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    </div><p id="e117">Here we’ve put together a list of some exciting and unique ideas of how to deal with anxiety when your boyfriend or husband goes out.</p><h1 id="8982">1. Communicate With Your Beloved</h1><figure id="073d"><img src="https://cdn-images-1.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:800/0*h_1yJ7rp8mm66RHp"><figcaption>Photo by <a href="https://unsplash.com/@henrihere?utm_source=medium&amp;utm_medium=referral">Henri Pham</a> on <a href="https://unsplash.com?utm_source=medium&amp;utm_medium=referral">Unsplash</a></figcaption></figure><p id="b290" type="7">Falling in love is easy, but the fear of losing someone is more common in females or girls than in males or boys.</p><p id="249e">As you get into a relationship, the things will not always remain the same between both of you. Sometimes, it will bring you lots of happiness, and sometimes you’ll feel depressed and hopeless.</p><div id="b6ba" class="link-block">
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    </div><p id="d9f3">The best and most important way to deal with relationship anxiety is calling your boyfriend or husband once a while. If they’re out for some time, you should keep calling them every hour to remind them how much you love them.</p><p id="e1e1">There’s no need to get stressed if your boyfriend or husband remains out for several hours. Maybe, they’ve some urgent works to do. You just have to be polite and speak nicely, make them realize that you care for them and want them to come back as soon as possible.</p><h1 id="4430">2. Exercise Or Brisk Walk</h1><figure id="5179"><img src="https://cdn-images-1.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:800/0*gCB8QQvSvUyoa5wD"><figcaption>Photo by <a href="https://unsplash.com/@liujiao?utm_source=medium&amp;utm_medium=referral">Liu Jiao</a> on <a href="https://unsplash.com?utm_source=medium&amp;utm_medium=referral">Unsplash</a></figcaption></figure><p id="2998">This is not a joke; anxiety is a serious mental condition and that means you’ll have to manage it in any way. Exercise is indeed a good way to control the way you feel.</p><div id="548d" class="link-block">
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    </div><p id="52b5" type="7">It has now been proved that brisk walk or exercise is a powerful and comprehensive way to control anxiety symptoms.</p><h1 id="ecb0">3. Start Over</h1><figure id="ebf7"><img src="https://cdn-images-1.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:800/0*10VfnKgugxKjc8BW"><figcaption>Photo by <a href="https://unsplash.com/@lgnwvr?utm_source=medium&amp;utm_medium=referral">LOGAN WEAVER</a> on <a href="https://unsplash.com?utm_source=medium&amp;utm_medium=referral">Unsplash</a></figcaption></figure><p id="fa7a">If the trust has gone, you should talk to your partner instantly and start over. Trust and respect are the foundations of a relationship, and if things aren’t going as planned, you’ll have to redo everything needed to strengthen this relationship.</p><div id="d670" class="link-block">
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    </div><p id="9ec6" type="7">It’ll take you weeks or even months to get back to a normal life. At the same time, you should not fall back into old habits.</p><h1 id="033a">4. Stay Mentally Busy</h1><figure id="962e"><img src="https://cdn-images-1.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:800/0*p0dj3T0srlmx57bF"><figcaption>Photo by <a href="https://unsplash.com/@mannydream?utm_source=medium&amp;utm_medium=referral">Manny Moreno</a> on <a href="https://unsplash.com?utm_source=medium&amp;utm_medium=referral">Unsplash</a></figcaption></figure><p id="7b97">Being busy will be difficult if your partner is out for many hours. However, you need to do so in order to improve your mood. You can begin reading a book, watch television or cook some food for your beloved.</p><p id="546d" type="7">You should do all the things that can keep your mind off your partner for some time. Gardening is also a good idea, or else, you can play some video games.</p><div id="adc6" class="link-block">
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    </div><p id="abfb">In the end, we’d like to say that you should give them some freedom. Maybe, your partner wants to focus on his career or some other things, so you need to understand their feelings and happily allow them to stay away from you for as much time as they want.</p><h2 id="81cd">What do you do when your boyfriend or husband doesn’t respond to your calls?</h2></article></body>

TRAVEL WRITING CHALLENGE

The Only Water to be Found for Miles — Epupa Falls

The A to Z of my favorite travel destinations

Epupa Falls 2020 | Credit: Anne Bonfert

I didn’t believe anymore we’d get to see any water. Not even talking about a waterfall. But the country we had been driving through for hours hadn’t seen any drop of rain in months if not even years.

But then, all of a sudden, as if someone just opened the curtains, there it was. An oasis in the middle of the dry land.

Epupa Falls.

It was 2015 and I was living in Namibia. For three months I’d stay, I was telling everyone even though nobody believed me. I ended up staying for 5 years. But that’s another story.

A school friend was visiting me and I took one week off work to drive her through the country. I wasn’t experienced in driving on gravel roads nor did I know much about the distances in this country. Yet, there was no debate about who was the better driver between the two of us.

This is me on one of the endless roads in the country. | Credit: Anne Bonfert

The country we had been driving through was just incredibly dry. I mean, I had been driving through. I was the only one driving. My friend was sitting next to me studying. All the way.

Yes, it was the last vacation we did together. And the last time we spoke with each other too. Stuff happens. Friendships come and go. It is part of our life. Some stay for longer, some don’t.

And here we were. Driving three hours North from our last destination in the search of a waterfall. There was more dust around us than green leaves. I don’t know what we were thinking.

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Epupa Falls is described as “dramatic waterfalls” on Google Maps. They are a series of waterfalls where the Kunene River runs between Angola and Namibia. The River is in fact the border.

The river drops to a maximum of 37 meters (120 feet) stretching across a distance of 1,5 kilometers. The word Epupa stands for “foam” in the local language of the Herero (Source).

While this is not a waterfall to be compared with Niagara Falls or the famous waterfalls in Africa just a few hundred kilometers further east, the Victoria Falls, these falls are promising water, all year around.

That red dot on the top left corner is the location of Epupa Falls. | Screenshot of Google Maps

And even though we didn’t expect it, as we came around the corner, we did see the lush green palm trees and the sparkling water.

Our rental car, some roadside stalls and locals out and about. | Credit: Anne Bonfert

We parked the car and walked down to the river.

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It was somehow surreal.

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And even though the water levels were very low, we still did see the foam the locals were talking about.

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We walked around the settlement and approached the gorge from the other side. The water was only dropping down on one spot but it was clearly identified as a waterfall.

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A local woman from the Himba tribe was washing clothes in the river.

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As we got back to the car, a few children were standing around asking us for sweets. The healthy travelers we were, we had nothing sweet with us but gave them instead some carrots and an apple.

The little boy was very hesitant when I handed him the apple. He looked at it as if he had no idea what it was. His older sister told him to take the fruit and possibly explained what it was.

Yes, no apples do grow here and these children only know the local foods and things brought by tourists.

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As soon as we turned around the landscape changed immediately again. Dry and desolate.

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My first visit to the falls only lasted less than an hour. If I tell any Namibian I drove to Epupa but didn’t stay overnight they tell me I’m crazy. Which is legit. It’s a 3-hour drive from the nearest town you can stay over.

The next time I visited Epupa Falls I came with a better travel partner, with more time and a different rental vehicle.

My better half with me at Epupa Falls. | Credit: Anne Bonfert

It was March 2020. The pandemic had kicked us out of Thailand where we working at that time. Fleeing back to my husband’s home country, we rented a vehicle to go on a road trip.

Yes, in this part of the world the pandemic hadn’t started yet. Just the tourists stayed away. We traveled through the best of Namibia while seeing and meeting barely any soul.

We decided to stay two nights at the falls. We arrived with a flat tire and while my husband got the tire changed, I set up the rooftop tent and our gazebo.

When we stay for longer at a place we like it comfortable.

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It was rainy season and the country had received the first good rains in a time period of about 7 years.

The campsite had been flooded just a few days before we arrived. The water levels had dropped since, but still remained at a high.

The falls were spectacular.

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We climbed the surrounding hills to get a better view of the long stretch where the Kunene River is dropping over the edge and we went close to the gorge.

To feel the mist and hear the roaring thunder of falling water.

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I had set up my hammock and spent the hottest time of the day reading and writing on my tablet.

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On the second evening, we walked over to the lodge. We sat at the bar overlooking the river and drank a few gin & tonics while watching the sun set over the falls. It was a night to remember.

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The next morning we headed on. We didn’t take the same route we came on but followed a dirt track next to the river. We had spoken to the campsite owner asking if any people had gone through within the last 24 hours.

He said yes but only in a convoy.

We were a single vehicle facing many flooded stretches of the road and even crossed one river. Not in full flood but it was an adventure, I can tell you that.

A story for another day.

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“There is a hidden message in every waterfall. It says if you are flexible, falling will not hurt you.” — Mehmet Murat Ildan

This is a writing prompt response started by Sam Millichap and continued by Adrienne Beaumont. Read their stories with “E”.

E Is for Edinburgh” and

E is for Elvas

You can find the full series of the “A to Z of my favorite travel destinations” in the reading list here.

A — “From Akwidaa to Axim

B — “A Winter Wonderland at the Base of the Alps

C — “My Southernmost Destination in the World — The Cape

D — “Off the Beaten Track in Thailand

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