The Persistence of Memories, and the Question, What is Truth?
Don’t be angry over something the other person forgot
I hung up the phone, after having a conversation with someone that I once was close to. I was sad because I realized that even though we were finally speaking to each other. We will never again be close.
We chat on Social Media, and we sometimes talk on the phone, but I have no desire to see him again. It’s all so sad. I have my emotional and mental health to maintain. Participating in drama jeopardizes both.
It’s over, why cling to bitterness?
It all goes back to real or perceived slights I committed years ago. Slights I don’t remember doing.
Why won’t the other person let it go? I have moved on. We can’t talk or reconcile completely. He remembers these events in a different way.
It was the same way with my dad. His skewed memory as with him almost till the day he died.
It’s all pointless
My dad and I would talk. I would listen to him, as he went on and on about something that happened years ago. I didn’t remember it the same way. It would make me angry listening to him make himself into the good guy and me and one of my siblings the bad guys.
Why were these perceived hurts left to fester in the first place? Talking about it. Trying to work out an understanding. Practicing forgiveness would be better for everyone’s health, wouldn’t it?
People hold on to anger and bitterness like it’s gold. There are reasons to hoard gold. There’s no reason at all to hold on to anger.
Are you sure your memories are true?
When you’re angry with someone for something they did in the past. Are you sure your memories are of what happened? Analyze your memories.
Look at them from the other person’s point of view. Your version may be the true version. Or you could have been wrong and the other person was in the right.
Your memories aren’t hurting the person you’re angry with
You’re letting someone live rent-free inside your head. Over something that might not have happened. Let it go for God’s Sake. If you let go of the past and enjoy the present, you would be so much happier.
If you’re hurting from bad memories, find a way to get over it. I pray about mine. Prayer works wonders. Some people go to therapy sessions. Whatever works.
Life is too short to be bitter
My parents died before they hit seventy. I will be sixty-two in a few days. I am making peace with my memories. Life is too short to wallow in bitterness and anger. Over something that the other person has forgotten or remembers differently.
We will never know what the truth is. It would be better, in the long run, to not worry about it, or who was right and wrong. It would be better to forget the past and forgive and rebuild the relationship if you can.
All over something that may, or may not have happened years ago.
I hung up the phone, after having a conversation with someone that I once was close to. I was sad because I realized that even though we were finally speaking to each other. We will never again be close.
We chat on Social Media, and we sometimes talk on the phone, but I have no desire to see him again. It’s all so sad. I have my emotional and mental health to maintain. Participating in drama jeopardizes both.
It all goes back to real or perceived slights I committed years ago. Slights I don’t remember doing.
If they can’t forgive and be happy, it’s on them
Why won’t the other person let it go? I have moved on. We can’t talk or reconcile completely. He remembers these events in a different way.
It was the same way with my dad. His skewed memory was with him almost till the day he died.
My dad and I would talk. I would listen to him, as he went on and on about something that happened years ago. I didn’t remember it the same way. It would make me angry listening to him make himself into the good guy and me and one of my siblings the bad guys.
You’re making yourself miserable, stop it
Why were these perceived hurts left to fester in the first place? Talking about it. Trying to work out an understanding. Practicing forgiveness would be better for everyone’s health, wouldn’t it?
People hold on to anger and bitterness like it’s gold. There are reasons to hoard gold. There’s no reason at all to hold on to anger.
When you’re angry with someone for something they did in the past. Are you sure your memories are of what happened? Analyze your memories.
Look at them from the other person’s point of view. Your version may be the true version. Or you could have been wrong and the other person was in the right.
Life is too short for this crap
You’re letting someone live rent-free inside your head. Over something that might not have happened. Let it go for God’s Sake. If you let go of the past and enjoy the present, you would be so much happier.
If you’re hurting from bad memories, find a way to get over it. I pray about mine. Prayer works wonders. Some people go to therapy sessions. Whatever works.
I have found peace, and I hope you do as well
My parents died before they hit seventy. I will be sixty-two in a few days. I am making peace with my memories. Life is too short to wallow in bitterness and anger. Over something that the other person has forgotten or remembers differently.
Final Thought:
We will never know what the truth is. It would be better, in the long run, to not worry about it, or who was right and wrong. It would be better to forget the past and forgive and rebuild the relationship if you can.
