The Nature of True Love

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dmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:800/1*txdtdXJf4Hm59enZ7TrpnQ.png"><figcaption>(Image: Courtesy of Geralt/Pixabay)</figcaption></figure>It’s a choice of will to love another with the truest love not based upon whims, infatuation, or good feelings when all is going well. By one’s will, a conscious choice, one truly loves by a devoted commitment to the other’s well being. It is an enduring regard, and nothing would ever be more important. This shared happiness between two people is a beautiful blessing requiring strength and maturity. The beauty of such a healthy and whole relationship is that each is a mutual gift to the other. In sharing your happiness, as well as in sharing life’s sorrows, joy is experienced.

To experience this requires contentment first found alone, then you have much to give another as you experience life together. You must be a whole person, happy and peaceful within. Happiness must be there first before you can share it with another — it’s the sharing of happiness that brings joy.

You need not try to “make” it happen; you need not try to “look” for such an individual to share your life with; you need only live your life to the fullest basing it on love in all you do. There is no controversy as to how to relate to any other in life if love is truly the guide, for it seeks not to control another, but is the ultimate respect of the individual.

1. You will never truly love any other — not a child, another relative, a partner, or even a friend — if you have not chosen to love yourself. Your true Self must be loved — nurtured and embraced and developed — or else the “love” you proclaim for a

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nother will not be pure and whole. One cannot neglect being true to love of Self and expect to love the true Self of another. Living falsely yourself (being untrue to and neglecting yourself) inevitably results in you being false toward others — love cannot live in such falseness.

2. You cannot love another if you hate (would use aggression against) any other. The belief in aggression pollutes the heart, making it impossible for true appreciation to occur toward any other. Aggression cannot be fed within without its tainting of every relationship — even the ones you claim to value. Once accepted as valid, aggression will appear toward anyone under the right circumstances. Aggression excludes love — not just toward the one it is directed toward — but toward every individual. Aggression is of fear, it seeks to harm when no harm has been perpetrated. It excludes true love from the heart and makes only a semblance/illusion of the ability to love, for you cannot keep such hatred within and maintain love for a few.<figure id="7626"><img src="https://cdn-images-1.readmedium.com/v2/resize:fit:800/1*l_eaHccB16kQqZRJWAMDmA.png"><figcaption>(Image: Courtesy of Geralt/Pixabay)</figcaption></figure>3. Love seeks only to give, to bless, to nurture, to help the fulfillment of the soul. Toward yourself, or another.

4. Love exists only in truth…in honesty — no exceptions.

5. Love is the only guide you need. Seek to evince it (understand it) and all of the many “confusions,” “complications,” and “controversies,” you now occupy your mind with will suddenly be cleared away.</article></body>

It’s not about them — it’s about you.

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True love is not something you “find,” it is something which comes naturally when you have truly loved your true self. Having another individual with whom you can share your life, be it a close friend, a caring family member, a lifetime partner, your spouse, is one of the greatest joys you can be blessed with. Before you can joyfully share with another individual, you must be complete or whole yourself.

The happiness you seek comes from the choices you make, not from the choice another may make to be in your life. I’ve seen so many who have this completely backward: they think if only they meet the “right” man or woman they’ll be truly happy. I believe the opposite is true: Before you are even capable of having a healthy, fulfilling relationship with another, you must be a complete person yourself — fulfilled by the choices you’ve made to develop yourself intellectually, emotionally, physically, and spiritually. Only then do you become an individual capable of joining with another already fulfilled individual — sharing joy together — to enhance each other’s lives in loving one another. Only then do you have something to give the one you love. Only then can you both learn and teach one another — which is a most beautiful aspect of a relationship.

(Image: Courtesy of Geralt/Pixabay)

It’s a choice of will to love another with the truest love not based upon whims, infatuation, or good feelings when all is going well. By one’s will, a conscious choice, one truly loves by a devoted commitment to the other’s well being. It is an enduring regard, and nothing would ever be more important. This shared happiness between two people is a beautiful blessing requiring strength and maturity. The beauty of such a healthy and whole relationship is that each is a mutual gift to the other. In sharing your happiness, as well as in sharing life’s sorrows, joy is experienced. To experience this requires contentment first found alone, then you have much to give another as you experience life together. You must be a whole person, happy and peaceful within. Happiness must be there first before you can share it with another — it’s the sharing of happiness that brings joy. You need not try to “make” it happen; you need not try to “look” for such an individual to share your life with; you need only live your life to the fullest basing it on love in all you do. There is no controversy as to how to relate to any other in life if love is truly the guide, for it seeks not to control another, but is the ultimate respect of the individual. 1. You will never truly love any other — not a child, another relative, a partner, or even a friend — if you have not chosen to love yourself. Your true Self must be loved — nurtured and embraced and developed — or else the “love” you proclaim for another will not be pure and whole. One cannot neglect being true to love of Self and expect to love the true Self of another. Living falsely yourself (being untrue to and neglecting yourself) inevitably results in you being false toward others — love cannot live in such falseness. 2. You cannot love another if you hate (would use aggression against) any other. The belief in aggression pollutes the heart, making it impossible for true appreciation to occur toward any other. Aggression cannot be fed within without its tainting of every relationship — even the ones you claim to value. Once accepted as valid, aggression will appear toward anyone under the right circumstances. Aggression excludes love — not just toward the one it is directed toward — but toward every individual. Aggression is of fear, it seeks to harm when no harm has been perpetrated. It excludes true love from the heart and makes only a semblance/illusion of the ability to love, for you cannot keep such hatred within and maintain love for a few.

(Image: Courtesy of Geralt/Pixabay)

3. Love seeks only to give, to bless, to nurture, to help the fulfillment of the soul. Toward yourself, or another. 4. Love exists only in truth…in honesty — no exceptions. 5. Love is the only guide you need. Seek to evince it (understand it) and all of the many “confusions,” “complications,” and “controversies,” you now occupy your mind with will suddenly be cleared away.