The Most Powerful Trick to ‘Let Go’ Nobody Tells You About
How to go beyond control to embrace the blissful life
One common word is actually punching you the hardest.
I’ve heard it on multiple occasions. Many people use it randomly to inspire others and sometimes to motivate themselves.
It is — Control.
Control your mind to control your life. Control your thoughts. Control your emotions and feelings if you want to live happily.
This one word is by far the most dangerous word for mental health. I’ve witnessed it destroying many people’s peace.
It is never enough.
Living a peaceful life has nothing to do with control.
It is like an endless pursuit. A treadmill of emotions. Wake up, control your time and emotions, put up a happy face, and repeat.
It is never enough.
There are always more and more things to control. There are people frustrating you. There are situations getting out of control. There are times when your feelings fly high up in the sky.
But there is some good news.
You don’t have to live on edge.
I agree life is unpredictable. People can get on your nerves. Situations can leave you exhausted. Your own emotions can drown you.
But you can deal with all of them peacefully.
Living a life doesn’t have to be this way. In fact, you can reframe the entire thing when you realize that there is something beyond your control. The super-flexibility is the superpower of effortless living.
Adjust your flow.
Many people don’t know the real reason why they try to control.
Control happens when you don’t like certain things. Your desire to live life in specific ways forces you to manipulate things.
The problem is not the desire. But it is your limited thinking that can’t consider anything beyond it.
It happened to me as well.
For a long time, I believed that happiness would come once I was married. My insecurities and social conditionings led to the desire to be with someone. I thought that was the only way to live.
But life didn’t turn out that way for me.
It broke my expectations and mental stories. Every time I dreamed of it, life shattered it again and again.
However, it could not shatter the love that I had in my heart.
With each destruction, tears and hopelessness would come. But it also purified my love. Eventually, my conditioning broke, and I realized that what I thought was my limited thinking.
Life can be much more than marriage or settlement.
The more I dived into it, the more peaceful, contentment, and joy happened effortlessly.
Situations remained the same. But, I was transformed.
When you are in tune with life, you flow effortlessly. But when you resist the flow, the same current becomes tortuous.
It is not the current that is the problem. The main problem is your flow.
Be open to possibilities.
Despair and struggle happen when you resist the flow of life. Resistance makes you the enemy of life.
Life is not the enemy. Even if your mind thinks it to be.
Resisting life has become part of survival mode. Comfort has become greater than growth.
But life breaks the pattern. It wants to grow you from a seed of immense possibilities to your greatest potential.
In fact, life is always taking you to the spring of water you need for your growth. You may not realize it right now. But when you learn your lessons and look back, it makes all sense.
Game changer
Your resistance lowers your bar.
It means there is a pressure to satisfy your desires. Your mind pushes you to behave in a certain way because you think you know best.
But the game changes when you allow the life to be.
It happens when you realize —
- You don’t know what is best for you.
- You trust life and accept its doing with grace.
It does not mean doing nothing.
It means acting in the direction where you have to and leaving the outcome.
If you’re focused on where you want to be, the actions dilute. But when you act and drop the expectation of the desired result, you slowly slip into an acceptance state.
Then you get anchored in the ‘Now.’
This is the moment where you live your life. This is the time and place that determines the quality of your life.
Life is not in the past or someplace in the future, but a culmination of ‘nows.’ When you relax in the now, your grip over things starts to loosen out.
Final Thoughts
The de-training from control to let go takes time.
Most people don’t get wonderful overnight. They show up, fall into traps of mind, become conscious, and then strive to be better with each moment.
Consistency is the master step when the path is slippery.
You get into acceptance by lowering your bar and desires. Your goal is not to serve your desires.
Instead, your goal is to be conscious of —
- Your resistance and control,
- Every desire that sprouts and,
- Your unconsciousness attempts to fulfill them.
Sure, living the life that you desire is important. But getting dragged to fulfill your every wish is the root cause of control and anxiety.
When you dive into the river of acceptance, the true warmth of living happens.
Be in the flow to live blissfully.
