The Narcissist’s Splitting Mentality
You’re either all good or all bad and no in between
The narcissist is incapable of relating to others as nuanced totalities. This dichotomous perspective means that people are either all bad or all good.
This disregard to view others as distinguished and holistically makes it difficult to have a harmonious relationship with the narcissist.
It’s a defense mechanism where there are no grey shades. This is applied when the narcissist wants to separate themselves from themselves from supply.
They will trot around and say this or that person is full of nothing but bad qualities. The opposite effect takes place in the idealization phase.
They will view their fixation of obsession as perfect; they can’t do no wrong and have all the right characteristics.
A narcissist’s line of thinking will put you on the highest pedestal, but will show no mercy in painting you all black if they so deem you imperfect.
Everything is recast to be rewritten and uphold and support an idealized version of you. If you ever so do anything unfavorable, it will be the nail in the coffin.
At the slightest inconvenience or perceived attack, you now labeled as “evil” or wicked and from that point forward you will remain as such.
If you’ve experienced either behavior from the narcissist, you are being idealized or on the way of being discarded.
Look inward and reflect on the relationship with the narcissist and you’ll know where you stand.
Be aware. Be safe.