Things I’m No Longer Apologizing For

Owning my growth

The secret to growth is that there is no secret. There is just doing the work consistently and with audacity. But you see, growth brings massive perspective shifts.

I’ve come to realize the cost of peace is valued at priceless. My attention is shifting, as I become more focused on resting, slowly easing into each day, while filling my reservoirs with laughter. Envy, negative vibes, doubt and deceit have become too expensive. I budget fucks given. I budget my time and effort. And most importantly, I budget my apologies.

Apologies are powerful medicine. When saying “sorry”, we are choosing to stand in the open with our integrity completely exposed. Apologies soften the pain and stop emotional bleeding. The problem is that we have been taught to apologize for absurd things, such as setting boundaries or saying “no”. That’s ridiculous, to say the least. It’s insanely unhealthy. We’re basically apologizing for being ourselves, as well as for standing up for our own wellbeing.

I don’t know about you, but I’m tired of apologizing for things nobody should be seeking forgiveness for, and, especially for the following few things:

Saying no to something I’m not interested in doing

I’m down to trying new things. Always. But if I am invited to go somewhere and do something I know I dislike, it’s going to be a “no” from me. Of course, people could easily counter this by saying “sometimes you need to compromise”. I 100% agree. However, it is often forgotten that there are both healthy and unhealthy compromises. An example of an unhealthy one is making changes that will result in being less of your authentic self. Thanks, but no thanks! I haven’t worked this hard to be where I am just to fall back into this old trap.

Not responding to things not worth my energy

Our society is saturated with drama. It’s become nearly impossible not to get sucked into it. The thing is, we all have our own drama to deal with. You know, repetitive thoughts and negative scenarios we make up in our own heads. That in itself can be very draining, so why would I ever want to get involved with somebody else’s drama? I just can’t afford investing energy into that, as I’m barely left with any after dealing with my own shit, hence I’ve become incredibly good at stepping back from situations and asking “What does this have to do with me?”

Outgrowing people

Some people can’t see you. They’ve never seen you. They never looked deep enough. Besides, do you remember the times when life applied a bit of pressure? Remember how they were the first to pull a disappearing act? Those are the kind of people you end up outgrowing. I don’t know about you, but I’m done planting myself in dead gardens and I am certainly done even considering apologizing for that. How stupid.

Healing at my own pace

Whoever claims there are shortcuts to healing is a downright liar. It takes a tremendous amount of time! In fact, it’s a process that probably never ends, so why should I try to rush it? Forget that. My direction is more important than my speed. We are here to feel, to be swallowed up. Pain is a pesky part of being human, so let’s allow ourselves to sit with it and begin healing at our own damn pace and in our own damn ways. This is not a one-size-fits-all kind of thing.

Honestly, I could probably go on and on, but I’m gonna end this before it gets boringly long. My wish for you is that your aura remains impenetrable and your vibe unfuckwithable. Don’t sacrifice your authenticity for nothing and no one, ever!