Summary

The author describes a personal journey from anger and depression to spiritual growth and self-awareness by changing perceptions, healing traumas, and embracing a personal form of spirituality.

Abstract

The article "This Is How I Shifted Anger to Growth" details the author's transformation from a state of constant anger in their early twenties, which was rooted in uncontrollable circumstances and childhood traumas, to a place of peace and personal development. The author, who faced challenges such as racism and discrimination while alone in a foreign country, reached a turning point after a period of deep depression. By shifting their perception, they began to understand that their anger stemmed from external factors they could not change. The author then embarked on a path of healing, initially through self-reflection and later with the help of therapy and meditation, which led to a profound cleaning of deep-seated traumas. This process allowed the author to redefine their spirituality, moving away from traditional religion and focusing on self-belief, the present moment, and personal growth. The author also emphasizes the importance of being selective about daily consumption, avoiding violent content, and maintaining a decluttered mind to prevent the buildup of anger. Ultimately, the author learned to perceive situations and people without giving them the power to affect their state of mind, leading to a life lived in flow and alignment with their life purpose.

Opinions

The author believes that unaddressed anger can lead to significant personal losses, including one's reputation and relationships.
Initially, the author held a stigma against therapy, viewing it as something only for the mentally challenged, but later found it to be a valuable tool for healing.
Meditation played a crucial role in the author's journey, helping them to sit with their inner chaos and eventually find peace.
The author advocates for a personalized approach to spirituality, one that is less abstract and more aligned with individual beliefs and the present moment.
Distancing oneself from negative influences, such as people who focus on problems and complaints, is seen as essential for spiritual growth.
The author emphasizes the impact of what we consume mentally, suggesting that violent media contributes to intolerance and anger.
Perception is highlighted as the key to responding to challenging situations; by choosing not to react impulsively, one can assess situations more objectively.
The author views life's challenges as opportunities for growth and learning, rather than as negative events.

This Is How I Shifted Anger to Growth

Using Anger In Your Favour Once For All For Good

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Anger sometimes takes time to build up, but when it reaches its peak, God help it.

The thing with anger is that if you don't use it, it will use you, and depending on how it operates, you can lose a lot.

Lose your reputation in your workplace among the people you love because no one wants to deal with someone who can’t control their emotions.

Dealing with angry people, you never know what is next.

In my early 20s, I was angry almost every day, angry of life, angry of the things I was going through; I hated the country I lived in and the people from there.

At this time, I was going through a lot; I was alone in a foreign country, racism, and discrimination, to mention a few.

But you know, there is always a doom day, and to me, it was when I got my heart so heavy in anger that I realized that this horrible feeling was draining my energy to a point where I got depressed.

After being in a deep depression and lying down on my bed for seven days, only going to the bathroom when I really needed to, suddenly it hit me:

It’s all about perception.

At first, I didn’t comprehend the meaning of it, but as the days went by and the situations were showing, I saw it from another perspective.

I realized that the anger I was allowing into my life was from things I couldn’t control, and those negative perceptions came from traumas.

Starting to be open to a more broad perspective made me see that I had to go the flowing path.

Heal the traumas

I didn’t need a therapist for this at first because I believed therapists were for mentally challenged people.

What I did was start being more with the feeling and not trying to push it.

I questioned myself about why this person or what the person did affected me so much.

Then, after analyzing the feelings for a while, I understood that traumas from my childhood were driving me to dwell on those feelings.

After some time I decided to open up for the idea of seeing a therapist to learn how to heal those traumas.

During those visits, I felt so much better, and my therapist told me that meditation would help if I had a difficult moment.

I started to meditate 10 minutes a day and I have to tell you that the first times I sat on meditation, it was like my mind was going to explode. I couldn’t sit still, I was traveling past/future, I was crying and feelings were just showing up.

In the first week I meditated for one day and gave up, the second week I made it three days; after the third week, I could sit more with the chaos that was inside my mind.

It’s so funny how life is; after some years, I understood that this process happening to me was a deep trauma cleaning.

Be spiritual your way

Starting to meditate made me clean all the traumas and then I was ready to the next path, have something to believe and hold on to.

I always believed in God and had a religion but I felt that I needed something less abstract and more accessible, so I started to believe in my own decisions, in the present moment, in myself.

I let go of the religion and started to read about occultism and the theories that could contribute to my growth.

I gave my best to be attuned to the Universe everyday, invest in my peace of mind.

Distancing from unnecessary drama and people who only talked about problems and complained about life was a massive step in my spiritual path.

Allowing inn

To filter what I consumed daily, avoiding the news and series that had much violence was healing to me.

Sooner, I started to perceive that the anger was not building up so fast because my mind was decluttered from fear and anxiety.

What we allow into our minds has effects, and many of us don’t see those effects instantly, but as time passes by our brains start to connect with the things we consume one way or another, causing us to be less tolerant.

Perception is the key

The primary key to me was how I perceived each situation that was alarming and played out surprisingly in my life.

Instead of responding to the people who triggered me or situations that were not how I wanted them to be, I simply ignored them.

To ignore and not respond gave me time to think about the situation and see all the sides of it.

The perception I had made me realize that the people who were triggering me were not that important; the importance they had was the importance I was giving them.

The situations in my life were for my growth and the greater good.

Today, I use anger and fear as fuel to achieve what I want and avoid them at all costs to control the outcome.

Final thoughts

I learned that life is a win-win field, and we decide if the situations that show up are there to contribute to our growth or give us negativity.

We are the captains of our ships and the masters of our souls (Poem Invictus from William E. Henley), and situations and people will only have the power to shift your state of mind if you give them this privilege.

When we allow people to be who they are and life plays out as it is, we live in a state of flow that will enable us to have more time to focus on being creative and being attuned to our life purpose.

Believe people the first time they show you who they are and avoid what could, should, or would be. Give yourself peace of mind.

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