The Road To Accomplishing My Dreams Is Only But A Chance Away
And I intend to keep on working every day until that opportunity arrives, and my dreams are realized.
Ever since we were little we have been dreaming. We were perhaps taught to dream big, and dreaming we did. Our imagination flourished, and perhaps we were able to build castles and slay skeletons in our dungeons. Childhood became a memory we reminisce upon every day. When we grew up, we started to bear witness how our dreams, were classified as impractical but nobody ever told us the fragility of a dream, of how one call falls prey to despair when such a dream doesn’t become fulfilled. Perhaps, many people in this world would dare to dream but would get beaten by life’s sheer impossibilities.
Some people might give up on their dreams, while some would work day in and day out to the point they would eventually burn out. These burned-out people would become susceptible to poor health and would lose to the struggle of life, while some would make it but many would not. This is perhaps one of the most detrimental aspects of those who dream to make it real. The struggles of life that will put you down, If you aim to make your thoughts a reality.
It is a stressful, painstaking process that will take away much leisure of life to the point that many would be left. One dream that you were hoping to make will break, as the impossibilities and certain factors will stop you to give up such a dream. Now I’m not here to criticize those give up on their dreams. I believe I too have given up on some dreams. Sometimes, It can’t be done. Many factors contribute towards one’s success and sometimes where a person hails from is also an important factor in one’s success.
“All that we see or seem is but a dream within a dream.” ― Edgar Allan Poe
Not everyone person who ever strived for something great in life had it easy. All of them had significant struggles. Some gave up a dream to fulfill the dreams of others. Others gave up a dream, to pursue another. Being realistic for your dreams helps you a lot. If somebody tells you otherwise, they are trying to sell you something. It is perfectly okay to give up on some dreams, I know it hurts. It hurts to see that all that effort you put into that dream, failed and you suffered a blow to your heart and soul including the mental fatigue that one bears through such an ordeal are unfathomable.
When I was but a child, I was fascinated with the stars so much so that I wanted to become an Astronaut. I was growing up — once asked my parents that I wanted to go to space camp to NASA. My father came to me and told me that how will you apply. I asked him to visit the site, I saw an advertisement on the Discovery Channel. I was still fairly a teen and was excited. My father even contacted someone at NASA through Skype — back in the early days of it perhaps.
The program cost was so high, back then I asked my father to not apply. I have always seen how hard my parents worked ever since I was a kid. I would come and ask them If they had some spare cash, a few coins or so that I would save so that I could spend them to buy gifts for them on their birthdays.
For me, this was perhaps my dream to make my parents happy and do not push them to get me things that I don’t need. Even as a child I used to look at my father when she would work. I would perhaps sit in her office, while she would do the hard work day in and day out. I would perhaps come and surprise and hug her every now and then so that she feels happy.
This was my dream as a child to make my parent’s life easy. I saw the struggles my parents had persevered through. I saw how they persisted in tough times. You could even ask my parents or the people that have known me as a child. They can certainly tell you that I was a child who’d never ask for a dime from anyone.
I would savor what was given to me, and I would save to gain a higher sum so I can perhaps buy something good and share it with everyone. I would dream, of the fancy treats I would buy and perhaps run to my mother and give her some of her shares. I would then save it for when I’d go home I would share it with my siblings.
I would dream about science and how I would explore the stars and the empty space as I would stay outside in the night with my father as we would look towards the sky and see a few shooting stars sometimes. The Big Dipper is perhaps my favorite, one that I always see whenever I go outside. Even though growing up, I gave up on a dream of going to NASA. I intended on reaching there, through another means. I thought of going into material or electrical engineering.
So I pursued that endeavor, my journey had started. I had bought books, upon books and I would study. I would also use the internet using a telephone cable. Back then broadband internet wasn’t that famous, we used the local dial-up internet. I remember I once downloaded Lady Gaga’s Judas Album on Dial-up It took me 3 days to download it. This was probably a decade ago, I just wanted to see how fun it would be.
When I reached my mid-teen years, those were perhaps the hardest of my life. They perhaps took a toll on me, my health, and my life at best. I had to give up on my dreams, for a while. My priorities had shifted, even though my aim to become an astronaut was perhaps put on hold for the many years to come. My high school years weren’t that bright. I struggled with ADHD and more or less tough life.
My results had significantly been dropping, to the point somebody perhaps told my parents “it was best if they put me into labor, instead of school” — as a dumb mule is better than a dead one or something like that. The actual thing is far worse to say to a child who already, is perhaps fighting his ultimate of life, in reality, I never really cared for such judgments. They couldn’t do anything to me, and they knew it.
Never have I feared failure, I have welcomed it. It has always transformed me into someone I never dreamt of.
For my teenage years, they have perhaps shaped me into a tough man. I dreamt to escape the hell of a life, it had become but it doesn’t mean I didn’t have fun. I learned from an early to prioritize even when it came to sadness and pain. My mind perhaps is like prioritizing supercomputer — the feelings that are perhaps soul-crushing are dead last. I do experience them thoroughly including my emotions but at a later time when no such important task is needed to be done.
I perhaps realized something phenomenal, I learned the art of dealing with people. It developed my skills to interact and converse with all kinds of people. I could change and mask myself anywhere if I wanted to. I could empathize and relate to anyone and everyone that I interacted with.
My focus changed as I grew, I decided to dream to become someone that could build solutions and help people. In my dreams, I would be coming up with solutions. My dreams would guide me, towards them. I would use those tricks in the trade to help people. In my senior year, perhaps I was a rowdy lad perhaps. I was kind, bold, and had a calm sentiment. Three catalysts for influence, I learned from someone who was perhaps a Swindler of sorts. He was a confidante of a dear friend from high school.
Highschool was perhaps like going to Slytherin — I learned the dark arts. My company was filled with roughnecks who had been in high school for a while. I was able to study people, and learn their secrets. I got close to let's say quote-unquote “shady” people. One thing I learned during that time there is no black and white when it comes to people.
We do it for simplicity because we don’t want to feel the guilt of labeling someone good or bad — they are so much more than just that. I dreamt to understand psychology of people, who better would teach me those ways than “shady” people. I was stuck with them for a while so I learned by studying though I never had a mentor, I became my own.
“Those who dream by day are cognizant of many things which escape those who dream only by night.” ― Edgar Allan Poe
My dream was perhaps left away, to a place in the heavens where it still reaches out sometimes when I look towards the night sky. I pursued my engineering dream, even then my life had given me a fair share of problems — opportunities that made me a better man. But I suffered poorly in results too, because of ADD. Still, I was able to make it to a renowned engineering military college. Now I was slowly, aiming to improve the things I left on hold, during my high school and teenage years.
I started to work, every day and in no less than 3 years. I was back on track on the books, and track to become perhaps an Engineer aiming to reach NASA or the alternatives such as SETI and vice-versa. Something I learned during my teenage years was that always dream many a dream. Keep your back up plans always in check. Putting it all on the line, for a dream is foolish. You don’t know when your life will end or a catastrophe will set. Putting all your cards on the line is a childish ploy, be smart, and be realistic about your options.
During my journey, I had an epiphany — there was something I could do with the skills I had built over the years. It was a product management role. This was perhaps half a decade ago. I changed my majors and pursued a major in Software Engineering and Management Science. I would have been a graduate by now, a post-doctoral one to be fair If I had a straight road like many others like me. But I believe If I look back, I am happier to have become wiser, and more satisfied with life.
It was hard painful and really tough to be where I am. Some people who have known my journey can’t really believe I made so many years When I was a teen my only dream was to live another day. When I transitioned into an adult my dream was to complete my studies and perhaps get on track. I worked for 7 long years, and now I’m here writing this personal essay of pushing towards your dreams. I had other dreams as well, along with becoming an Astronaut. I wasn’t that sad, I dreamt to grow into an adult and have a chance to spend my youth with my grandmother, and that I did.
My grandmother recently passed away, last June. It has been a tough year yet again for me but so is every other year I have gotten used to it that I welcome hardships. I was able to help people build their dreams to fruition using the failures I persevered through.
I became a mentor, one that I never dreamt of.
There is something I understood in life, we always become things we never dream of. Because life influences us and takes us places that we never thought of. There are many purposes in life, an individual can take. If one dream goes down, you should have a wall of dreams lined up. Just because life treats you bad doesn’t mean you can’t build greater walls to knock it.
Become knock proof. If life hits you down, at least let it feel the pain along with the push that it shoves you. Brush it off , Stand up and keep walking — in some cases run and let it chase you.
Sooner or later things calm down eventually, If you believe in yourself and God. A product manager perhaps is one that I intend on cracking. There are other dreams as well that I want to pursue as well. Ones that are backed with knowledge and skills and promising ambitions and resolve. My experience has served me well, When I look back all those years, I was there where I needed to be though I do aspire to go somewhere great. But I am perhaps someone who would always try to take things together. My love for the people in my life pushes me to become the man they aspired for me when I was young.
My resolve is fashioned through decades of persistence, grit, and mettle. There is a role for everyone, and if you’re hardworking and persistent you might even make the cut for many.
Dreams are like a stepping stone, You might set one but if you never work for it. It will just stay a dream, some will become real. Others might never, unless you share that dream with another.
Always remember to be realistic, in your goals. Lofty ideals seem to float well, in the air but when you put your weight on them — they will crash taking you down with them. They are like life, one small step and things might become tough so persist through them. My advice, take the hard road whenever you feel the need to. It might be tiring but the relishing it rewards is excelsior.
I am still working to make it to my dream, every day. Other dreams I pursue as well. Some I fulfilled that I never dreamt of becoming and some I gave for another. A dream can be anything — it can be a love for one’s self, family, others, or goals.
There is always a room of opportunity in hardships, and I look for those moments whenever they would arrive. I will grasp them and never let go. Look out for them, as they will always present as trials that will make you quit, and the key trick is to give up where needed but never quit.
To live another day, to dream, plan, work the process through, and then finally try again another way. You’ll fit somewhere, as there is always a role where you can fit if you learn how to and that comes with practice. So go on out there and fail until you make it.
For me, I have a thousand dreams to pursue and so little time. You should get right to it then, as should I. Take care.
Life is short, but can be really long — at times it’s fast and will hit you like a brick. It’s hard and will make you bleed. It will hurt and will break your dreams. But one thing matters, as it will cause you to ease if you always believe in your trials that life sends to test your dreams. Peace.
Thank you for reading.
Stay Blessed and Stay Safe!