The Most Powerful Way to Last Longer in Bed
This is how to go from dud to stud with one simple “technique”
I realized the “technique less” technique in my 20s. A decade before, I spent years doing various tantra courses and reading endless books on the subject.
After this discovery, I felt like Edmund Hillary after climbing Everest. I thought I had discovered something massive. Even though it’s so simple.
I checked if they spoke of it in the Kama Sutra or perhaps the Taoist Bedroom Secrets. No, nowhere to be seen.
Use the following method to master your sexual energy and become a powerful lover.
What is it
The “technique less” technique is to go slowly in the first 10 minutes when you have penetrated her during your love-making session.
This will enable you to fall into your “sexual hemostasis” point.
Keep It Simple Stupid
When the solution is simple, God is answering
— Albert Einstein
Homeostasis is defined as:
Any self-regulating process by which an organism maintains stability while adjusting to conditions that are best for its survival.
I remember in my 20s; I learned to go slow more out of fear and shame associated with ejaculating too fast. The thought that she would go tell her friends, “it was over in 2 minutes! He was a dud!”
Over time, I noticed when my body adjusted to the sexual energy:
- Moving in my body.
- Coming down from peaking quickly.
My body relaxed, and my breathing slowed down. With it, the urge to ejaculate disappeared.
This has been the single best “technique” that has made the biggest difference in keeping my seed inside.
Why does this ejaculation reflex happen?
There are 2 reasons the urge to ejaculate happens so quickly:
- Procreation — The purpose of ejaculation is for the continuation of the species. A prehistoric man in a cave needed to ensure his line continued. Because of being exposed to danger and the elements. It made sense to “get the job done” as quickly as possible.
- Porn — There is a lot of shame around porn hence when you were a teen or even now, out of fear of being caught, you want to get to the end as soon as possible.
Both these reasons have programmed your brain to become a premature ejaculator. That is ejaculating before you and your partner would like.
There is a way to take things slowly and make them a natural part of your lovemaking.
How do you do this during lovemaking?
When you are learning a new skill. It can be a bit clunking, but it doesn’t have to be with going slow during sex.
- Drop goal orientation — Before having sex, don’t be fixated on the endpoint. Enjoy your time with your bed partner. Don’t view sex as a task that needs to be completed. Rather, as an enlivening journey you use to connect your partner.
- Pause — When your penis is inside her and the urge to ejaculate is coming up strong, either stop with your penis still inside her or withdraw your penis for 10–20 seconds from within inside. Wait until your sexual urge has dropped, then continue.
How to maintain the connection in the pause
Things to do when you pause to keep the sexual connection:
- Kissing — Start kissing your partner passionately. Kiss up and down her neck. Suck on her earlobe.
- Fingering — If you withdraw your penis, you can insert your fingers in and out of her vagina.
- Cunnilingus — Go down on her and explore her vagina with your tongue.
- Eye gazing — Look deeply into her eyes and be present. A woman will feel held and loved when a man looks at her and makes her feel like she is the most important person in the world.
- Breathe — Synchronize your breathing with hers. When you have paused, she will feel your body on top of her. Breathe in the same rhythm as her. This will bring you closer together.
I use several of these options during the go-slow phase.
After 10 minutes
You can get back into a steady rhythm of lovemaking or get into that animalistic sex!
Either way, you have passed over your threshold.
Now you can periodically, when required, you can use the various semen retention techniques you have learned:
Talk to your partner about your semen retention practice and get her on board. Even if you are running solo and you have a few causal connections, women love talking about semen retention, especially those who have never heard of it.
It sets you apart from other men.
The 10-minute figure is used as a starting point. As you become more aware of your body, you will know when you have passed your threshold and come back into “sexual homeostasis.”
This point can also change, depending upon the temperature, how often you have sex, and increasing your ability to manage your sexual energy.
Once you get over the initial speed hump, you will last as long as you like or not ejaculate at all.
