The Untapped Abundance of Being Happy

You don’t have to ‘work hard’ to feel like you’re worthy of happiness

I had an intuitive hit at 8:30pm last night and messaged a friend who’d returned to do two months coaching with me. I wrote ‘Your untapped abundance is your happiness’.

I awoke this morning with those words playing with me. That message is not just for him. That message is for us.

Undeservedness kills happiness.

Up until now it has for my friend. One moment he’s flying, the next he creates drama. Why? Because he’s undeserving of being happy so he rips it away.

He started his own passion business four years ago. It was a huge venture. It took off in record speed. People adore their brand. The great majority of start ups do not achieve the success he did so quickly, and so joyfully.

And then……he made some business decisions that hijacked the flow and drama came on tap instead.

Why?

Because he was undeserving of sustaining the happiness he felt.

If it’s not drama in his business, it’s drama in his personal life. It interchanges.

His parents came from poor beginnings, and so they worked bloody hard. And there was violence in his home. As we all do, he defined life through his experience as a little boy.

At his core however, in his true essence there exists a freedom to create and play without boundaries and there is an inner knowing that acts as his compass. This has been the root cause of his success. But he hasn’t (yet) been able to make that his home because it’s not the definition of life that he learnt when he was a young boy.

And so now he’s doing the inner work to go to all those places that have remained in the dark, unacknowledged, unseen and unfelt, and to love and nurture these shadowy parts of him. And then he’ll be free to play and create, to trust his knowing and to no longer hijack his happiness with drama through undeservedness.

As I said a few articles ago, we are either creating abundance in all the things that matter the most to us, or we’re creating drama. There is no grey area.

And undeservedness is ‘one’ of the root causes of the drama loving pendulum swings from joy to frustration, success to failure, peace to chaos and wellness to unease.

There’s another piece I want to speak to about in relation to the untapped abundance of our happiness.

I heard this enlightening premise this week. That we either make decisions from two orientations — one from being a thermometer and the other from being a thermostat.

If you make decisions from being a thermometer you have your finger on the pulse of ‘data’ and the prevailing temperature of the environment — reacting and adjusting based on those circumstances. Your decisions are therefore made based on the available ‘data’. There is nothing wrong with that. Some roles require decisions to be made based on ‘data’. Think about doctors in an acute situation in the emergency department for example.

On the other hand if you are a thermostat you are aware of the climate, but you are not at the effect of it. The data is acknowledged but not oriented from. Instead your focus is on your connection to your intuition because there’s a pull to guide humanity forward in whatever form that is for you. Your decisions are not made from ‘data’ in the first instance. Innovators and visionary leaders live here. And because I referenced doctors in the previous paragraph, also doctors who are here to evolve the sacred nature medicine.

The thermometer responds in the moment based on data. The thermostat acknowledges the data but focusses on evolution.

Here is where the suffering exists. If you are a thermostat but you are making decisions as a thermometer, you compromise your connection to your intuition and knowing. In this compromise you kill your happiness, just as my friend has done up until now.

The root cause?

You guessed it. Undeservedness.

How to move beyond your undeservedness

1. First of all acknowledge your desire to be free of unworthiness and to be fully fucking deserving. (see previous article ‘Pressure creates diamonds’ for more on this)
2. Have the courage to look in the face of your undeservedness.
3. Have the courage to excavate what has hidden in the shadows.
4. Feel the feels until that energy passes through and no longer stings.
5. Remember not to judge yourself or blame others or circumstances. Take 100% personal responsibility for what you are uncovering about yourself.
6. Hold yourself (and others) in deep compassion, acceptance and unconditional love.
7. And then ask yourself, what is the untapped abundance within you now that wishes to grace your world?

And go and be that.

Your value is not based on anything you do or don’t do. You don’t have to ‘work hard’ to feel like you’re worth something. You don’t need to create drama to feel that you’re worthy of momentary happiness.

Choose the untapped abundance of being happy.

And watch the ripples flow.

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