Summary

The article discusses the harmful generalizations about black men within the black community, particularly the extreme viewpoint of advocating for the abortion of black male babies, and calls for an end to the divisive gender wars to foster unity and address systemic issues.

Abstract

The author expresses deep concern over the increasing trend of black women harboring and vocalizing extreme resentment towards black men, as evidenced by the suggestion to abort black male babies. This sentiment is fueled by personal experiences, societal stereotypes, and high-profile incidents of violence. The article underscores the importance of not perpetuating negative stereotypes about black men, acknowledging the challenges they face, such as mass incarceration, and the need for mental health support within the black community. The author advocates for a nuanced approach to accountability without resorting to blanket generalizations that harm the unity and progress of the black community.

Opinions

The author is disturbed by the extreme views expressed by some black women, including a YouTuber and the author's own sister, who advocate for the abortion of black male babies.
There is recognition of the origins of the gender wars, stemming from instances of violence against black women by black men and the perceived lack of reciprocal support.
The author rejects the idea of using stereotypes promoted by white people to degrade black men, emphasizing the need to understand the systemic issues affecting them, such as incarceration.
The article criticizes the internalization of negative stereotypes, even within the author's family due to personal experiences with an absent father.
It challenges the notion that black women should live in constant anger or fear towards black men, arguing against generalizations and for appreciation of the positive relationships many black women have with black men.
The author questions the logic behind movements that prioritize black women over the broader black community, suggesting that this fragmentation plays into the hands of those seeking to divide the community.
The piece calls for an

These Generalizations About Black Men Need to Stop

It’s getting disturbing.

“We should abort black male babies.”

One of my favorite YouTubers had a live stream in which one of the comments said those words. The crazy part? My sister showed me a video that agreed with those same principles spewed in that comment.

The YouTuber I watched had a visceral reaction (as I did) to the whole thing. That statement made no sense to the point where it was disturbing.

To add insult to injury, my sister agrees with that statement.

Where do I begin?

I’m So Sick of Gender Wars in The Black Community

Is this what we’re doing now?

Some of my fellow black women hate black men so much that they’d say we should abort them? You can’t be serious. Not only is that statement just wrong in every way, but it causes other black women to embrace the very stereotypes of black men that white people place on them.

Let me backtrack for a bit.

I understand why the gender wars started. If you hark back to the George Floyd murder, you’ll see crazy videos of some black men hitting black women with skateboards and throwing them in dumpsters. I saw those videos myself.

I also understand that black men aren’t here for us as much as black women are here for black men.

There’s a certain degree of mental health that black women need to maintain to get out of bed every morning. I prefer to keep my mental health intact. Sometimes I don’t fight for black men because the weight on my shoulders is too much to bear. It’s okay to sit out fights for your mental health.

But why are some black women making it a priority to rip black men to shreds any chance they get?

We’re Using The Massa’s Stereotypes to Tear Black Men Down

“Why can’t black men take care of their kids?”

“Why do black men have low test scores?”

“Maybe the stereotypes about black men are true.”

My sister said those words to me today. I won’t bash her because I understand where her sentiments are coming from. We grew up in a single-parent household.

Even though we know what black men go through in regards to incarceration, our father mysteriously left out of the blue. He has a Facebook so we know he’s not in prison or dead. Our mom doesn’t like to talk about what happened.

I understand where my sister’s resentment comes from, but I refuse to fall victim to this rhetoric of “all black men hate me.”

She said that I’ll learn my lesson soon enough — whatever that means.

My sister sent me a video of another black YouTuber that agrees with her sentiments. They even went as far as to say that black men are weak and the reason why black people haven’t gotten anywhere in America is because of them.

It’s one wild remark after the other, to the point where these people don’t make any sense.

So we’re just going to discount the mass incarceration numbers for black men?

Before Anyone Calls Me a Mammy, Hear Me Out

Why do we, as black women, have to live our lives in fury?

Why do we always have to watch our backs around black men? I’m not being naive. There are some black men that we need to watch out for. However, I refuse to generalize and ostracize a whole section of the black community to showcase my frustration with black men.

I’ve never had a bad run-in with a black man. While my father is a deadbeat, I have uncles and cousins that love me unconditionally. Are we getting rid of them too?

Now there’s this new “movement” happening.

“I’m not pro-black, I’m pro-black women.”

I don’t know how to feel about this statement. Don’t you have to be pro-black before you can say you’re pro-black women?

While this is an empowering statement for black women, it seems like we’re getting into murky waters. The same argument can be made about the black LGBTQ+ community. We’re getting to a point where we’re fighting ourselves within our black community.

We’re not a monolith, but I find it interesting that these conversations don’t come up unless there’s another incident of police brutality. The white media has some part to play in this. It’s another divisive technique to keep the black community from focusing on the issue at hand.

I understand that we need to hold different types of black people accountable, but why do we have so much energy for that? Why can’t we just call people out and move on? Why do we have to go to the extreme of aborting black male babies to get our point across?

It’s weird.

Final Thought

I hope these gender wars end soon.

I’m sick of being labeled a mammy because I don’t want to live my life hating black men. And how pro-black can you be if you hate black men? While I had a deadbeat father, I never take his mistakes and generalized all black men.

I’m all for black women maintaining their mental health and holding black men accountable when the time comes, but it’s getting too extreme — to the point where some black women are advocating for the abortion of black male babies.

It’s sick and disgusting.

Sorry, I’m not going to live my life like that.

If that makes me a mammy, so be it.

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