The Only Reason To Not Watch Porn
Should not be to pretend you became a stoic hero but to exercise creativity
As human beings, we all have the gift of imagination. It is both blessing and a curse. It appears as a curse when imagination runs wild into frightening thoughts leading to various anxieties. But it can also be channeled into imaginations that could ease us and even heal us.
What could be more apt to exercise creative imagination skills than masturbation? It does not have to be done by lazily watching someone having sex on porn videos. One could even consider it as a sacred creative ritual. Just make sure that the ritual does not take up the whole day.
It does not have to be a mere frustration release. You can imagine being really vulnerable with a girl or boy of your dreams. Exposing your deep emotional pains and shadows to him/her, and imagine them totally accepting and holding the space for you to heal. Do not just waste away this gift of creative imagination. A human being is the only creature who can masturbate without having to depend on the mercy of reality. He/she can simply create reality at their will in imagination.
And who knows, as Carl Jung had said about the capacity for the imagination for evil is important and liberating, likewise sexual imagination might help us to confront the greed, possessiveness, and such evil aspects within us and to be from it through responsible creative channeling, and all by oneself :). It is for one to experiment for himself.
A male monkey cannot masturbate in isolation without the stimulus of a female monkey anywhere in the vicinity. But for a human monkey, wait, human being, it is possible provided he can exercise his imagination responsibly and creatively.
Viktor Frankl said that while he was suffering hopelessly in the concentration camp, being subjected to the insults from the officers there, he could escape it by imagining as if he is being with his wife and making love with her that nothing else mattered.
Let tears come; let the sadness come; let it all be transformed in the presence of mutual support and trust even if it is only as an exercise in imagination. Give yourself what you need and feel how it is to receive it (at least in your imagination). Let dark aspects be transformed into joy, and not just a temporary quick fix. You might even find yourself forgetting about masturbation and just enjoying the healing process.
Let the feeling grow as you be with your imaginary partner while fully going through the sensations in reality. And yes, cry if you have to; do not suppress such feelings that you end up being frustrated and later become dependent on porn or mindless productivity as the only way to escape such difficult feelings such as sadness and insecurity. Use the comfort of an imaginary partner creatively while difficult and vulnerable feelings arise to be healed.
If you had already jumped into a relationship because you were lazy or impatient to consider the possibility of tapping into your creative potential, then I do not know what to do with you; you might as well try to enjoy the same with your real partner rather than asking them to wait outside your bedroom and thereby making them be suspicious of you.
Laziness will arise in you, and you can’t make it through unless there is a serious commitment to making it into a successful healing session. Make time to focus on the experience fully. So do not be lazy, and instead tap into your creativity. And do it often. This does not mean that you can just do it straightway; it might require some patience and consistent showing up; you must allow yourself to fall into a rhythm or discipline and get into that flow. You might have to confront the impatient-frustration of the inner-monster (inner-baby) that wants quick relief. Be easy with yourself.
Make it your sacred ritual. It is not for the sake of pretending like a stoic or wishing to become superhuman or any such childish nonsense preached by insensitive self-help deluders(while suffering inside like a bruised dog), but to heal creatively. Do not force on yourself some stupid no-fap violence so as to escape feelings of inferiority and guilt — those are harmful ideas generated from an overly-masturbated (actually overly used beyond need) left brain.
Absurd as it sounds, masturbation is one of the highest faculties mankind has achieved — Colin Wilson, author of ‘The Mind Parasites’
Found a talk given by Colin Wilson where I heard the above quote:
This is not to shame or guilt-trip anyone for watching porn, nor to showcase porn as something evil or to act as a self-helper who might scapegoat ‘porn’ for every bad thing happening in life so that you would not have to think any further. After all, it is also an entertainment or pleasure consumption activity just like playing video games. Nor one has to indulge in it irresponsibly as is the case with anything else.
Thank you and consider this writing as my Standup Bragging aka Ted Talk in the future. :)
Fappy new year!
Why not read this 5 line poem:
