The Power Of Being A Selfish Person
Why being selfish makes you a better person
Sure, selfish doesn’t sound like a compliment. But some days I would call myself a selfish persona anyway.
Why?
Because I put my needs above others. I choose to care for myself and give my body and mind what it needs, even if that means putting my husband, children, friends or family below my own needs.
Does this make me selfish? Maybe. But not in a bad way. It is “positive selfishness”.
Positive Selfishness
When I look after myself, I think I am a better human being. Rather than give and give and give until I have nothing left (which I used to do), I now take time for myself. I have found that by being “selfish” I have more to give to those around me than ever before.
When I put my need for exercise as a priority and go for a walk or run by myself, do a workout or yoga, I am more patient, I am happier and I feel good. This then has a positive impact on my relationships with those around me.
Being selfish is really a survival tactic.
You know those safety speeches on plane flights? Where they tell you if the oxygen masks fall from the ceiling to put yours on first before you help those around you? Even your own loved ones? This puts your own health and safety first so that you are then able to help those next to you. If you didn’t put on that life-saving oxygen mask you would not be able to assist or provide support for others.
So put on that oxygen first.
I realise the importance of looking after myself. Of ensuring I do what I can to be at 100% so I can be the best mother, partner, friend and support for those around me.
You cannot pour from an empty cup.
How does being selfish make you a better person?
It helps you live a happier and more balanced life.
You understand your time and energy limitations, and the importance of quality time with your loved ones. You understand why you need to look after your own physical and emotional needs so you can fill your cup.
You say no to taking on ALL THE THINGS. Therefore you don’t deplete all your energy and you have plenty to spare for yourself, your family and your friends.
You will have stronger relationships.
If you are being “selfish” you should also be clearly stating your needs and priorities. This opens channels for clear communication and the mutual understanding that both partners in the relationship will be “selfish”. You will BOTH clearly state what you need and how you can help each other with those within the relationship.
Taking care of yourself first means you will be happier and more relaxed, you will be less likely to feel resentful or frustrated. This means you won’t have that build-up of negative emotions that you may take out on your loved one.
You are more self-aware.
You know what you need. You know what makes you happy, and what you need to feel satisfied, fulfilled and on top of your game. By being selfish you are more self-aware.
This awareness helps to boost your confidence, self-esteem and self-worth. All traits that help you be a happier, more successful person!
So go ahead, put that oxygen mask on first!
This kind of selfishness is not about putting yourself first to the detriment of others. Instead, it is positive selfishness.
You fill your cup first. You put your oxygen mask on before anyone else. You are kind to yourself so you are a better person to those around you.
You cannot pour from an empty cup! So go and fill yours up.
Rachel Maree is a writer, mum and registered nurse. Bringing you the real truth to parenting, nursing and writing (even when it is downright ugly). You can read more articles or hire her to write amazing content for you — Rachel Maree.
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