The Parts of Marriage Couples Don’t Really Speak About.

The Unspoken Truths We Must Share

Marriage, like the creases in an old book, harbours stories that are often left unspoken, etched between the lines of wedding vows and promises.

We must acknowledge the complexities that accompany this journey.

In the spirit of transparency, here are the unspoken truths that can guide, enlighten, and perhaps even heal.

1. The Shapeshifting Roles

Marriage is a theatre of ever-changing roles. The breadwinner might become the caregiver, the dreamer the realist.

These transitions are seldom acknowledged, and yet, they shape the journey. Don’t be rigid. Be fluid to these changes.

In my short time as a spouse, I have played uncountable roles ranging from Hair Stylist to Gym Instructor, Mechanic etc. These days I am responsible for closing her smartwatch exercise rings, just so she can have a perfect week.

We must be prepared to adapt and redefine the roles we play without judgment or fear.

2. The Perfection Myth

Marriage is not an immaculate painting; it’s a mosaic of flaws.

We don’t speak enough about the beauty of the imperfections. It’s the snoring at night and the quirks that make each partner distinct.

In the unspoken truths of marriage, we find that imperfections are the real strokes of love’s masterpiece.

3. The Art of Compromise

Marriage isn’t a tug-of-war; it’s a dance of compromise. There are days when you give, and there are days when you receive.

The unspoken wisdom of marriage lies in the art of knowing when to yield and when to stand firm.

It’s a delicate balance, one that often goes unvoiced.

4. Hidden Resentments

We must speak of those times when unspoken resentments build walls within the sacred space of marriage.

These quiet grudges, left unattended, can erode the very foundation of love.

Open communication is the antidote, for in articulating these hidden feelings, we find the path to forgiveness and renewal.

5. Silence Speaks Volumes

The unspoken words between a couple carry weight.

Silence can be a language of its own, expressing pain, joy, or indifference.

It’s important to read between the lines, to understand that sometimes the most profound conversations occur in the quiet moments, not in the words that are spoken.

6. The Inherent Loneliness

In the company of a partner, loneliness can still find its way into marriage.

It’s an unspoken facet of the journey that many grapple with.

We must share our solitude, recognizing that it’s not a reflection of love’s absence but a call to explore our inner selves.

7. Growth Pains

Marriage is not static; it’s a garden where both partners must tend to their growth.

It’s about the courage to speak of evolving desires, changing dreams, and the need for personal space.

Marriage evolves when we grow together, rather than apart.

8. The Battle with Expectations

Unmet expectations can become the silent storm that tests a marriage.

We must have open dialogues about what we expect and what we are willing to give.

Realism, not romanticism, can be the anchor that steadies the ship.

9. Fanning the Flames of Passion

As time passes, the initial blaze of passion can simmer.

The unspoken secret is that passion can be rekindled. We must constantly talk about the art of nurturing desire, exploring fantasies, and keeping the fire burning.

10. The Echoes of Love

Marriage is a reverberation of love through the years.

The love you shared in the beginning may not be the same love that carries you through the journey.

We must acknowledge that love evolves and deepens. It’s an unspoken truth that love, when nurtured, can echo through a lifetime.

In the unspoken truths of marriage, we find the heartbeats of humanity, the raw and honest experiences that define our shared journey.

Let’s not be silent about these moments, for it’s in voicing them that we find strength, understanding, and resilience to carry on.