Annoying People Make Us Anxious
Figure Out Where Such People Fit Into Our Lives
A person is probably “Toxic” to you — if You Feel bad after being around him, even if you don’t know why.
You Feel a sense of dread when you see his/her number pop up on your phone,or Feel uneasy when you need to meet with him — The person lacks empathy and Feels entitled. He would say it’s your Fault if you Feel bad after meeting with him.
Toxic people cause stress in others through their behaviors. They often apologize but later do the same things. This stress causes physical health problems For people who are in the presence of Toxic people.
Body aches, stomach problems, anxiety, eating and sleeping problems, and other illnesses are direct byproducts of stress created by Toxic people. If you are dealing with Toxic people, remember to be your own best friend and to take care of yourself.
Here are some reasons to avoid or minimize contact with Toxic people:
Their Negativity slows you down in achieving your Goals.
They drain you of energy and add stress and anxiety to your Life.
The stress that they cause can affect your physical health.
The Prophet Muhammad(saw)said:“None of you Truly Believe until he loves For his brother what he loves For himself”.(Bukhari, Muslim)
This Hadith teaches us to love others but is also saying that we should already love ourselves in the first place.
The Prophet Muhammad(saw)taught us to be wary of the company that we keep in the Following ahadith: The Prophet(saw)said: “A person is on the religion of his companions. Therefore let every one of you carefully consider the company he keeps.”
Abu Musa Al-Ash`ari(May Allah be pleased with him)reported: I heard the Prophet(saw)saying, “The similitude of good company and that of bad company is that of the owner of the musk and of the one blowing the bellows.
The owner of the musk would either offer you some Free of charge, or you would buy it From him, or you smell its pleasant Fragrance; and as For the one who blows the bellows (i.e., the blacksmith), he either burns your clothes or you smell a repugnant smell”.
According to a Hadeeth narrated by Anas ibn Maalik (May Allah be pleased with him), the Prophet (saw) said: “Do not hate one another, do not envy one another, do not turn your backs on one another, and be, O slaves of Allah, brothers. It is not permissible for a Muslim to forsake his brother for more than three days.” (Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 5718; Muslim, 2559).
Ibn ‘Abd al-Barr said: His saying “Do not hate one another” is a prohibition which is aimed at encouraging them to discipline themselves to love one another”. (Al-Istidhkaar, 8/289).
But a person may Feel that he does not like a person enough For him to become a close Friend, even though he Fulfils his Islamic duty of returning his salaams, saying “Yarhamuk-Allaah (May Allah have mercy on you)” if he sneezes, helping him if he needs help, and so on. In this case what exists between them does not come under the heading of Forsaking or shunning, and it is Forgiven InshaAllah.
According to a Hadeeth narrated by ‘Aa’ishah (May Allah be pleased with her), the Prophet (saw) said: “Souls are troops collected together and those who got along with one other (in the realm where souls existed before entering physical bodies in this world) will have an affinity with one another (in this world) and those amongst who did not get along with one another (in the realm where souls existed before entering physical bodies in this world) will also not get along (in this world).”(Narrated by al-Bukhaari, 3158; Muslim, 2638).
Al-Khattaabi said: This may be understood as referring to similarlity between souls which are either good or bad, righteous or immoral, and that good people are attracted to those who are like them and evil people are likewise attracted to those who are like them, so people’s souls recognize one another according to their nature, whether good or evil; if they are similar they will get along and if they are different they will not get along.
Al-Qurtubi said: Although souls have in common the Fact that they are all souls, they differ in other ways. Souls of similar nature will get along because of their nature. Therefore we see people of a certain type get along, but they do not get along with people of a different nature, and we see that with people who are of a similar nature, some of them get along with one another and some do not, and that depends on the issues which Form the basis of getting along or otherwise.
So, the point is that — the kind of personality a person sits in the company of people, its effect comes in his personality.
Therefore, the company of people or Friends who distance us From our Creator are not our Friends but our enemies. Therefore, leaving the company of people who give negative thoughts is very important For our Spiritual and physical health.
May Allah(swt) protect us From those who spread evil.(Ameen).
JazakAllah (May Allah Reward You [with] Goodness)For Reading.
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