The Real Problem with Men is Emotional

This scenario occurs far too often

I wanted to discuss one of the main problems that men face. This problem is the inability to deal with their emotions. This is because of the way we bring men up in this world.

Men are taught that they should be tough and that they should never show their emotions. You look like a weakling when you show your emotions. How often do we see women crying? This occurs all the time. How often do we see men crying?

Crying is a natural emotion. It’s something that we should feel free to do at any time. It’s a way for us to express our feelings. We have to let our emotions out because when we keep them inside, they do us more harm than we realize.

One of the common ways men express themselves is through anger. You can’t get in the man’s personal space, or he will crush you like an ant. Anger is men’s way of protecting themselves from their environment around them. Have you ever heard something along the lines of the following?

“Dan’s a real nice guy, but don’t mess with him. He will destroy you.”

Do You Want to Meet Dan?

A lot of guys would say that Dan is just protective. He doesn’t want anyone to mess with this stuff. The main problem Dan can’t express his emotions in a positive way. He doesn’t want anyone inside his box because he has to protect it. The only way he can protect it is the show other men that he will destroy them.

You will never catch Dan crying. This would mean that he’s a failure. His emotions must be kept in check at all times. This is how he was raised. If he shows his emotions, he’s considered weak and a pussy.

“Stop being a pussy, you pathetic whimp.”

He’s been taught growing up that you have to be tough in every single situation. If someone makes a mistake of coming onto his property through no fault of their own, he’s going to pick up his shotgun and blow their head off. In reality, Dan is not a nice guy. In fact, Dan would terrify a lot of people.

Dan is in Trouble Emotionally

Dan is a ticking time bomb. Dan is about to go off.

Dan finishes working on his car. It takes his new hot girlfriend to the bar with his buddies. Dan always needs to act tough around his buddies. He can’t be seen as a wimp. He can’t show his emotion because he doesn’t want his friends to call him a pussy.

Dan is having a great time in the bar with his girlfriend. He’s talking with his friends, and everyone is dancing. In the back of his mind, Dan sees other men looking at his girlfriend. Dan is covered in tattoos and has arms the size of tree trunks. He looks like this because he wants to intimidate other men. He doesn’t want other men getting into his space. He certainly doesn’t want other men looking at his girlfriend or even asking her for a simple dance.

Other men in the bar really aren’t interested in his girlfriend. They simply want to have a good time and do some dancing. Normal healthy individuals will dance with other people’s partners. Dan can’t allow this. No one will mess with his woman.

Dave is About to Have a Bad Night

Dave had too much to drink and is going to another bar before going home. This bar happens to be the one that Dan is in. Dan himself is already quite drunk and being extra protective of his woman. He’s spent his entire life not being able to deal with his emotions because he’s been told not to. In a few moments, Dan will snap.

Dave stumbles around, and as Dan and his girlfriend are coming off the dance floor, Dave spills his drink on Dan’s girlfriend. Dave immediately apologizes, but it’s no use.

The anger has built up in Dan all of his life. All the pain and hurt that he’s gone through and could never express is going to manifest itself in something that happens far too often.

Dan thinks that Dave is trying to hit on his girlfriend. He makes a giant fist, and it connects with poor Dave’s face, which shatters his teeth. Dave hits the floor in a giant heap, weeping uncontrollably in massive pain. Dan’s girlfriend starts bawling her eyes out. Dan tells his girlfriend is going to be okay and that she’s safe. He says she doesn’t need to worry about it. Dan is there to protect her because he loves her. No one messes with his woman.

Dan can’t be seen as a pussy in the bar. He did what he thought was necessary to protect his woman. Little does Dan know is that his life is going to be over for the next few years. Cops are called to the assault, and Dan is arrested. It takes quite a long time to actually arrest Dan because he’s flying off the handle thanks to the alcohol and the testosterone that’s been flowing through his body after he’s just smashed Dave’s face in.

Dan Needs to Express his Emotions

Had Dan been able to express his emotions throughout his life he probably wouldn’t be the man that he is today. He would be a far better man. He would have seen the altercation in the bar as a simple accident by a man that’s had too much to drink. He would have laughed at the situation, sat down with Dave, and made sure he got a cab ride home.

Be Emotional, it’s OK

When my father died, I couldn’t cry. I wanted to let those emotions out, but since I’m a man, it wouldn’t happen.

I did cry eventually when my wife was at work. I was sitting down and trying to write an article. I looked over at the picture of both of my parents. At that moment, I cried, and I did so for a long time.

I did it again after I cleaned out my parent’s house. All the memories came flooding back, and the emotions came out.

It was the manliest thing I ever did.