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The web content provides guidance on how to respond to unsolicited parenting advice from grandparents, balancing respect and boundaries while maintaining composure.

Abstract

The article titled "The Right and Wrong Way to Respond to Parenting Advice From Your Parents" offers humorous yet practical advice for new parents on handling well-intentioned but often intrusive parenting tips from their own parents. It emphasizes the importance of maintaining calm and using tactful responses to preserve family harmony, while also setting clear limits on the advice that is acceptable. The article acknowledges the challenges of modern parenting and the generational differences in child-rearing practices, suggesting that a balance can be struck between appreciating the wisdom of elders and asserting one's own parenting choices.

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  • The article suggests that while grandparents' advice comes from a place of excitement and care, it can sometimes be overwhelming or outdated.
  • It is important to respond to grandparents' advice with patience and a sense of humor, rather than with aggression or sarcasm.
  • The right responses are those that acknowledge the grandparents' concerns without necessarily adopting their advice, providing reassurance or factual information to ease their worries.
  • The wrong responses are characterized by a lack of respect or an overly defensive attitude, which can lead to family tension and conflict.
  • The article implies that modern parenting often involves more research and consideration of child development, which can differ significantly from past practices.
  • There is an underlying tone of exasperation with the frequency and directness of the advice given by grandparents, coupled with a recognition of their good intentions.
  • The use of humor is recommended as a coping mechanism for dealing with the stress of unsolicited advice, as well as a way to defuse potentially confrontational situations.

Not a personal essay I swear

The Right and Wrong Way to Respond to Parenting Advice From Your Parents

Keep calm, breathe, then tell them to piss off

This is how I taught them to smile for photos. I am a good parent. Photo by Brian Lundquist on Unsplash

Your parents are excited to be grandparents. So excited that they just love to offer helpful advice at any and all moments. Here are some suggested responses to help you when the going gets tough, as well as lessons learned from those whose self-control ran out faster than baby formula at the supermarket. Grandparent: You shouldn’t wrap him so tight, he looks like he’s in a straight jacket. Right response: It’s not too tight Mum, but it stops him waking himself up. Wrong response: You think that’s tight? Wait until they tie you to the bed in the nursing home. Grandparent: Why is she so tiny? You’re not feeding her enough. Right response: She does look a bit small, but don’t worry, the midwife said her weight is the 55th percentile. Wrong response: I’ve just spent 23 of the last 24 hours breastfeeding. If you say she looks hungry again, I’m going to put you in a soup. Grandparent: What’s wrong with a dash of whisky in the bottle? It never hurt any of my kids. Right response: (laugh sincerely) Oh Alfred, you’re such a character! Wrong response: Ah, you forgetting about Tim? It takes him 45 minutes to put socks on and he repeated fourth grade until he was 28 years old.

Mine prefers tequila. Photo by Lucy Wolski on Unsplash

Grandparent: Why do you let her spend so much time playing games? She might turn into a violent hooligan. Right response: She is only allowed an hour each day, and research actually suggests small to moderate amounts of gaming can help socialisation and problem-solving skills. Wrong response: Video games grant me one hour of respite in the day. In that hour I prepare dinner, vacuum, fold the washing, do their homework, and listen to your 1940s parenting advice. If she decides to destroy anything, I hope it’s your face.

Now they can perfect their chair throwing technique in VR. Photo by Minh Pham on Unsplash

Grandparent: All those nappies must be expensive. We had to use cloth you know. Right response: Yes, that must have been tough. Fortunately, these days environmentally friendly nappies cause less harm than running your washing machine all day for reusable nappies. Wrong response: I don’t give a shit if you used cloth, cotton or sandpaper. We’re not living with the Flintstones anymore. Grandparent: You need to organise his ‘relevant religious initiation ceremony.’ This isn’t about you your strange beliefs. I don’t want my grandchild going to hell. Right response: He can make up his own mind about religion when he’s old enough to understand it. Until then, you are welcome to pray for him. Wrong response: If your god is willing to send someone to hell for not having water splashed on his face, then my child is staying as far away from that lunatic as possible. Now piss off while I read little Lucifer his Richard Dawkins bedtime story.

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