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ult.In the end, both of them were in a sense made for one another, but the couple is in the state that it’s in suggests that things aren’t working out so well.While it is important for people to have some kind of common ground in any kind of relationship, the people in our lives — and especially our intimate relationships — don’t always have to be an echo chamber of our own beliefs.It’s actually more important for people to be different and to have other interests. That’s kind of a good thing for this former couple seeing as they’re in different industries and even going to different areas to work.Couples do need space and they need other interests, hobbies, and work that is different from their partners.Because as quarantine has taught us, we all have a certain tolerance level for people. Even if those people are people we love being around. And we become unable to tolerate them if we’re constantly around them.<h1 id="ac87">Semi-Separated Means Consciously Uncoupled</h1>Considering Musk’s track record over the years with relationships, it’s not much of a surprise that this one is over as well.His first marriage was more one-sided with him controlling every aspect of Justine Wilson’s life. She’s written about it in extensive detail and his behaviour even before marriage was troubling in so many ways.Their first date was enforced pretty harshly with Musk appearing in Wilson’s dorm room with ice cream in hand, clearly refusing to take no for an answer.Endearing in some cases, but it’s not exactly great behaviour. There is a thing to be said about having some patience.But the fallout for this one is taking a different tonne to an extent.The relationship world has shifted slightly to where some couples don’t want to admit that they’re separated. Rather they want to leave the possibilities open by saying they’re somewhat separated or that they’re still spending time together.It’s the equivalent of Facebook’s “It’s Complicated” relationship status.Though when the couple is two really weird people, it gets murkier.After all, Musk stated that Grimes is still living in the same house. Also, the reasoning for breaking up is due to work.They go off and do their own thing and come back home and live together under the same roof.And in Musk’s own mind that is grounds for breaking up?It does sound more like a typical relationship if you ask me however Musk’s own behaviour around the whole thing can suggest semi-separated to mean something else entirely.Rather it means that they’ve consciously broken up.</

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p>To me, this is a weird state of a relationship, however, some people can take it as some cool new way to let someone go while still being involved in their life. It’s another tactic to be more controlling and manipulative.After all, now that they’ve “semi-separated” it’s fair game for the two of them to bring other partners into the picture. And things can start to get weirder or perhaps more controlling and destructive if Musk goes back to his similar tactics of being overly demanding and controlling.You know, trying to be a paragon of emotional intelligence.In the end, this whole tactic isn’t something we should be using or encouraging. It’s already pretty confusing because people have gleaned the fact that Grimes is still living in Musk’s place and yet they’re now “friends”. I chalk it up to Musks own controlling tactics that he’s used time and time again.<h1 id="533a">Change Should Be Gradual</h1>Change in people is a constant thing. It’s neither good or bad but we do have control over how rapidly change can occur and the degree of it.One thing that struck me as odd was in the midst of the relationship, Grimes and Musk were living in a mansion and have since downgraded to basically a studio-sized apartment.Change is of course inevitable to occur in a relationship as people’s personalities and habits can have an effect on people over time. However those kinds of things are gradual and when forcing such a dramatic change onto someone it can put a strain on a relationship.People innately resist change and find it difficult to adapt. Paired with the complications of relationships, a problem like this one can lead to situations like this.It’s understandable that some dramatic changes will happen in relationships: moving to a new home, living together, having a kid or several of them, getting married. They’re big changes that when done, demand those involved to adapt to those changes.However, change becomes easier to do when it’s gradual and that it’s discussed and offers valid reasons.But another aspect to consider is how life is like right now versus what life is expected to be. Keep that factor in mind when proposing changes in relationship dynamics.I’m not one to be following all of the gossip, however seeing Musk’s track record with dating, it doesn’t come as a surprise to me that he struggles with relationships.This is on top of them being in these unusual circumstances such as this one.At the very least, there are things that we can pick up from him — specifically things to be avoiding when it comes to fostering intimate relationships.</article></body>

The Weird Relationship of Grimes & Musk

Key lessons on building a stronger relationship than Elon Musk.

At the end of last week, it became public information that the billionaire Elon Musk and singer, songwriter, and musician Grimes have broken up.

Over the three years they have spent together, the relationship brought forth a child in May 2020.

And while they are splitting up and Musk has stated they’re remaining friends and are “semi-separated”, I’m sure many people are fawning over this bit of news and analyzing what we can glean from this new development.

After all, Musk has been such a huge figure in several aspects and of course, people will be writing plenty of relationship columns revolving around him.

While I’m not a massive fan of Elon Musk, I still agree that there are lessons we can learn from all of this

It’s Key To Have Some Interests

One of the most common pieces of relationship advice is that you need to have a whole lot of things in common. Relationship columns swear by these things as it gives people a tonne of room to have lively conversations, generate ideas for date nights, and all-around build a rapport and develop a stronger relationship.

And while I can see the argument for that, it makes more sense to me to not strive to have almost the exact same interests or passions as someone else.

Looking at Musk and Grimes, the relationship blossomed out of their shared interest in AI humour. However, the pair has always been a weird one.

Looking deeper into Grimes, you can see that she is certainly weird.

At the time, she was criticized for even associating with Musk, whom we knew deep down was already a twisted individual despite how he was celebrated. But often those criticisms were more attacks on her.

When looking at her work, she put her personality into it which was nothing short of weird.

One of her record selling albums required her to dwell in her apartment for three weeks in pitch-darkness to do her work.

And while she became a popular figurehead amongst feminists who told it as it is, the media’s expectation for her caused her to become emotionally unstable. And her weird personality became weirder and weirder as a result.

In the end, both of them were in a sense made for one another, but the couple is in the state that it’s in suggests that things aren’t working out so well.

While it is important for people to have some kind of common ground in any kind of relationship, the people in our lives — and especially our intimate relationships — don’t always have to be an echo chamber of our own beliefs.

It’s actually more important for people to be different and to have other interests. That’s kind of a good thing for this former couple seeing as they’re in different industries and even going to different areas to work.

Couples do need space and they need other interests, hobbies, and work that is different from their partners.

Because as quarantine has taught us, we all have a certain tolerance level for people. Even if those people are people we love being around. And we become unable to tolerate them if we’re constantly around them.

Semi-Separated Means Consciously Uncoupled

Considering Musk’s track record over the years with relationships, it’s not much of a surprise that this one is over as well.

His first marriage was more one-sided with him controlling every aspect of Justine Wilson’s life. She’s written about it in extensive detail and his behaviour even before marriage was troubling in so many ways.

Their first date was enforced pretty harshly with Musk appearing in Wilson’s dorm room with ice cream in hand, clearly refusing to take no for an answer.

Endearing in some cases, but it’s not exactly great behaviour. There is a thing to be said about having some patience.

But the fallout for this one is taking a different tonne to an extent.

The relationship world has shifted slightly to where some couples don’t want to admit that they’re separated. Rather they want to leave the possibilities open by saying they’re somewhat separated or that they’re still spending time together.

It’s the equivalent of Facebook’s “It’s Complicated” relationship status.

Though when the couple is two really weird people, it gets murkier.

After all, Musk stated that Grimes is still living in the same house. Also, the reasoning for breaking up is due to work.

They go off and do their own thing and come back home and live together under the same roof.

And in Musk’s own mind that is grounds for breaking up?

It does sound more like a typical relationship if you ask me however Musk’s own behaviour around the whole thing can suggest semi-separated to mean something else entirely.

Rather it means that they’ve consciously broken up.

To me, this is a weird state of a relationship, however, some people can take it as some cool new way to let someone go while still being involved in their life. It’s another tactic to be more controlling and manipulative.

After all, now that they’ve “semi-separated” it’s fair game for the two of them to bring other partners into the picture. And things can start to get weirder or perhaps more controlling and destructive if Musk goes back to his similar tactics of being overly demanding and controlling.

You know, trying to be a paragon of emotional intelligence.

In the end, this whole tactic isn’t something we should be using or encouraging. It’s already pretty confusing because people have gleaned the fact that Grimes is still living in Musk’s place and yet they’re now “friends”. I chalk it up to Musks own controlling tactics that he’s used time and time again.

Change Should Be Gradual

Change in people is a constant thing. It’s neither good or bad but we do have control over how rapidly change can occur and the degree of it.

One thing that struck me as odd was in the midst of the relationship, Grimes and Musk were living in a mansion and have since downgraded to basically a studio-sized apartment.

Change is of course inevitable to occur in a relationship as people’s personalities and habits can have an effect on people over time. However those kinds of things are gradual and when forcing such a dramatic change onto someone it can put a strain on a relationship.

People innately resist change and find it difficult to adapt. Paired with the complications of relationships, a problem like this one can lead to situations like this.

It’s understandable that some dramatic changes will happen in relationships: moving to a new home, living together, having a kid or several of them, getting married. They’re big changes that when done, demand those involved to adapt to those changes.

However, change becomes easier to do when it’s gradual and that it’s discussed and offers valid reasons.

But another aspect to consider is how life is like right now versus what life is expected to be. Keep that factor in mind when proposing changes in relationship dynamics.

I’m not one to be following all of the gossip, however seeing Musk’s track record with dating, it doesn’t come as a surprise to me that he struggles with relationships.

This is on top of them being in these unusual circumstances such as this one.

At the very least, there are things that we can pick up from him — specifically things to be avoiding when it comes to fostering intimate relationships.