The Reality of Female Sexual Superiority

Why I honor women on a sensuous pedestal

Power and sexuality is an emotionally charged subject and worthy of much more depth than this article will uncover.

In my stumbling way, my premise is that women through the centuries have always held sexual power or superiority over men, despite not being allowed to vote, own property, and even being treated like property.

But I don’t want to turn this into a post-grad research paper. Where’s the fun in that?

I’d rather describe the beauty and admiration I have for women, living forms of fine art. Lest I be judged as sexist, I can also find men attractive sexually and have enjoyed some guy-on-guy interactions, but I find women more sexually powerful.

I’ll re-wind my thoughts to childhood, leafing through my mother’s Cosmopolitan magazines and lingering over the ads in the back where the lingerie models held residence. I’d peer minute after minute at the thumbnails and found a shapely woman dressed in a baby doll nightie powerfully arousing.

The turn-on came not just from the body and the sheer clothing, but the model’s eyes and attitude that I sensed and imagined. Something more than just the physical was communicated, but in my adolescence and well into my adult years, I couldn’t identify that charisma.

I’m certainly not the first man to admire a woman, or, really, her femininity. And that’s the essence of a woman’s power.

What is femininity?

A feminine vibe is more than the physical and percolates from within. There’s a graciousness and poetry-in-motion associated with what is uniquely feminine.

Here are two examples. As a boy early in grade school, a couple of us were playing at a friend’s house near the road. His mother came, got the mail, and when she turned to walk back down the road I noticed this rolling motion that her hips made and we watched in fascination.

In the old comic strip, B.C., the same topic was mentioned with a family of ants. A boy ant and his father ant were outside. The mother walks by with two little lines drawn around her hips to illustrate motion and the boy says, “Mom sure has a funny way of walking.”

The dad ant replies, “Son, her funny way of walking is why you’re standing here today.”

Another way to appreciate the allure is through the graceful movements used in traditional Thai dancing. How women turn their wrists, lift their legs, turn their ankles and move slowly and rhythmically exudes feminine energy.

A woman’s physicality triggers internal reactions in men and I’d say that’s powerful.

Defining female sexual superiority

A man is attracted by what he sees and those images come alive in his psyche. He can be pulled to a woman like a bug to a zapper.

Picture a beach with women in one-piece or two-piece bathing suits walking, lying stretched on towels, and splashing in the water. It’s easy for a man to fall totally in love, for a few minutes, anyway, before he gets enamored with another woman and falls in love, for a few minutes. And then hopelessly repeats the process.

That’s a surface attraction, isn’t it?

A man can go sexually ballistic over a woman’s looks, while a woman typically makes a man work to gain access to her heart and emotions. He has to speak a certain way, pull in the reigns of his lust and find the clues to her heart.

Women can have their pick of men; however, the frustration for women is that they’d rather have a quality guy they can speak with and relate to and not a quantity of jerks acting like animals to choose from.

A man can’t just power his way through for a successful relationship. A woman embodies the phrase, “The best sex is in the mind” and he has to woo sensuality out of her.

A woman’s sexuality is more internal than of the body, while a man is more physical. Yes, men often think with their penises.

Has that ever been me? Since I’m authoring this article in such a scholarly way — okay, I confess, it’s been me, too.

This dynamic leads to a sexual power that women possess.

Men may physically overpower women to get the sex they crave, but that doesn’t mean they’re sexually powerful. In fact, it points to a man’s sexual weakness.

A woman has more ability in using her sexuality to get what she wants from a man.

If you took a course in literature, you may have read the ancient Greek play Lysistrata. Remember that? It’s a timeless comedy that was written by Aristophanes about 2,500 years ago in 411 B.C.

Women wanted to end the Peloponnesian War between the Greek city-states using a clever strategy — they’d withhold sex. The comedy comes from noting that’s the only thing men truly wanted to have and the only way that they’d get sex was to stop fighting.

Admiring feminine sexual superiority through history

Men see women in an artistic way as in the ancient art of belly dancing, also known as Oriental dance, may have started as a fertility ritual dance. An excellent description of the history and how the hips and stomach rotate is given by a dancer in New Jersey known as Sasha.

Rock carvings estimated to be 17,000 years old and the Babylonian myth of Ishtar from about 4,500 B.C. point a form of what we call belly dancing.

While men in Middle Eastern culture dance as well as women, it’s the woman whose body has a unique way of being celebrated.

How about a woman’s dancing leading to death?

In the biblical story of John the Baptist, he’s arrested by King Herod who had taken his brother’s wife and was angry that John accused the king of doing something unlawful.

Then Herod’s birthday came around and the “daughter of Herodias” danced for the guests and pleased Herod — another way of saying he was aroused, in my interpretation. He promised to give her whatever she wanted.

Her mother took advantage of the king’s weakness and wanted John’s head on a platter (Gospel of Matthew 14). Herod followed through on his promise and John lost his head because of a woman’s pleasing dance.

Dancing is a powerful expression of a woman’s sexuality.

Today, think of pole dancing and strip clubs. Men like to stop in for a drink and gaze on women’s bodies. They’re willing to pay $40, $75 or $100 in a private room for a woman to move and writhe in front of them and slide up and down their legs while being forbidden to touch.

Women going to strip clubs to see men is much more novel and an unlikely event. An article in Refinery 29 from 2017 highlights the need for women to have a storyline, appealing not just to the visual but also to the mental aspects of a woman’s sexuality.

Female sexual superiority’s impact on me

I thought about this article for about a week before writing it. I started a few times and then stopped to masturbate. It’s a deeply arousing topic and one that I find important.

And I don’t consider myself a weak man or sexually emasculated. I’ve realized that I admire women who are friendly, approachable, and yet emotionally strong.

Women also don’t need bodies like Barbie to have their mystique penetrate my thoughts.

Several years ago, I had a lover who wound up being sexually submissive to me. Although, I joked with her that no woman is truly submissive.

She was black, BBW and her sexual prowess came through her attitude. She was seductive, feminine, and enjoyed my way of communicating when I wrote her.

I’ve become more sexually submissive to women, although the word submissive doesn’t capture what’s really going on inside me. It’s an admiration for a woman that’s so strong that I want her to express her sexuality to the fullest and set out the framework and parameters in the relationship.

That may be why I’ve been writing female-led and cuckold erotic fiction recently. I’m fascinated by a man wanting to yield his sexual desires to his wife, watch her with other men, and yet still serve her needs.

To me, that reverberates in my psyche like sound waves from a gong.

I was sexually submissive to a woman who was naturally dominant. She caned me, flogged me often, and even used steel clamps on my nipples, but my greatest thrill was crawling to her as she leaned against a wall or bed and kissed up her thighs and to her ass.

That was an intense form of body worship, leading me to revere her.

In the past few years, and I never thought this would happen — and I mean, never — I’ve experienced a level of financial domination from a woman I never met. Simply by online interactions and letting her into my mind, I became enamored and seduced that I found a way of having sex was to admire her and tribute.

I edged my cock while texting her or looking at her pictures or video and that connected my arousal with her at an emotional level. It was captivating in a strange way I had never experienced. That was another way I learned more about what I call female sexual superiority.

But here’s how I see the dynamic at its fullest and most positive. I want to live in a community, be understood, and be appreciated for who I am, including my sexuality.

Both sexes complement each other.

A woman who allows that and accepts me is someone I will truly admire and desire. While I like admiring from a distance, I appreciate the privilege of admiring from the closeness that comes with a relationship.

Female sexual superiority is intoxicating, beautiful, and powerful.