The Power Of The Clitoris – Push This Button For Better Sex

Too many people ignore the clitoris or aren’t educated about it — there’s more to the clit than just rubbing it

The clitoris is the human female’s most sensitive erogenous zone and the primary button to push for sexual pleasure. I’m sure most of us know that stimulating the clit is a useful commodity, but how much do we know about it? How to touch, lick, and tease it?

Where and what is it?

Make sure you know where to find the clitoris: it’s at the top of the vulva, right under the spot where the inner labia meet. It looks like an adorable little button, and that button has over 8,000 nerve endings, which almost double the amount of a penis. Some say the clit is linked to the female G-spot, but that hasn’t been proven.

Fun fact: did you know the G-spot was named that by German researcher Ernst Gräfenberg? Like, that’s what the G stands for. Don’t call it the Gräfenberg, that’s weird. “Oh, baby, am I hitting your Gräfenberg?”

Anyway, most women prefer or even need clitoral stimulation to come. Either by teasing, touching, or licking (cunnilingus.) However, since this little bean has an insane amount of nerve endings, it doesn’t always feel good if you make direct contact with it; stick to direct stimulation to the hood, or areas near the glans can feel more pleasurable. Playing with her clit is a must; I mean, I can’t climax without it. General statistics suggest a whopping 70 – 80 percent of women need clitoral stimulation to reach an orgasm.

Is it important?

The clitoral importance was the argument at the 2002 conference for the Canadian Society of Women in Philosophy, the idea that one sex is sexual and the other reproductive. Not true.

Nancy Tuana argued that the clitoris is unnecessary in reproduction; she stated that it has been ignored because of “a fear of pleasure. It is pleasure separated from reproduction. That’s the fear.” The truth is that both are sexual and both are reproductive.”

We could go on about the history and science of the clitoris; it’s still being studied today, but one thing we know for sure? It feels fucking incredible when it’s stimulated the right way!

How to stimulate the clitoris

There are various ways to tickle this bean. Either by yourself, with a toy, or a partner. Whichever way you choose, it’s going to feel epic; with 8,000 nerve endings, how can it not? But remember, it’s sensitive.

Fingers!

If you watch porn, play with her clit, or masturbate a lot, then you know the basics. Take a finger or two, get them lubed, and rub. You can’t go wrong when your hand is blasting the pussy because you’re bound to stimulate the clit one way or another. Still, there are better ways to play with it, strategic places to touch, various speeds, and pressure.

Here are some of the best ways to stimulate that clit! For yourself, or your partner.

• Do the slide! Just slide your fingers up and down, it’s the basic rub. It feels amazing, it’s classic, and easy.
• Tap two times on the clit if you want me! Yeah, I’m well aware that was a horrible musical pun, but seriously. You can stimulate the clit by gently and repeatedly tapping on it. This also feels fucking amazing.
• Grind! This works with the clothes on or off, you can grind on your hand, you can grind on someone’s knee, or if you’re like me, you can grind on a stuffed animal.
• Peace sign! Take your two fingers, and place them in a V shape the above your clitoral hood. Rub up and down while gently pinching and pulling on the clit.
• Around the world! Take your two fingers, one finger, three, whatever you want. And circle around your clit, massaging your labia as well.

Be creative! Try different speeds, motions, and objects.

Oral

Oh, my God. I would sell my left leg to get infinite oral pleasure. Unfortunately, not a lot of men know how to properly eat a woman out. You can’t just slap your tongue around and hope for an orgasm. Her vagina is like a puzzle, and each vagina is its own puzzle, you have to have patience along with a strategy.

• Find the clit.
• Before you go in and start stimulating, you need to tease her. Get her nice and wet and aroused. Like this. Build anticipation.
• Pay attention to what she likes, listen to verbal cues, the “ohh’s” and “ahh’s”. if you feel her body goes stationary, she’s possibly not enjoying herself. Pay attention to their breathing patterns or moaning. If she starts to squirm, and grab your hair, you’re doing something right.
• “The more you enjoy yourself, the more your partner will enjoy the experience,” says Jess O’Reilly, Ph.D., If you don’t enjoy it, she will feel it. If you’re trying to please her orally, you have to get into it just like you would expect in a blow job.
• One part of oral that gets ignored is tinkering with your partner’s labia minora, also known as “pussy lips.”
• Just like with sex, or a blow job, it doesn’t all feel the same for every woman. Make sure you ask what they like.
• Start slow, enjoy it. Lick around the lips before you get to the clit, Kiss her, rub her inner thighs while you experience the magic in between her legs.
• Much like sex, You should change up your style. Slow and fast, hard and gentle.
• For the love of Poseidon, stop trying to write the alphabet with your tongue. We don’t know what letter you’re doing, nor do we care. All it’s doing is randomly flailing your tongue around.
• Try eating her out in doggy position, Or while standing. Different positions can lead to different sensations. Don’t be afraid to experiment.
• Enjoy what you’re doing, that’s probably the biggest tip. If you’re focusing too much on pleasing her, you’re going to fail. Genuinely enjoy her smell, taste, and feel.
• Here’s an article that shows the true magic of cunnilingus.

Sex

Section B just penetration. It should be a full-body experience for both partners. If she’s not stimulating her clit, you should. this doesn’t necessarily mean you have to use your hand; positions like cowgirl allow her to grind her clitoris on you. You could also use a vibrator to stimulate her clip while you fuck her.

• Use a vibrator on her clit during sex.
• Rub her clit with your hand, or have her rub it.
• Do the stop and go. Stop having sex, and go back down on her.
• Put on some music, get into the rhythm, don’t be afraid to throw it back into high school and grind on each other.
• Be vocal. Dirty talking sexual for a reason, there’s nothing hotter than engaging in sexual conversation.
• Use lubrication, either hers or store-bought. Dry friction sucks, and hurts like a son of a bitch.

Climax

We all have preferences, one size does not fit all. You can’t just go down on a girl and expected it to feel good because you found the clit, Each woman is different. You can’t begin to understand the significance of pleasing her, unless you are enjoying yourself as well. if you aren’t enjoying what you’re doing, what makes you think she will?

The Clitoris can be the little difference between mediocre sex and explosive sex. It all depends on how much time and effort and knowledge you apply. The technique and style don’t have to be perfect. You’ll learn along the way what pleases you and develop your own love of Clitoral stimulation.

Her clitoris is designed for pleasure, and your job is to please it.