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The Tale of Two Black Women: VP Kamala Harris & Mrs. Michelle Obama
Both kept us talking, and one writer here gave her opinion on both and concluded that black people love Mrs. Obama more because she has children and a fashion sense. She compares the two women to insiders in the black culture. Let’s talk about the comparison.
“I have learned not to worry about love; but to honor its coming with all my heart.” ― Alice Walker.
Who do you love more, and why? Do you like a career woman more than a housewife? What about preferring fancy hair and clothing or creating something for the common good? Join the conversation.
I can listen to Michelle or Kamala. No preferences because I don’t know them. And more importantly, listen and learn from their strengths and weaknesses. Both are human beings!
As a woman, I enjoy most women, even when we disagree on issues. First, it always issues differences, not a personal attack. Second, I have differences with my mom, sisters, and daughter, yet we love, enjoy, and work together to get tips on what matters to womanhood.
There are things I’ll never discuss with my partner, brothers, or son or ask for advice on those topics. However, I always have my mates listening without interrupting me, front and center. My daughter and mother are classic listeners, inspiring me every time we have a conversation.
Please join the conversation and read Asu’s article.
“The only man we’ve ever known Michelle to be with is Barack. Period.”-Asu.
My take
The writer’s viewpoint may be familiar or strange for many black women. However, comparing the two black women with what they can and cannot control is ‘divide and rule,’ which is prevalent in our society.
According to the writer, ASU BUTTERFLY, Michelle gets more love from black people because she has children, only has sex with Mr. Obama, has nice clothing, has two working-class parents, attended IVY college, is married to a “not black enough” man, plays housewife, and Mrs. Clinton worked for them. She gets along with celebrities who never created or produced anything that positively influences more people in society.
Asu’s tone sounded defeated, emphasizing VP Harris is living with a white man.
Let’s be honest here.
As a social worker, I heard my former black colleague wanted her son to marry up. That is, she wanted her son to marry any white woman or woman who looked like a white woman. Also, this lovely colleague preferred seeing a baby boy on New Year’s Day and avoided seeing her amazing daughter or mother because she claimed it is “ bad luck” to see herself in the mirror or any other woman first thing in the morning on New Year’s Day. Wow! After many years, I still can’t believe what I heard, “Seeing a woman in the morning is bad luck.” Chew on that for a second.
The writer, ASU BUTTERFLY, may have a mother like my former colleague.
Remember, Mr. Obama’s mother was white, which may be one reason he chose and valued Michelle, a black woman who doesn’t look like a white woman.
Asu did herself and Zora community a disservice by comparing two women superficially.
But let’s examine the truth and what we can control.
Think about it; today, we have a Black woman in the US Supreme Court. We didn’t have a Black woman in the highest court for the eight years a Black man and woman were in the White House. As we know, three Justices retired, and Mr. Obama appointed three white Justices to the US Supreme Court, and we assume with Mrs. Obama’s support.
In addition, Mrs. Obama has nice hair and a sense of style — true. As always, fancy clothing or hair never puts food on the table or supports the common good, but a seat in the US Supreme Court can shape the laws in the US — for example, voting rights, abortion, functioning schools, and libraries, etc.
Can vulnerable individuals in your community access safe abortion or contraceptives? I guess Asu and his friends have a car, driver, and cash to fly or drive to New York when they need an abortion.
Asu is right.
VP Harris is not loveable by many black people because she is a career woman, not black enough, and has no child. People disdain her because she chooses not to participate in “the struggle love” or “never-ending suffering in relationships.”
Asu and his pals enjoy seeing black women suffer in a relationship. No more, the new generations of black women refuse to participate in foolish doctrine but think for themselves and put themselves first before others’ egos and unprofitable talking points.
We live in a free country. So Kalmala chose a white man who valued and married her, a man without eleven children from ten different women, and a man with less drama.
Last, Asu wrote, “ Kamala is a black token.” Wow, again! Was Hilary a white token?
Mr. Obama chose highly-qualified Mrs. Clinton to get white women’s votes, and Mr. Biden chose highly-qualified VP Harries to get black women’s votes — the game of politics. Such is life. As humans, we give and take in our life, family, community, and business. Healthy people are givers and takers.
These two accomplished black women are individuals with strengths and weaknesses, and I hope they do not hate each other.
Takeaways
Distracting ourselves with unimportant issues will never help anyone.
However, we can stop hating ourselves, comparing apples and oranges, or obsessing over superficial things in life. Instead, let’s focus on helping ourselves and others grow. Change your mindset and change your life, family, and community.
Positive self-definition lays a strong foundation for growth. Be wise.
Help yourself grow.
