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s us to always try to be above the rest (and if not, we have failed). Niven reminds us that we must also learn to lose, and above all, to move on after a defeat. Everyone loses battles; the important thing is not to lose the war.</p><h1 id="c95c">If you are not sure what will happen, be positive</h1><p id="5ccb">There is nothing more harmful than the uncertainty so typical of our days, since it leads us to mental states in which we begin to imagine only the possible negative consequences of our actions. Most of them will never occur, but even so, we consider them to be highly plausible. We do not know what the future will bring, so all we can do is try to change what is in our hands and for that we will need some positivity.</p><h1 id="ac42">Spend a Quarter of an Hour a Day Planning</h1><p id="beeb">We wake up in a hurry with the sound of the alarm clock and, 17 hours later, we go to bed with our heads like a bass drum, saturated with experiences and information. However, we haven’t spent a single second throughout the day putting our lives into perspective: have we done something that means a lot to us? Are we closer to our goal? Have we failed in our principles? Dedicating ten or fifteen minutes a day to reviewing our behavior is vital to making the changes we set out to make really work.</p><h1 id="ff55">Trust other people, team work is key</h1><p id="8e46">Trust is essential to get ahead, but too much of it can only lead to disaster. We cannot know everything, and for that reason, it is necessary to let us be advised or tutored in order to achieve our objectives more easily. Only in this way can we avoid the obstacles that hide behind every corner and that we may not be able to discover on our own.</p><h1 id="3902">Change your goals</h1><p id="00ad">There is nothing more harmful than setting impossible goals. It is important to be able to change direction at the right time and not be obsessed with the unattainable. It is not a matter of giving up, but of being a little pragmatic. Life priorities are not the same at 18 as they are at 40, so just as our lives change, so do our dreams (and that doesn’t mean we betray the teenager we once were).</p><h1 id="bc60">Your opinion about yourself matters</h1><p id="c2f0">Psychology often reminds us that the importance of things is not inherent in each event, but depends on the relevance we want to give it. It is a defense of subjectivity: it does not matter so much what good or bad happens to us as how we interpret it. Has your wife left you and therefore you will be unhappy forever or is it s

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imply a way to encourage you to meet new people? Has the dismissal ended your career or has it opened new doors?</p><h1 id="c445">Be Your Own Fan</h1><p id="b54f">That’s what Matthew McConaugey seems to have thought, who at the Oscar ceremony dedicated his award to his own self 10 years from now, since, as he explained, it’s the model that inspires him to keep going. Without going to the extremes of the True Detective protagonist, we have to maintain some self-esteem in the face of life’s ups and downs. If we don’t even believe in ourselves, there will be no one who can put their trust in us.</p><h1 id="43f7">Try not to think about what’s bothering you</h1><p id="b369">The vicious circles of negative thinking are endless and become worse with every turn. If something or someone bothers us, dislikes us or harms us, it is better to give it the right importance and ignore it, especially in our free time or when we behave with friends and family. The harm will be the same, but without the aggravation of wallowing in hate.</p><h1 id="f809">You are a person, not a stereotype</h1><p id="4cc2">We think that adapting to a certain image will make us more desirable in front of others. However, as Niven recalls, people are happier when they allow their authentic personality to come out, not when they settle for popular images. In many cases, this simulation is caused by the need to interact with the opposite sex, which is also wrong. Men who think they should act tough and women who think they should be soft are caged in a set of expectations that have nothing to do with who they really are.</p><h1 id="1e90">How We See the World Matters</h1><p id="d814">To many realists this will sound like a defense of escapism or self-deception, but like the importance of our world view, we must avoid accepting what others have to say about us and personally seek what we care about and therefore what we must fight for. In the words of Niven, “scientists, philosophers, and kings may engage in endless debate on this issue, but there is no real classification for it.</p><h1 id="1750">Remarks</h1><p id="b3c3">According to the book, having determined goals increases self-confidence by 50%. Furthermore, working with people who have different opinions and attitudes increases productivity by 14%. People who speak slowly are 38% more likely to be perceived as well-informed. Finally, 50% of CEOs say that a healthy family life is essential to a successful professional life. So your job is important but your family life should be the centre of your life.</p></article></body>

The Science of Success

Ten Tips on How to Achieve Success According to Dr. David Niven

What do successful people have in common? Scientists have studied the character, beliefs, and habits of successful people from all backgrounds and professions, but their research almost always ends up in academic publications that are read only by other scientists.

Lately I have been reading the book of Dr. David Niven, who is a bestselling author of The book 100 Simple Secrets of Successful People, which has brought together the latest and most important information from the thousands of studies that have been done on “success”, and explains the key findings in a simple and easy-to-understand language.

The 100 Secrets of Successful People offers excellent tips for achieving Success. Besides, it includes inspiring stories like that of Paul Gonzales, a man who rose from a gang-dominated neighborhood in Los Angeles, to become an Olympic gold medalist amongst others.

Dr. David Niven, a professor at Ohio University, set out a few years ago to find out, through research of a few thousand psychological and sociological studies, what are the keys that guarantee a successful life. His effort has had the expected objective (both for the readers and for his pocket) and, today, he is one of the most important divulgators in the United States, thanks to works such as 100 Simple Secrets of Successful People, a sort of concise synthesis of the conclusions of other precedent studies.

As he explains in the introduction to the first volume, “all studies on happiness have been reduced to the essentials and expressed in a way that everyone can understand”. Even so, his books continue to be useful in identifying what can contribute to our personal growth. I decided to post some of the most original ones collected in his book, which can help us all to change our behavior in the right direction.

You can’t always win

Modern society in general and the working environment in particular have pushed us towards an ultra-competitiveness that forces us to always try to be above the rest (and if not, we have failed). Niven reminds us that we must also learn to lose, and above all, to move on after a defeat. Everyone loses battles; the important thing is not to lose the war.

If you are not sure what will happen, be positive

There is nothing more harmful than the uncertainty so typical of our days, since it leads us to mental states in which we begin to imagine only the possible negative consequences of our actions. Most of them will never occur, but even so, we consider them to be highly plausible. We do not know what the future will bring, so all we can do is try to change what is in our hands and for that we will need some positivity.

Spend a Quarter of an Hour a Day Planning

We wake up in a hurry with the sound of the alarm clock and, 17 hours later, we go to bed with our heads like a bass drum, saturated with experiences and information. However, we haven’t spent a single second throughout the day putting our lives into perspective: have we done something that means a lot to us? Are we closer to our goal? Have we failed in our principles? Dedicating ten or fifteen minutes a day to reviewing our behavior is vital to making the changes we set out to make really work.

Trust other people, team work is key

Trust is essential to get ahead, but too much of it can only lead to disaster. We cannot know everything, and for that reason, it is necessary to let us be advised or tutored in order to achieve our objectives more easily. Only in this way can we avoid the obstacles that hide behind every corner and that we may not be able to discover on our own.

Change your goals

There is nothing more harmful than setting impossible goals. It is important to be able to change direction at the right time and not be obsessed with the unattainable. It is not a matter of giving up, but of being a little pragmatic. Life priorities are not the same at 18 as they are at 40, so just as our lives change, so do our dreams (and that doesn’t mean we betray the teenager we once were).

Your opinion about yourself matters

Psychology often reminds us that the importance of things is not inherent in each event, but depends on the relevance we want to give it. It is a defense of subjectivity: it does not matter so much what good or bad happens to us as how we interpret it. Has your wife left you and therefore you will be unhappy forever or is it simply a way to encourage you to meet new people? Has the dismissal ended your career or has it opened new doors?

Be Your Own Fan

That’s what Matthew McConaugey seems to have thought, who at the Oscar ceremony dedicated his award to his own self 10 years from now, since, as he explained, it’s the model that inspires him to keep going. Without going to the extremes of the True Detective protagonist, we have to maintain some self-esteem in the face of life’s ups and downs. If we don’t even believe in ourselves, there will be no one who can put their trust in us.

Try not to think about what’s bothering you

The vicious circles of negative thinking are endless and become worse with every turn. If something or someone bothers us, dislikes us or harms us, it is better to give it the right importance and ignore it, especially in our free time or when we behave with friends and family. The harm will be the same, but without the aggravation of wallowing in hate.

You are a person, not a stereotype

We think that adapting to a certain image will make us more desirable in front of others. However, as Niven recalls, people are happier when they allow their authentic personality to come out, not when they settle for popular images. In many cases, this simulation is caused by the need to interact with the opposite sex, which is also wrong. Men who think they should act tough and women who think they should be soft are caged in a set of expectations that have nothing to do with who they really are.

How We See the World Matters

To many realists this will sound like a defense of escapism or self-deception, but like the importance of our world view, we must avoid accepting what others have to say about us and personally seek what we care about and therefore what we must fight for. In the words of Niven, “scientists, philosophers, and kings may engage in endless debate on this issue, but there is no real classification for it.

Remarks

According to the book, having determined goals increases self-confidence by 50%. Furthermore, working with people who have different opinions and attitudes increases productivity by 14%. People who speak slowly are 38% more likely to be perceived as well-informed. Finally, 50% of CEOs say that a healthy family life is essential to a successful professional life. So your job is important but your family life should be the centre of your life.