Life

This How I Overcome …?

We should not forget that “We are different.”

Have you tried to talk about your struggle with someone you trust and got an answer like: “I am not sure why you struggle?” I went through the same experience you are going through, and here I am; they say something like, “Just do like me.” All (maybe most/some) of us have experienced someone telling us to do something as they did.

They say it worked with them, they handled it easily, and it should be the same with us. Sometimes, they say, “I was able to handle that and that, while I do not have the resources you have right now.” The conclusion is that you are fake, lazy, or not putting much effort into tackling your struggle.

Unfortunately, I am not innocent here; I have been like this, thinking it is best to help the one going into an issue, to show them that I was there and they should be fine. However, life does not work like this.

This can be applied to those workshops, courses, and teachings that start with “This how I overcome … ?”. If something worked for you, I highly doubt it will work for me. Yes, it may also work for me due to your strategy; however, it may work due to the placebo effect or something else.

I will not discuss the healthy way to address the issue or the perfect way to provide help. But, I will discuss how different we are from one another, plus give a general outline to help loved ones overcome their challenges.

I am not here to deactivate anyone’s effort to share, help, and be themselves. Instead, my only concern is that we should not forget that “We are different.”

I have no doubt that sharing the experience of overcoming difficulties may help, but it is important to remember that everybody’s situations are different. What worked for one person might not necessarily work for another because of differences in personalities, support groups, and resources, among other things.

Listening without bias, comprehending the other person’s standpoint, and joining hands to generate tailor-made solutions are more productive than ignoring or assuming someone else’s problems have clear-cut answers.

When advising our loved ones, avoiding making sweeping statements about their lives is crucial. Rather than employing our energy in comparisons or having a perspective that does not fit all, recognizing each individual is what we need to support one another better.

More meaningful dialogues can be facilitated on how best to overcome challenges that suit a particular kind of person through openness, care, and empathy towards others in issues that they are undergoing.

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