This Is How Emotional Tricking Can Be

Summary

The web content discusses an affirmation technique to handle emotionally manipulative situations, emphasizing self-love and personal boundaries.

Abstract

The article titled "This Is How Emotional Tricking Can Be" suggests a method for dealing with feelings of manipulation during highly emotional conversations with loved ones. It emphasizes the importance of understanding one's own emotions and intentions, even when they are not perceived as expected by others. The author, Lalitha Brahma, shares a personal experience of feeling misunderstood despite genuinely expressing love and support. To cope with such situations, Brahma recommends an affirmation from Louis L Hay's book "Meditations to heal your life," which focuses on self-acceptance, immunity to guilt and manipulation, and the importance of not conforming to others' emotional expectations. The affirmation encourages connecting with one's inner child and higher self for guidance and reassurance. The author invites readers to try the affirmation and reflect on its potential benefits in their own lives. Additionally, the article includes a call to action for readers to subscribe to Brahma's stories and support her work.

Opinions

The author believes in the power of affirmations to change one's thought patterns and reactions in emotionally charged situations.
There is an opinion that during intense emotional exchanges, it is not the right time to feel or express unconditional love, as rational thinking is compromised.
The author suggests that manipulation cannot occur without one's consent, implying that individuals have the power to control their responses to manipulative tactics.
Self-knowledge is presented as a defense against manipulation, with the idea that knowing oneself prevents being swayed by others' desires or emotional states.
The article conveys the importance of self-love and not feeling obligated to fit into someone else's emotional landscape or to manipulate others to fit one's own.
The author encourages readers to engage with the affirmation and consider its practical application in their interactions with loved ones.

Suggesting a well-crafted affirmation to handle situations when you feel manipulated by highly charged emotional conversation

Let’s say one of your close friends or a relative comes and tells you, Hey you made me feel not loved. It could be that the way you express love by way of your words or behavior or emotions showing up on your face does not come up to the expectation of your friend or relative. However, at the bottom of your heart, you are truly feeling and thinking that you are expressing unconditional love to that friend or person. You sincerely pray for the well-being of that person. You pray and express gratitude for each of her personal and professional accomplishments.

In a situation like this, it could also be construed as either of the person coming across as manipulative. It may or may not be true.

I have experienced such situations. I am very emotional and end up crying as tears come to me automatically because that is my authentic being in the present moment feeling the feelings.

I also firmly believe that when such an event happens, both of you are highly emotionally charged. That is not the time in my opinion you will get to feel the unconditional love for each other or rationalize.

However, the following affirmation specifically on “Manipulation” from the book “Meditations to heal your life” by Louis L Hay made complete sense to me. I am taking you with my today’s morning ritual of reading the following affirmation which is helping me process my wound when I become a party to an event that I described above.

Here is the affirmation I am referring to:

My higher self is immune to manipulation and guilt. My higher self pilots my life. I’m not here to please other people or to live my life their way. I’m here to learn how to love myself and to love other people unconditionally. No one can manipulate me without my consent. When I don’t know who I am I am prone to being what someone else wants me to be semicolon therefore I’m interested in learning to know myself I know that I do not have to fit into anyone else’s emotional atmosphere nor do I have to manipulate others to fit them into my emotional atmosphere. When manipulative games are going on, it is important to connect with the little child within Me and reassure it that I love it and that together we are going to get through this I call upon my higher self now an acceptance love, and wisdom.

After reading the above affirmation aloud in front of the mirror I am giving myself permission for these words to slowly percolate into my brain. I believe that by doing so I am creating a space for a new way of thinking and when I come across such a situation in the future I would be able to handle the event better by reminding myself of the following words:

I know that I do not have to fit into anyone else’s emotional atmosphere nor do I have to manipulate others to fit them into my emotional atmosphere.

I invite you to read this affirmation casually and check it out for yourself. Does it make sense to you? Do you think this would help you when you face a highly emotionally charged conversation with your loved ones? I look forward to reading your input and insights. Thank you so much for taking the time to read.

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