This is how a narcissist pretends to be normal

When you first met a narcissist, he was nice, friendly, and helpful. He was curious and wanted to learn more about you. The narcissist was always there when you needed him, but over time you saw the other side of him - he was no longer the same as in the beginning, he showed you no compassion, he didn’t care about you, he was no longer interested in you. It might seem that he lacks feelings, that he is cold, absent, and distant. The narcissist could even laugh and take pleasure in your pain and suffering. He could smile in unfavourable situations for you, as if you were dealing with a completely different person with someone completely different, as if the narcissist had suddenly changed, now he is unpleasant, mean and hostile towards you, he lacks interest, does not engage, shows determination not to change his attitude. He shows resistance despite logical and good arguments from you.

Now he is with someone else, maybe you know it, maybe you have seen it, maybe you see it every day, now he is friendly, he knows how to behave normally, he knows how to be nice, friendly and helpful, it confuses you and leads to a lot of doubts , this happens because the narcissist is not like that towards you.

A narcissist can activate this function as if he were pressing a button - a switch regarding the positive qualities that make people like him. Suddenly, he will become nice, charming, wonderful, and will be there for you whenever you need him. But this is false, unreal. This is something a narcissist uses to manipulate people so that they can get what they want.

A narcissist needs attention, admiration and delight, he wants people to have the best opinion of him, he wants to have an impeccable reputation and a unique image, but in fact he does not create anything with anyone, he is unable to create a bond with another person. The narcissist sees people as objects to satisfy his needs, who only exist so that the narcissist can feel better about himself.

This is exactly what a narcissist needs you for.

In his world, it’s your job, so when you first meet him, he shows a lot of interest, attention, he was helpful and friendly, but he wanted to speed things up. In most cases, a narcissist will be impatient. It doesn’t take long for the narcissist to turn on you before the devaluation stage begins. Before you knew it, the narcissist was repeating the same cycle with someone else, with a different source of supply.

A narcissist chooses very carefully and precisely what role he should play with someone, how he should pretend to be normal, how he should look like someone he is not.

A narcissist only pretends to be normal when he wants something. He plays this role for people who are useful and needed in his world. A narcissist pretends to be normal among people susceptible to manipulation. He pretends among rich, influential, successful, and attractive people. A narcissist will be extremely nice to such people, because a narcissist can gain an advantage by being around them, so he will be extremely nice to them, he will ask personal questions, he will try to find out more about such people, about their private life, so that he can gossip about it later , to have an ace up his sleeve, use this information behind their back, when a problem arises, when there are differences of opinion, arguments, the narcissist will push it aside, consider it unimportant, as if it does not deserve to be taken into account, he will not want to talk about it . This happens because it is difficult for a narcissist to behave normally in these types of situations.

The narcissist has no conflict resolution skills, the narcissist doesn’t really want to try to solve the problem, so he pretends it’s nothing, he will want to maintain the illusion that nothing happened and he will want to remain friendly.

The narcissist behaves as if nothing had happened, as if everything was normal. In fact, it’s all one big facade, poorly organized, and full of chaos and confusion. Beneath what the narcissist shows people, there is an extremely complicated and difficult situation, and the narcissist sweeps everything under the carpet, hides it, and tries to keep it a secret. He hides it from everyone, he doesn’t really want to establish relationships with other people, he is very shallow and superficial, he just wants to have fun, he wants everyone to provide him with what he needs. Therefore, a narcissist will change his mind and behaviour depending on the situation he finds himself in. The narcissist will pretend that he is normal because everything revolves around his benefits. A narcissist is primarily looking for attention and acceptance, that’s why everything with a narcissist is so shallow and superficial, nothing has a deeper meaning and purpose, that’s why you can’t have a relationship with a narcissist, because if difficulties arise, the narcissist will simply leave you.

You have to be very careful when people are very nice and friendly at first, you have to be very careful when people are very helpful at first because they may have a hidden agenda. Don’t rush into anything. Time will show who you’re really dealing with