Summary

The article discusses the benefits of being vocally expressive during sex, emphasizing its positive effects on sexual confidence, partner communication, and overall health.

Abstract

The author of the article argues that loud sex is not merely a display for neighbors but a healthy expression of sexual pleasure. It suggests that vocal women are confident in their sexuality and can enhance the sexual experience for both partners by providing clear communication through sounds. The article also points out that being vocal during sex can serve as a guide for partners, helping them understand what is enjoyable and leading to a more satisfying sexual experience. Furthermore, it highlights that vocal expression is a form of communication that contributes to a healthier relationship and personal well-being. While encouraging vocal expression, the author advises authenticity over volume and consideration for the comfort of others in shared living spaces.

Opinions

Vocal expression during sex is indicative of a confident, sexually empowered woman.
Loud sex is preferable to silent passivity, as it shows active participation and enjoyment.
Vocal cues are beneficial for understanding a partner's arousal and satisfaction levels.
Communication through vocal expression can lead to better sexual experiences and overall relationship satisfaction.
There is a balance to be struck with vocal expression; it should be genuine and not overly loud for effect.
Consideration should be given to neighbors and living situations, but this should not discourage natural sexual expression.
The author promotes a non-judgmental attitude towards sexual vocalization as a natural and healthy part of human sexuality.

The Numerous Benefits of Having Loud Sex

The sex was so good even the neighbours had a cigarette

I don’t think I am too loud. After all, I gave birth three times, in a natural way, with no anaesthetics at all, decently groaning only. I’m no masochist, but I was focusing on getting it done, I had no energy for wasting my breath on a scream.

I can take some pain and a lot of pleasure without getting too vocal. I sigh — a lot. I moan, groan. I can get loud without screaming. And then there are times when the sensation just gets too much and it gets me screaming — a little.

After an especially loud instance, I bumped into my next-door neighbour — a woman in her fifties, with hair like fire and forever Ferrari red lips — she raised one brow and smiled a mischievous, all-knowing half-smile.

I truly hoped she wouldn’t high-five me.

I managed to smile more victoriously than embarrassed and skipped away in the autumn sunshine.

My victory was totally reasonable because regardless of having cool neighbours, having loud sex is quite good for you.

Why do guys go for loud women? What is it about being vocal that makes it sexier?

You will know that she is a confident woman

A woman who is not ashamed of her body, who owns her own femininity and sexuality and who is okay to admit that she is enjoying what she is doing is a confident woman. Getting vocal means that she is fine with who she is and she doesn’t need to be a supermodel to have enough confidence to express what she likes and wants.

You don’t need to deal with a mute starfish

I only heard about women who take the silent starfish position from frustrated guy friends — complaining about the passive, silent woman who had no intention to contribute to the joint efforts. Not with movements, not with sounds.

I can only imagine how it might feel to observe as any mature women will be an active player in this game, initiating, moving, moaning, groaning and enjoying — loud and clear.

You will know that she is turned on

Being vocal starts with a loud sigh, continues with shallow breathing and desperate moans — all indicating the level of her arousal. The heavier the sighs get, the quicker the breathing and the more intense the moaning gets — the more you can be sure that she is already in the mood, or that you can get from the foreplay to the next level of pleasure.

You will get some pointers

There are so many complaints about the difficulties around female pleasure. And either you need to be a sex-god with extraordinary skills or you need a woman who can orgasm extra easily… unless you are willing to pay attention to the pointers.

The most experienced and best lovers all share the skill of paying attention, recognising the signs, the almost imperceptible change in the breathing, the tiny muscle contractions AND the vocal directions. “Right there” and “harder” and “slower” are easier to decode, but with a little practice you can read the signs of deepening groans and heavier sighs… not to mention the ultimate scream, that’s pretty hard to miss.

It’s good for your health

Being vocal is good for your health. Both of you. It’s quite well-known that couples who talk and communicate are healthier, more satisfied in every area of life not just in the sexual territory. Expressing wishes, pleasure or even discomfort with moans and sighs and grunts is a way of communication — that has a clear message if you are willing to hear it.

+1 It’s fun to meet the neighbours the next morning

Especially together and especially if you have as cool of a neighbour as I have. And it reminds you to be the non-judgmental neighbour if you are on the listening end. But in general, spreading non-judgemental attitude about our sexuality is very important, and it starts with not frowning upon something natural, not getting upset at others having fun.

But having said that, there are a couple of things to watch out for with loud sex:

No need to scream, only if you really want to

Being vocal and expressing genuine pleasure can be just as silent and loud. Volume is not a measure of good sex, a silent moan can be just as arousing and helpful in pointing a partner in the right direction as a loud groan. It is a personal preference and not some box that you need to tick.

Stay authentic, don’t fake it

Don’t overdo it, and don’t think that loud means better. Very loud screaming is usually taken as porn bullshit, and it’s more off-putting than arousing. Don’t get loud for the sake of loudness but don’t hold back just because you think you’re supposed to.

Build up to your loudest with a new partner, starting more decently, don’t scare them off with a plate-shattering shriek.

You don’t need to care about your neighbours

But being decent towards your kids or flatmates is a nice thing to do. Also, when you finally get the flat to yourself or you are out in the woods in a tent, it gives an extra thrill to experience something you can’t every day.

So, get vocal! It’s good for you. Both of you.

But stay your genuine self — whichever volume level it means.

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