Summary

The article suggests that men who are not successful in attracting women often display needy behavior, and the key to becoming more attractive is to adopt an attitude of scarcity and self-sufficiency, as if one already has a girlfriend.

Abstract

The content of the article posits that the reason men may struggle with attracting women is that they exhibit behaviors that signal a lack of options and desperation. Drawing a parallel to job hunting, the author argues that just as employers are less likely to hire someone who appears desperate for a job, women are less attracted to men who seem overly eager for their attention. The article advises men to act as if they are already in a relationship, which includes being less available, responding more slowly, and having a life outside of pursuing romantic interests. This approach is not about playing games but rather about demonstrating higher status and self-assurance, which are naturally attractive traits. By focusing on personal interests and passions, men can inadvertently increase their attractiveness to women.

Opinions

Women are attracted to men who seem to be desired by other women, as it signals high status and options.
Desperation in dating, similar to job hunting, can lead to a lower chance of success.
Men should adopt behaviors that suggest they are not desperate for a relationship, such as being less eager and more selective with their time.
The concept of scarcity increases perceived value; being less available can make a man more desirable.
Acting as if one has a girlfriend can paradoxically help in finding a girlfriend, as it communicates pre-selection and confidence.
Pursuing personal interests and passions can naturally lead to attracting a partner, as it demonstrates a fulfilling life outside of dating.

The Reason Women Aren’t Attracted To You

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I flee that which chases me, and chase that which flees me — Ovid.

You know what’s kinda funny?

You ever notice how banks only lend money…

To people who prove they don’t need money?

You see dating is the same way.

Women are attracted to men…

Who appear to already be attractive to other women.

The reason women aren’t attracted to you is simply this:

You’re currently behaving like a man that clearly doesn’t get women.

Here’s how you can fix it:

The Irony Of Life

Dating is a lot like applying for a job right?

When you desperately need a job, it’s clear in your interviews and guess what the interviewers start thinking?

“Hmm if other places don’t want to hire this guy, maybe we’re missing something. We should sit this one out.”

Guy’s my rent’s due like tomorrow, like I NEED this job.

But then the second you get a job and the desperation disappears guess what happens in the interviews?

You don’t act desperate and they go wonderfully.

Example:

When I applied for a job out of a college with no experience I got ZERO interviews.

After I applied for a job with a job already, I applied to 5 places, and got 4 offers.

Why?

Because I no longer had the stench of desperation.

So how can you apply this in real life?

If you currently don’t have a girlfriend.

Simply ACT like you would if you did.

You’d take longer to respond
You’re less eager
You wouldn’t hang out as much because you had plans with ya girl already

You become SCARCE.

What do people do when things are scarce?

Their value goes up.

If this sounds like playing games, try looking at this way instead.

Would you want to date a girl who was ALWAYS available?

Would you want to date a girl who DESPERATELY wanted to date you?

You’d probably think, “geez this girl needs to get a life, why does she want to date me so much is something wrong with her?”

In a Nutshell

Women don’t find you attractive because you’re demonstrating low status behavior.

Through your actions you demonstrate you don’t attract women.

But ironically women like men who already have women, it’s social proof.

When someone clearly doesn’t have options they’re:

Always free
Always down to hang out
Always eager to jump to the occasion

The solution?

Literally just act like you have a girlfriend, and it’ll probably get you a girlfriend.

Or better yet, just find something you care about more than dating, and spend your time prioritizing that until you find someone you want to keep.

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