The Power of a Conversation
The Right Words in The Right Moment Can Change Everything
In these times, I’ve been thinking a lot about what I’ve done and what I want to do. I guess this is because we are sort of trapped inside our homes, because of the quarantine.
Rough times
Right now, is possible that a lot of people is feeling down, at least it was my case for a while, I was feeling like I was frozen, without any power, or idea about what I was doing with my persona. Suddenly a friend of mine got me out of it with a simple conversation, so I got the idea about this post. Sometimes there are inspiring, and powerful conversations that change the course of our lives, like the one I had with my friend. I realized our lives are made by the people around us and the conversations that we have.
We risk our lives with the conversations that we have, and maybe even more important, the ones that we don’t have
Currently, I fell that I am in a time of contrast, everything is moving, and it is moving incredibly fast. I know that I can connect with anyone around the whole world, but sometimes I find myself doing this at the cost of disconnecting with the people I have around me.
In these times, with all the problems that we have because of the coronavirus, all of our technology has been the reason why I can keep myself sane because I can talk with all of my friends and family, even now that they are not around. But before this, I found myself using these same tools and technologies to avoid the conversations that I should experience face to face. And I know that most of the people nowadays do the same, the reason is that we rather hide behind the screens that have some rough, difficult conversations.
Fewer texts and more inspiring conversations
What can we do to change the world?
I think that I live in a broken world, filled with broken families, broken friendships, broken teams, all of it caused for an endless list of reasons, but I already know that. Well, I don’t want bad news, I want solutions, so what can I do?…
To change the world I could start by restoring my deteriorated relationships with inspiring conversations
The world would have a different face is every one of us approach all of our pending conversations. The first thing that my friend told me when I was feeling down was “This problem needs a conversation”, and I still thinking about that single phrase, I notice that it is the perfect approach for most of my problems, so I decided to start an initiative, I just have to start giving to my problems, good conversations, but the real ones, not the ones where I attack other people, not the ones where I don’t allow the other part to give me their perspectives. In the real conversations, no one wins, no one losses and no one ties.
This initiative lives behind the idea that no one can carry the world above their shoulders but everyone can help to carry with the people they interact with, every single day. I just have to decide what type of person I want to be, the type that gives energy, good ideas, the type that gives us the necessity to change the world, or if I want to be the type that leaves us dry after we talk to them.
Model to create inspiring conversations
I have to be ambitious and dressing my inspiring conversations. The book “The talking manager” showed me the right way to approach my pending conversations, it says that what I have to do is take care of two aspects of my conversations
- Quality content
- Empathy
I’d need these two things if we want to create an inspiring conversation, the thing is that I’d need both if I only have good content and no empathy I’d take the conversation to the rejection, this is because I take the conversations without getting in syntony with the other part. If I have neither good content nor empathy, I’d take the conversation to wears out, this is because I’m not have anything of good quality to say, I’d be only improvising. The last case is if I only have empathy it take me to an explosive conversation, this is because I’d be all controlled by the feelings of the moment.
The rewards of good conversations are reflected differently, it can be immediate, or it could take, days, weeks, even years, but something that this book showed me for sure, is that there are always rewards of these conversations, and that will be in my persona if I dare myself to approach conversations face to face.
Life is so much more interesting if we are daring
To conclude with this post I want to challenge myself. I’m going to choose one of my pending conversations, it could be a friend in troubles, the boos that mistreat you, a distanced sibling, anyone, I’m going to approach one of those pending conversations that I have and transform it into an inspiring conversation.