The Toll of Death Transcends Time.
Time heals — so “they” say. I never believed that- still do not.
Time wanes, flies, comes, goes, stops, changes, lingers. Heals not so. This is not to be a depressing outlook just a clarity on how we use words to help us move forward. It is not of any malice just truth.
Death is viewed in many cultures as a celebration, new beginning. It can be seen as a gift to those suffering. After the initial shock of a loved one, reality sets in. The people surrounding and mourning are gone and you are left…Time continues. You are left. Raw.
Grief of the soul does not end. How can “time heal” when the soul is split, cracked and open?
Souls are not human skin.
Transparent entities outweigh time and space. Giving human characteristics to them may be altruistic, but not a reality. The grief can be obscured, secret, clouded, hidden, but healed- I don’t think so. Healing is a process by which we are made whole again. Can this ever happen?
Positive thinking, new experiences, adventures, spiritual growth all may aid and provide happiness for the weary soul. The coping with the death of a loved one comes with inner work and time has nothing to do with that all-inclusive process. For some people the end of the twirling motion of their soul may come with ease — the burden relieved from them. For others, the carousel within lingers even with consistent, positive steps toward that forever band-aid.
Shadow Work
“The idea of the shadow self was first conceived by Carl Jung, a 20th-century psychologist from Switzerland. In his field of psychology, often referred to as Jungian psychology, the word ‘shadow’ refers to hidden parts of our being. This may be parts of ourselves we try to repress because they make us feel sad or wounded. This is the side that we don’t show society, such as when we are at work or school. It can also indicate how we internally perceive ourselves as being weak or in pain — that we feel the need to hide these parts of ourselves. Carl Jung believed in the integration of the shadow side so that our full self is acknowledged, and we can live in a balanced way.”
‘Until you make the unconscious conscious, it will direct your life and you will call it fate.’ Carl Jung
The dedication to self must be paramount at times.This is a lesson I have had much difficulty with in my lifetime. Shadow work is facing ourselves in private moments, realizing our talents and faults and diligently focusing on bringing the best aspects of ourselves to the forefront. When we are forever giving and not looking to heal ourselves the work is compromised.
I have learned stillness is the key-not time.
When we come to an understanding of who we really are and what we want to accomplish on this planet at this time and place life lessons unfold. Silent times (not just moments) of reflection and tough realizations of our human frailties and wonders boost growth. This is true because we begin to understand that need we had (or have) for that person in our life that has passed. We surely can not replace them, but through shadow work and stillness we can understand ourselves a bit better. In placing ourselves paramount our soul can become restful in deep understanding. Agreed, it is a complex process, arduous at best. As I see it, there is no other healthy choice.