This Is a Tribute to My Dad

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“Fathers lead their children down the path to adulthood in the hopes they leap beyond the boundaries and forge new ones.”-Unknown

As my father’s daughter, I saw him as one of those men who built their lives with his family as their pivot. It was unusual for him to make plans without taking into consideration that he was first a family man. Everything else came after that. Before he started a family of his own, he had an offer to go do a funded Ph.D. Dad declined the offer. His rationale was that there would be too many gaps in his absence.

It’s funny cos dad second-guessed himself despite how well he was performing as a father. He asked: “Am I a good father?” Then he would say: “I think I try.” As a family man, whenever you brought a plan to him, dad would ask how the people surrounding you would benefit. He would ask how it was beneficial to your spouse, your kids, or siblings. When he went on overseas trips, dad would return with travel funds for family projects. When he gained wealth, he was always forward-thinking and strategic. His concerns were: what investments can we make for these kids or the grandkids? How can we best affect their education, spirituality, and development? If any of us embarked on any project, what were the potential advantages for him/her and the family?

On relating with my mum, dad encouraged her to make decisions that empowered her. He was not one of those to hamper or be envious of their spouses’ success. My mum used this to her utmost advantage. He extended this empowering ability to his daughters. You could trust dad to lead you in making decisions that empowered or liberated you. Sometimes, the clarity of the message he was trying to pass across comes in hindsight.

I recall days long before covid, that friends would drop by and spend quality time with my dad. Their conversations were chatty and insightful. These were people from all works of life. After his death, we discovered my dad had a much larger friendship base. A significant number of people we did not know visited us to tell us how my dad had been a good friend in need and deed. After he died, it was inspiring to see these people and hear all they had to say.

Yes, a man of few words, great depth, and wisdom, gentle yet practical, deep faith, and prayerful. He would tell you as it is and would not hesitate to discipline you if the situation called for that. If the situation called for humor, that was never in short supply. Dad, you inspire more than you know. My grief lessened when I realized how much of a fulfilled life you lived.