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er things, as well — things we would never intentionally put in jeopardy.</p><p id="c31f">And that’s my not-so-subtle way of introducing what is usually the most overlooked yet critical component in most goal-setting presentations — the conscious act of recognizing what’s already working in your life, especially the people, places, and things you should never put at risk.</p><h1 id="48b4">I’m talking about the very real possibility of paying too much to achieve a goal.</h1><p id="ccf8">The symptoms are most obvious in those who are <i>goal-obsessed</i> — consumed with uncommon dedication to their life’s objectives.</p><p id="a0c7">These are the people who compete with sheer drive and overwhelming determination. They always arrive early and work late. They forego vacations in favor of “catching up on the paperwork.” They watch their kids grow up as strangers, and their wives become little more than someone they plan to grow old with.</p><h2 id="19bd">Granted, real accomplishment is seldom achieved without sacrifice.</h2><p id="f58d">And every goal, whether realized or not, <a href="https://readmedium.com/roger-reid-live-an-extraordinary-life-a4df07356a74">comes with a price</a>. Most of us understand that pursuing the things we want often means re-prioritizing other facets of our life — including those having intrinsic or emotional value that’s easy and often convenient to overlook.</p><p id="30f5">We even promise ourselves we’ll make it up in the future, as if we’re putting that part of our life on hold — just temporarily — until we’ve arrived at our desired destination. At least that’s what we tell ourselves.</p><p id="4cbd">The result?</p><h1 id="b659">Without realizing it, we put the most important touchstones of our lives at risk.</h1><p id="fd8a">Those touchstones can be your spouse, your kids, or family members. It can also be your existing degree of financial security, or your health, or your ability to recognize the needs of others who are counting on you.</p><h2 id="3965">Think you’re immune?</h2><p id="4912">Think again. Those destined to become the most accomplished are the most susceptible.</p><p id="39e4">Our natural tendency is to prioritize our time and attention in favor of the new and compelling. But never allow an obsessive preoccupation with any of your goals to result in the most important facets of your life becoming an expendable part of your future.</p><p id="5d4f">The danger comes from being so caught up in the day-to-day striving for success, we never consider the possibility that, with less attention, devotion, or commitment, our most important touchstones <a href="https://taylorstracks.com/reaching-your-goal-wont-make-you-happier/">can easily be lost</a> to neglect and indifference.</p><h1 id="0703">So, how do we avoid letting those vital touchstones slip through the crack?</h1><p id="6831">The key is to identify the <a href="https://readmedium.com/roger-reid-6-timeless-traits-of-family-leadership-b8cc2e102d12">non-negotiable fundamentals</a> in your life, and protect them with a commitment to keep them whole and healthy for the long term.</p><p id="f171"><b>Why go to such lengths to formally identify the parts of our lives we already acknowledge as important?</b> Because it’s part of our nature to discount the stable, nurturing, and comfortable aspects of our lives when those things are an established part of our experience. The fact that they already exist — as opposed to being something we don’t have and are longing for — makes them ideal candidates to take for granted.</p><p id="1f79">It’s seldom our plan to intentionally damage our relationship with our spouse or family. We don’t deliberately set out to destroy long-held friendships or neglect the parts of our lives that give us comfort. But unfortunately, it happens a little at a time — a missed birthday here, a forgotten anniversary there — and over the years, it adds up.</p><h2 id="615a">Unintentional indifference can extract a heavy toll, especially on primary relationships.</h2><p id="6c9e">After decades of neglect, the fire goes out — because it wasn’t tended, fed, or supported. In essence, it was allowed to die. And now, each partner finds themselves living with a stranger of convenience.</p><p id="dacb">If you want to avoid this destructive side-effect of pursuing career and life goals with a single-minded obsession, the process is simple:</p><h1 id="7031">Make a list of all the things in your life that are important to you.</h1><p id="a744">Include the things that are positive, make a difference in your attitude, give you pleasure, and motivate you. Bottom line, you’re identifying the things you enjoy, appreciate, and fill you with gratitude.</p><p id="00ab">If you don’t want to call them touchstones, call them foundational elements, or your base support system. But regardless of what you call them, these are your reasons for getting up in the morning, for going to work, for coming home — because you know those things are waiting for you.</p><p id="4ac2">This list is your personal reminder of <a href="https://readmedium.com/roger-reid-the-secret-to-living-a-happy-life-509f789e5766">what must come first</a>, <i>and what must always be protected</i> as you continue to work toward a more rewarding life.</p><h2 id="7138">They’re also the things you don’t gamble with.</h2><p id="10be">Because without them — even th

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ough you achieve your most ambitious goals — your life won’t have the same meaning.</p><p id="6ef7">Your achievements won’t bring you the same level of satisfaction and pleasure you’d hoped to receive. And you’ll realize — too late — that the people closest to you, the ones you’d assumed would always be there to celebrate with you, to share in your victories, and enjoy your success, are no longer a part of your life.</p><h1 id="c902">Not sure what to put on your list?</h1><p id="9b90">I’ll give you a peek at mine.</p><ul><li><b>The first thing on my list is my wife</b>. She’s smart, takes care of her health, and works with a sense of dedication and persistence that gives her the advantage of being successful at whatever she chooses to do. And most importantly, she puts up with me. I would never consider pursuing any objective that would put my relationship with her at risk.</li><li><b>My second touchstone is maintaining control over my time and personal schedule</b>. I was never a “good” employee. I failed miserably at “normalizing” my personality, behavior, and disposition to fit into a corporate bureaucracy.</li><li><b>My third touchstone is where I live.</b> For the last ten years, my wife and I have lived on the gulf coast of Florida. I’ve become accustomed to 75 degree winters and tolerable summers. I wouldn’t consider moving to a climate with below-freezing winters. Nor would I entertain the idea of moving to somewhere like Phoenix, where the summers reach 118 degrees. So where I live is important, because I’ve learned I’m happier and more productive in milder climates.</li></ul><h2 id="05ed">Your list will no doubt be different.</h2><p id="d188">But the fact that you make one will put you far ahead of those who set goals without first identifying the important, non-negotiable people, places, and things that make them happy.</p><p id="403a">So as our world begins to return to normal and you find yourself reconsidering your priorities and re-evaluating your current and future professional objectives, I encourage you to include the important relationships, the core values, and the personal interests that are paramount in your life. Give them the importance they deserve by imagining what your life would be like without them.</p><h1 id="7b13">I’ll leave you with this</h1><p id="3b2e">Socrates argued that the unexamined life isn’t worth living. I’ll offer the counterpoint that subjecting every part of your life to evaluation, measurement, and control can kill spontaneity, shackle creativity, and <a href="https://readmedium.com/roger-reid-buzz-aldrin-on-the-moon-ec9ddf441d41">blind you </a>to the things of value and importance already present in your life.</p><h2 id="ce11">Certainly, use goals to qualify your time and resources and keep you focused on the highest priority activities.</h2><p id="31be">Just make sure any process used to increase your effectiveness doesn’t prevent you from experiencing — and appreciating — the excitement and satisfaction that can come from simply living in the here-and-now, one day at a time.</p><p id="4c49"><a href="https://www.successpoint360.com/episode-7-transcript/"><i>Listen to the Podcast of this article at Success Point 360</i></a></p><p id="3fcc"><i>© 2021 <a href="https://successpoint360.com/">Roger A. Reid</a>. All Rights Reserved.</i></p><p id="d849"><b>Roger A. Reid</b> is the author of <a href="https://amzn.to/33lLOZo"><b><i>Better Mondays</i></b></a><b><i> </i></b>and <a href="https://amzn.to/3hn6V5G"><b><i>Speak Up</i></b></a>.</p><div id="13c1" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/roger-reid-live-your-best-life-now-1e9337541727"> <div> <div> <h2>Live Your Best Life Now, Because the Future Doesn’t Look So Great</h2> <div><h3>How a friend’s predictions of the future changed my mind about getting older</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/1*b3S1pZ_3EJjvGi8YwVko0A.jpeg)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div><div id="1ac5" class="link-block"> <a href="https://readmedium.com/roger-reid-the-secret-to-aging-without-apology-or-regret-7a117b509b54"> <div> <div> <h2>Discover the Secret to Aging Without Apology or Regret</h2> <div><h3>10 ways to become the exception to the myth of aging</h3></div> <div><p>medium.com</p></div> </div> <div> <div style="background-image: url(https://miro.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:320/1*7OpYKiQig5iXHyI4nY0SwQ.jpeg)"></div> </div> </div> </a> </div><p id="60c8"><a href="https://successpoint360.com/about"><b>Roger A. Reid, Ph.D.</b></a> is the host of <a href="https://www.successpoint360.com/"><b>Success Point 360 Podcast</b> </a>and author of <a href="https://amzn.to/33lLOZo"><b><i>Better Mondays</i></b></a><b><i> </i></b>and <a href="https://amzn.to/3hn6V5G"><b><i>Speak Up</i></b></a>. A certified NLP trainer with degrees in engineering and business, Roger offers tips and strategies for achieving higher levels of career success and personal fulfillment in the real world.</p></article></body>

The Problem With The Malaysian Education System

A talk with a grab driver

“Change, not be changed.”

Photo by Art Markiv on Unsplash

From the rearview mirror, I could see the driver’s eyes shooting glances at me through the reflection, a contemplation after, he broke the silence. “What form are you in?” (in secondary level)

“Do I look that young?” I said to tear apart his assumption. Or maybe at that very moment, my slack look, paired with my lazy bag and one water bottle in my hand exuded the school-kid-look. “Going to tuition ah?” said one Grab driver aunty recently, and this exactly aligns with that “What form are you in?” question.

“Oh….” He gave away a quick laugh.

“I’m twenty-two this year, sir.”

“Right. Where do you study?” At this point, I had to fill in the background knowledge to suffice his understanding, which for that matter had exclusively propelled into a deeper conversation merely rooted down that I’m a teacher trainee.

A silence. A pause; which time revealed his seemingly newfound insight. “Teaching is an art, do you know?”

Pfftt… I almost choked on my saliva. I was not ready for any teaching-related conversation or to even talk about education, and there he went correlating teaching and art.

“Yeah, of course. It is. But, sadly, not every teacher realise this,” I forged a reply.

“Do you like it? Teaching? Hahaha,” he shot me another glance through the reflection of the rearview mirror, once more, I felt challenged.

“Teaching… not really,” I replied. Perhaps this is not a frank response, there is more to that, more sensitive depth buried within, rather than the not really.

“So-so lah? Very tough is it?”

“It can be. The truth is that it is not about teaching itself that is hard, but various factors that have to be taken into consideration. As I witnessed, as much as this profession is noble, when a teacher got into the system, they faced the risk of having to get washed down into just a mere teacher — A system teacher,” I elaborated.

Later, I began to confess how when new teachers enter the workplace itself, the eventual working environment, the fire, within their chest, which they religiously hold into like a dear emblem is ladened down by cascades of heavy water.

As per the verdicts from various teachers I had interviewed, the fire is a prevalent symbol alludes to the passion yet the struggle resides gradually dimming it.

As a teacher trainee, my spirit for sure is wavering.

“Pity the teachers. They have to undergo a lot of changes and challenges. The curriculum seems not to be working well,” he said.

“Yeah, there will be more changes. Eventually, it’s non-stopping.”

“Really?”

“Yes. Micro changes here and there. And there will be a new curriculum in 2027. They’re surveying.”

There he began to proceed on how teachers are put on the pedestals yet their treatment is lowly constructed. Teachers are having a hard time miring through new changes, adapting tons of new concepts and learning new curriculum while juggling with concurrent issues and responsibilities.

We mentioned the abolishment of UPSR (National exam for Year 6) followed by the scraping of PT3 (National exam for Form 3), and he proceeded on how this could heavily affect the students especially those now going for SPM (Malaysian Form 5 National exam) with prior national exams cancelled; Malaysian education is marching forward the approach of school-based assessment to reduce exam-centric education system.

Lab rats — he described, signifying students who were and are enrolled in the changes.

PHOTO: REUTERS

Personally speaking, school-based assessment or Pentaksiran Berasaskan Sekolah (PBS) in Malaysia, if we look at the silver lining, it treasures a plenitude of potential, which the Grab driver and I would agree that it is the implementation itself having great thorns pierced in. PBS would be great to strip off the concept of studying just to pass flying colours in the exams; significantly providing pupils opportunities to engage and connect to meaningful learning than just memorising hard-and-fast (if fellow Malaysians still remember how they used to memorise a whole ass essay because the teachers provided the spot questions).

I wouldn’t like my pupils to memorise essays that they understand nothing about, I would like them to harness and enrich their creative writing skills which would lend them enormous power to string words into mellifluous literature pieces.

A lot of dimensions would be neglected with only the focus on papers and pens, and through PBS could skills, performances, knowledge, and dispositions be assessed holistically. But —

The thing is, this shift — is not well-acclaimed as many teachers are not well-acquainted with the approach of school-based assessment. Over the decades, Malaysian schools have undergone the teachings of exam questions, and how to answer the exam questions; given such a change, teachers are pestered to innovate and create their materials, activities, and so on that should be creative, constructive, interesting, relevant, viable, with the objectives set on the standards; deliberately creating more challenge on evaluations and teaching per se.

Also, Malaysians relied on exam scores and grades as metrics of achievements. Pretty much the aunties would love to boast about their sons and daughters’ exam papers with their neighbours; however, such change, is faced with plenty of rebuttals, and the question is: “Are Malaysian pupils/students and teachers ready for such a change?”

Lack of training I would say. Not all teachers know how to implement school-based assessment, and so, some still resort to traditional ways of teaching that are familiar to them.

As we are leaning toward globalisation, are we putting others’ skins on our flesh and bones unsure whether they will fit or not?

“The change seems not like changing, huh?” he smirked.

“It’s not all bad. We have hope. Young and old teachers alike should work together to make better changes.”

“Yeah. Let’s give it some time.”

“Are Malaysian pupils/students and teachers ready for such a change?”

However, I would also like to point out that teachers need great resilience and grit to preserve their passion. The process of sustaining a positive attitude throughout the career will inevitably be set back with assimilation into the environment, either inspiring or thwarting our growth.

“The young teachers (me alike), the newbies, youthful, glowy, have had hopes, visions, and ambitions; however, for the sake of survival, they are slowly forgetting their initial aspirations,” I continued. “As a teacher trainee, I am taught to adapt and create my materials instead of abiding by the textbooks as if they are sacred. Even so, the veterans would still insist on using the textbook.”

Well, new teachers often would have the thought to initiate something new, but most likely the act of taking a risk collides with fear. If something is unusual, the chances of it getting reprimanded are higher. Having to be a follower is so much easier than doing something entirely new. Hence, once again, for survival, we teach ourselves to do what is normal and accepted.

“Something like masuk kandang kambing mengembek, masuk kandang kerbau menguak (Upon entering a goat pen, you bleat; upon entering a buffalo shed, you bellow),” he joked. It means adjusting oneself to the new environment accordingly. If we consume this proverb blindly, connotatively, we are bound to become blind followers, or perhaps a more suitable proverb would be “bagai kerbau dicucuk hidung” (like a buffalo poked in the nose) which means an asinine who only follows orders.

In simpler terms, change is often sudden, repulsed, and awkwardly implemented, exacerbated by a lack of readiness and training to accept and internalise the change.

“Teachers need to become agents rather than objects of change,” said Arnetha Ball.

Think, are we objects or agents? Do we let the change troll us around or do we make profound changes that are significant to us and our community? What change is needed and what change should be improved? Is change even a change at all if it continues to dissolute the satisfaction yet succumbs us to delusions?

“What if we shifted our focus? What if we went from standards, tests, growth measurements, and comparisons across countries to the empowerment of individuals to discover their role in society,” provided by John Patton.

Can school-based assessment procure such a change instead? For empowerment of individuals? If handled with care, chances are that Malaysia can ensure a brighter future for its citizens, getting everyone in a well-fitted role.

“That you are here — that life exists and identity, That the powerful play goes on, and you may contribute a verse.” — Walt Whitman in O Me! O Life!

If you may, then we shall be the change agents. This tapestry vast, are you contributing verses, melodious or cacophonous?

If more people are willing to accept the school-based assessment, if teachers are willing to change than be changed, if training is more inclusive and effective, if passion and grit prevail instead, if survival is not an issue, if teaching is a career of choice instead, Malaysian education could progressively stamp higher achievements.

Let teachers be agents of change, let not them be objects of change.

Change, not be changed.

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