I ask.
Show interest in things they like
I love running and playing chess. Whenever somebody talks about chess and running with me, they instantly win my heart.
Show interest in other people’s interests. This shows you care about their life and you become instantly likable.
I hope these tips will help you if you are looking to connect with people on a deep level.
