The Science of Better Blowjobs

7 research-backed methods to blow his freaking mind.

Science can save blowjobs.

When it comes to sexy time, most men have a secret that they probably won’t tell you to your face. Some women and men are absolutely terrible at blowjobs.

Yet, it’s not your fault.

Most men won’t correct you because they think criticism might make you stop forever. And, well, for them the risks far outweigh the potential benefits.

Thankfully, there is a solution. There is a science of better blowjobs.

Why is this important? You probably won’t be shocked that most men love blowjobs. In fact, according to one study, 30% of men said that they would choose blowjobs over intercourse if they had to pick.

To maintain a satisfying sex life, researchers suggest that both men and women focus on balancing their own needs with fully pleasing their partners. That’s how you leverage science for mind-blowing sex.

On that note, there are 7 research-backed ways to blow him better.

Blow Him for 9–11 Minutes

Personal preferences differ on the exact timeline for the perfect blowjob. However, according to one study that involved 1,100 European and American men, the data suggests a preference for blowjobs that last between 9–11 minutes.

Perhaps more surprising is that women in the study reported that blowjobs should last longer than men:

• Women said blowjobs should last approximately 11 minutes
• Men said blowjobs should last close to 10 minutes

Another interesting takeaway from this study is that women who reported that their partners orgasmed easily were also performing the longest blowjobs.

Finally, American women performed longer blowjobs than European women. American women were also twice as likely to swallow. If you are interested, there is also a science of swallowing.

Blow Him at 7:30 AM or 3 PM

What’s the best time for a blowjob? Most men would probably say “Anytime!” and “Right now!”

I can’t argue with consensus, but research points out that the best time for blowjobs might be 7:30 in the morning — or around 45 minutes after you wake up. (How early do these researchers think we get up?! 😁)

Why is this the best time for blowjobs?

• After a full night’s sleep, both men and women typically feel replenished. More stamina can mean better blowjobs.
• Men’s testosterone levels spike in the morning. The increase in testosterone sends blood to the penis, the reason for “morning wood” or erections.

Not a morning person? No problem. Other data points out another time during the day for better blowjobs. Apparently, around 3 PM in the afternoon is when men's and women’s hormone levels sync the best for sex.

An article by Juliana LaBianca on Healthy.com points out:

For women, this is when there is still adequate cortisol hormone, and brings with it energy to engage sexually. At the same time, men have declining levels of testosterone, which makes them more emotionally present during sex.

Blow Him Right Here

To blow his mind, blow him in these two hypersensitive spots: the glans penis and the frenulum.

Never heard those terms before? No worries.

• The glans penis is better known as the head of the penis. The head contains 4,000 nerve endings making it the most sensitive part of your man’s penis.
• The frenulum is located on the “underside of the penis where the trunk meets the head.” It is the spot most responsible for male orgasms, leading some to refer to this blowjob body part as the “F spot”.

Blow Him in This Sex Position

Is there a best position for giving a blow job? Yes, but it depends on both you and the man.

For dominant men, the best position for you might be under him or below him. This can mean he is on top of you, penetrating your mouth (aka, face f*cking), or that you are kneeling in front of him.

For submissive men, the best position might be over him or on top of him, where your dominance can further arouse him.

Kayla Lords, a sexpert for JackAndJillAdult.com and the founder of LovingBDSM.net, explains it nicely:

While your physical position alone doesn’t automatically determine the tone and feeling of a blowjob, it definitely plays a big part. A partner on their knees, looking up at you, can denote submission. Being on top during a 69 can indicate a level of power. Bending over your body while you’re tied up in the bed, unable to move, is all about power. To change the dynamics of a blowjob, try changing the position.

Try different positions. Even dominant men might enjoy feeling submissive sometimes. Even submissive men might get a dominant streak.

Your comfort is also very important. If your neck or knees feel like they will fall off, odds are that you will not be able to fully focus on your enjoyment — or his orgasm.

Blow Him Just Like This

Scientists studied 190 hours of blowjob video to develop artificial intelligence software that could suck dick. Ah, science.

They even wrote a detailed research paper about it. Why? To develop the best and most lifelike male sex toy.

Here is a brief description from Vice.com:

The Autoblow AI, a sex toy made for penis-possessing individuals, consists of a rubbery sleeve and a motor housed inside a canister that aims to simulate oral sex. It launched its Indiegogo campaign last week and quickly hit its goal of $50,000. Its biggest advertised advantage over the original model from 2014, the Autoblow 2, is a machine learning algorithm that “continually changes technique” in order to pleasure the user in new and exciting ways.

Here are 10 techniques inspired by the AI blowjob paper:

1. Tip licking
2. Tip sucking
3. Shaft licking
4. Shaft sucking
5. Deep throat
6. Ball licking
7. Ball sucking
8. Slow sucking
9. Fast sucking
10. Variety

That last one is important to note. The AI was programmed with various combinations of techniques. Machine learning engineers (yes, that’s right), isolated techniques that they then programmed into the AI.

Here is how they put it:

We use quantization techniques to discover sixteen distinct motions, and using these motions we design and evaluate a system that procedurally generates realistic movement sequences using deep learning. We quantitatively show that this system is superior to simple Markov Chain techniques.

The important point here is to try different techniques, use variety, and shift among several different motion sequences.

When you find a motion or combination of motions that your man likes, stick with it.

Blow Him With Your Hands

Just like women, men differ in their most erogenous zones. When you add extra stimulation to a blowjob, you maximize his pleasure. And, likely, his orgasm.

Let your hands roam — shaft, nipples, balls, anus.

Figure out his most sensitive spots, then explore those spots with your mouth and hands while going down on him. For example, you can stroke him while you suck on his nipples. You can blow him while gently squeezing and playing with his balls.

To speed up his orgasm, try stroking his shaft the entire time (or most of the time). Especially as he gets closer to ejaculation. Don’t stop when he starts to cum. Keep stroking and pumping to make him squirm, scream, and slap the bed in pleasure.

Continous stroking may offer another, surprising benefit. Harvard research into the neuroscience behind trance states connects rhythmic motions to deeper levels of altered consciousness.

In fact, research published in the Psychological Bulletin classifies orgasm as an altered state of consciousness (ASC):

To summarize, subcortical paroxysmal and right hemispheric high-amplitude slow activity appear to be related to the partial loss of consciousness during orgasm. Along with sexual arousal andorgasm, a lateralized right hemispheric activation occurs. These modifications of the EEG clearly classify orgasm as a specific ASC not comparable to any other psychophysiological states

Altered consciousness provides many benefits: deeper emotional connection, increased pleasure, and more satisfaction in relationships.

But wait, there’s more.

Adult film producer and performer, Joanna Angel, offers you the “snake charmer” technique. Basically, you slide both of your hands up and down his lubricated penis while gently but firmly twisting your hands in opposite directions.

To maximize his orgasm, find his “P spot.” The perineum is the small area between his anus and testicles. As your man is reaching orgasm, reach down there, and use your knuckles to “apply pressure while sliding it [your knuckles] back and forth.”

Trust me, he might just start screaming in tounges.

Blow Him With Your Words

At first blush, your words might not seem like an important element of better blowjobs. Science disagrees.

A 2017 study published in the Archives of Sexual Behavior found a connection between sexy language and orgasms. As mentioned earlier, researchers have compared the rhythmic cadence of blowjobs to trance.

One of the methods to induce and deepen a meditative trance is to use strategic language. An article in Science Focus explains how hypnotic trances can powerfully affect the body:

Another powerful altered state, hypnosis, also involves highly focused attention. When patients listen to the voice of a hypnotherapist this creates a state of absorption that temporarily suspends activity in parts of their prefrontal cortex responsible for executive control. This enhances their suggestibility, allowing the therapist to supplant the rigid cognitive models responsible for things like overeating in obesity, phobias such as fear of needles, and chronic pain.

Long story short, the combination of your rhythmic motions and language can maximize your partner’s altered state of consciousness and, therefore, his orgasm.

Research published in the journal of Socioaffective Neuroscience & Psychology suggests that multi-sensory feedback loops during sex strengthen focus and pleasure.

What this means for you is that your words, assurances, expressions of pleasure (moans, for example), and positive communication can help your man orgasm more powerfully.

So, let him know how much you enjoy blowing his freaking mind.

Final Thoughts & Takeaways

There’s a lot of science behind better blowjobs. These 7 research-based methods are sure to have him begging for more.

In summary, here are the 7 moves:

1. Blow him for 9–11 minutes
2. Blow him in the morning or mid-afternoon
3. Blow him right here: on his penis head and frenulum
4. Blow him in a submissive or dominant position
5. Blow him with a variety of motions and movements
6. Blow him with your hands
7. Blow him with your words

Careful. He may just become addicted to you. 😈