Words and Thoughts Power Momentum

How self-talk manifests into reality.

The words we tell ourselves can potentially manifest into our reality.

Mary Morrissey writes, “The words we repeatedly and regularly use are the framework through which the energy of life that moves through us is pouring.”

In other words, the words we tell ourselves and our conscious thoughts create the energy that brings momentum to our actions.

How External Words Affect Your Self-Perception

For years I allowed someone else’s words, opinions, and prejudices about me to define me. I heard those opinions spoken out loud so often that in time I began to think them too; not because I truly believed them at my core self but because I had adopted the standards that supported that perspective as my own.

I had conditioned myself to see life and myself through the lens of perception of another, sacrificing so much of what was once authentically and so unapologetically me. This filter by which I had begun to see was disguised as loyalty and unwavering faith.

I was told I was not good enough for this and that…

I wasn’t smart enough. I wasn’t assertive enough. I wasn’t decent enough. I wasn’t ugly enough. I wasn’t pretty enough. I wasn’t enough of anything!

Being a lifelong and self-disciplined overachiever with a drive to succeed at whatever I endeavored, it was not acceptable for me to not be enough! It was especially not acceptable to me to not succeed at marriage and motherhood.

This of course put me into action, counteraction in fact. I needed to do better than that!

And so I did — I did everything I was told I should do that would make me good enough!

I studied more to become smarter. I made a conscious effort to not bite my tongue to become more assertive. I made myself uglier in certain environments. I made myself prettier in other environments. I tried and tried and still, I was never enough!

No matter how hard I tried, I could never live up to the standards placed upon me by another human being — a broken human being.

So I accepted and believed that I was not enough for a very long time.

I had become complacent with living by these self-limiting standards that I later discovered were in complete misalignment with my true self; standards that only existed in someone else’s mind. With every step I took forward, I’d end up 2 or 3 steps behind. I could never catch up to where I needed to be, it seemed.

But I never stopped taking those steps forward and pushing through the backward trajectory of my negative manifestations.

How Self-Limiting Beliefs Hinder Professional Ascension

Here’s another way your negative words and thoughts manifest into your professional reality and hinder your professional growth. You get what you think you deserve.

My humble self-perception of what I thought I deserved negatively impacted my professional growth at the onset of my career. Here is how.

At age 23 when I was offered my second professional job after college. I was offered the title of Project Director and I immediately rejected the title for the more humble and lesser Project Coordinator title.

I thought, what did I know about being a Director?

I didn’t think I was deserving of this title. I didn’t have any experience in managing a grant project, let alone Directing one. So I took on the lesser title in spite of the fact that my roles and responsibilities didn’t change.

What a big mistake that was!

This mistake was one I made using my Ego — an Ego-driven decision, ironically. This is the spiritual Ego that paralyzes us with fear and self-limiting beliefs. The Ego that tells us we are not good enough. I write about this Ego in my story Entanglement Between Karma and Ego.

What Could Have Been

Today, 22 years later, I can’t help but imagine how different my life and career could have been had I accepted the amazing opportunity that had been offered to me at such an early stage in my career.

I probably would have always been a Director. I mean, who’s going to take on a position of a lesser status after you’ve already been a director?

It was my Ego at that moment that rejected the opportunity. I should have just said, “Yes, thank you” and graciously accepted this gift that was being given to me for it was trying to show me the way to my destined path. Instead, by living in my Ego and in accepting and adopting my negative self-talk, I allowed myself to be redirected from my destined path.

Destiny was calling. I ignored the calling. Don’t resist what is already meant for you. When the path reveals itself, follow it!