Summary

The author, Gurpreet Dhariwal, recounts personal experiences of betrayal by former best friends that led to the end of those friendships.

Abstract

Gurpreet Dhariwal shares a deeply personal article detailing the betrayals and actions of her former best friends that ultimately resulted in the termination of those friendships. She reflects on the loss of trust and the realization of her friends' true characters over time. The betrayals range from backbiting, disrespect, infidelity, and hypocrisy to more severe issues like abuse and manipulation. Each friendship ended when the author recognized the toxicity and chose to distance herself for the sake of her mental well-being and sanity.

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The author believes that maturity should lead to wiser life choices and that showing off wealth is a form of stupidity.
She values honesty and integrity, disapproving of those who gossip about relatives and lack the courage to confront them.
The author expresses disdain for her school friend's decision to have children through IVF despite her husband's impotence, questioning the dynamics of their relationship.
She is critical of her Yahoo Messenger friend's character, considering him selfish and exploitative for reconnecting after his wife's suicide and for treating his second wife as a commodity.
The author feels regret for trusting her friend from a writing website, who was revealed to be an abuser and a cheat, manipulating multiple women with a victim narrative.
She is appalled by the hypocrisy of a friend's family, particularly the friend who, despite knowing about his sister's abuse, publicly appreciated his abusive brother-in-law.
The author advises readers to protect themselves from narcissistic individuals who can cause harm with their false narratives.
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Things My Best Friends Did That Ended Our Friendship

“Trust takes years to build, seconds to break, and forever to repair.” — ANONYMOUS

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“There are ways you can trust an enemy you can’t always trust a friend. An enemy’s never going to betray your trust.” — Daniel Abraham

Like there are flowers and birds for every season, I met different people and considered them my best friends for life without knowing their true intentions towards me and my life. I discarded them because of the reasons I have mentioned below and didn’t regret my decision even for a day.

My Childhood Best Friend

She lost me when her stupidity didn’t stop at just showing off her rich life. As we become mature, we have to make some wise choices in life.

I had to discard her because she kept on back-bitching about her relatives and never had a spine to stand against them. I had to discard her because she was ruining my peace of mind. She married a stupid guy who studied with us in the same school. I didn’t have any issue with that, but she had started asking me about how much my family was giving to my ex-husband’s family and whatnot. I had to discard her to save my sanity.

My School Best Friend

Ah! She married an impotent man. Obviously, she didn’t know this while marrying him, but then Karma served her a cold dish.

She betrayed someone she was pretending to be in love with for seven years. That guy never married. I believe it was his curse that ruined her life too. Now after IVF and all she got pregnant and gave birth to twins. I didn’t understand this policy of giving birth when there was no sexual relationship between both.

One day she was speaking to me and instantly told me that her impotent husband wouldn’t appreciate her being on phone with me as he didn’t like me. That’s the kind of respect this fake and absurd woman had for me. I blocked her and never looked back again.

My Best Friend From Yahoo Messenger

This man was an item. He first married in 2007, and his wife committed suicide. After his marriage, he discarded me, and when his wife committed suicide, he touched base with me.

I listened to his bullishness until I figured he remarried a call girl in the year 2017. Yes, a call girl. There is no harm in marrying one, but the way he was portraying her made me think everything fishy about their relationship. He was sharing her pictures as if she was a commodity. Maybe, for him or others, she was.

All of a sudden, after seeing I had become an Author, he was like one day if you would receive an award will you call me on the stage? I was like. Amazing. This man who has never read anything about me and has no interest in my writing, wants me to call him on the stage. A typical ruthless mentality shows me his interest in keeping in touch with me.

I regret sending him my books and one painting. I discovered in July that he blocked me. I returned the money I took from him and never looked back again. He is as ugly as his selfish thoughts. I certainly believe he didn’t learn anything from his wife’s suicide either.

My Friend From Writing Website

He didn’t only betray me, but I believe he was cooking up the same story to more than a dozen women. Yeah, that victim story. I got cheated on, was betrayed, and ruined by other women.

But one day the mask falls off and you discover wow! The man who is playing a victim is actually an abuser.

When he was betraying me, I knew he was doing that. I knew he was looking for more women to screw up, and one of them he claimed to find in his office. Lol. Some victims are nearby, but then how could I call her a victim when he was behaving like one?

His wife, who is younger than him, was doing the same thing behind his back. I believe the game of cheating runs in their blood. I am glad that I was saved. That was the last nail in the coffin. I am so glad he married someone of his own character. Both of them are experts in portraying what happened to me while inflicting wounds on others.

As they say, whatever happens, happens for good. Please trust this quote like hell.

The most surprising part was him knowing his sister was abused by his brother-in-law on several occasions, and instead of supporting her, he started putting up posts appreciating his ugly and insane brother-in-law.

That showed me what God was saving me from.

Overall, a family of hypocrites who believe that living in the US could make you wise, but once an abuser remains an abuser.

Thank you for reading my story. Save yourself from narcissist disorder people who could ruin you with their false narratives.

*Sharing it here from one of my responses on Quora.

“The saddest thing about betrayal is that it never comes from your enemies.” — Anonymous

Gurpreet Dhariwal is the author of Three books. Her books are available on Amazon, Flipkart, and BlueRose. Connect with Gurpreet at www.gurpreetdhariwal.com