Summary

The article discusses the importance of conscious living and emotional responsibility in overcoming misery and achieving joyful life.

Abstract

The text emphasizes that true happiness stems from inner silence and conscious awareness, which can be attained by releasing the grip of ego and emotions. It illustrates the detrimental effects of unchecked emotions through the story of a woman who lashes out in anger, demonstrating how unconscious reactions can harm relationships and personal peace. The author argues that one's emotional responses are solely their responsibility, not the result of external triggers. By acknowledging and processing these emotions, individuals can transcend the cycle of blame and misery, leading to a state of pure consciousness where reactions are still and peaceful. The article encourages readers to take ownership of their emotions and actions, suggesting that this self-awareness can lead to a transformative and joyful existence.

Opinions

Emotional outbursts are indicative of unconsciousness and can severely impact relationships.
Ego and emotions, if left unchecked, can lead to a cycle of misery and conflict.
True consciousness is characterized by a state of nothingness, devoid of emotions, feelings, and thoughts.
Individuals are entirely responsible for their emotional reactions, as external triggers cannot provoke what is not already within.
Conscious living requires owning one's emotions and actions, leading to personal transformation and peace.
The article suggests that inner stillness and genuine awareness are key to breaking free from negative emotional patterns.
The author posits that one's highest self is attainable through taking responsibility for one's reactions and emotions.

The Moment You Touch Silence, You Start to Live Joyfully

It is possible to leave the cycle of misery. Here’s how.

She screamed her lungs out.

Her insane words were like toxins dissolving in the air. Breathing in it became difficult. Then, suddenly, her sibling left the chat.

I knew what happened and why she behaved like a wounded lioness. But I thought I taught her better.

My illusion crashed in an instant.

Ego can’t be taught anything. It can only be dissolved. The only condition is that the other should be ready. Ready to let go of all.

That is where most seekers resist.

When I saw her bursting out, it became evident that even a dedicated person slips badly if a moment of unconsciousness overpowers her.

It took her many days to realize what she had done.

The larger the stone you throw in a lake, the larger the ripples. And it takes more time to gain clarity and stillness.

When you’re agitated, nobody can make you understand anything. Because your anger consumes you. It makes you rash about what you say or feel.

I constantly say to express your feelings.

But in no way does it mean to lash out at another person. I mean to express behind doors. Express your mad frustration and anger to the walls or pillows.

But never to the other human.

Nobody owes your anger. Not even your partner, children, friend, or parent. If you do, it shows your emotional immaturity.

You only carry weight on your shoulders and foolishly think it is because of the other. You cling to your emotions as if they were you. You justify them by giving insane explanations.

But a spiritual person knows emotions are temporary.

They know emotions are not them. Emotions don’t even represent them. They are just fleeting moments of dense feelings.

The more you feed them, the more they latch on to you.

Your decades of conditioning and strengthening your emotions make it difficult to let them go. Your training of brushing negative emotions piles them in the corner of your heart.

And when a trigger comes, they burst like a volcano.

Shamelessly, you blame the other because —

To protect your relationships, you never communicated your insecurities and real feelings.
Your ignorance towards your negative emotions.
Your training to brush aside the negativity and whitewash it with positivity.
You think the other gave you that burden and struggle of dense emotions that you never bothered to really address.
And when the small trigger from the other came, it led to the violent volcano.

Nobody is responsible for your misery but you.

Earlier in that fight, she shared how she felt suffocated because she didn’t share her true feelings. She thought the other person wouldn't understand and would dominate again.

She is not a lone case.

I’ve met hundreds of others who behave similarly.

They hide their true feelings in a relationship. It is only a matter of time before things go wrong and turn sour, and they turn against each other.

Do you know what is the root cause?

Your 100% belief in the stories you tell to yourself.

You think it to be true just because —

It happened in the past.
When it happened, you didn’t learn your lessons.
To protect your fragile ego, you stop discussing your true feelings.

Your mental story is the cause of misery.

The actual event may not be the same as you thought it would be. It might be completely different. But your closed attitude never led to that true discovery of the situation or where the other came from.

Your genuine awareness is the key.

After almost a week, when things settled, I asked her, “Were you conscious when you said those words?”

She said, “Yes, I was. I knew what I was saying.”

But that is a partial truth.

You can know what you are saying. But you can’t be conscious and act unconsciously.

A pure consciousness can’t come till you just know what you say. It comes when you let go of what you want to say and allow the stillness to come inside.

That is the state of consciousness — Where there is nothing.

No emotions, feelings, thoughts. It just is nothing.

From that state, you can’t say words of hatred or anger. Everything dissolves in it. Everything becomes silent and still.

You can’t be in an extreme reactionary stage.

There is a very thin line between being completely conscious and partial witness.

Don’t fool yourself into thinking that what you spewed came from consciousness. That your reactions were under your watch. Because it can’t be.

Anything that comes out from you is ‘yours.’

Start owning your sh*t. It can revolutionize your living once you start doing it.

Because then you know how you react or act is because of your unprocessed emotions. Nobody can trigger what is not inside you.

An innocent baby can’t spread a smile on a person full of hatred. And a wrong comment can’t make you mad if you have peace inside.

Anything that comes out from you is ‘yours.’

Maybe you knew it. Perhaps it was hidden in the depths of dark, unconscious egoic places. But it is all yours.

Own it completely.

Because once you start to own it, you can then begin to see a massive transformation in your life. And if you remain true to your journey, you might even go out of this circle of blame game and rest in your natural, peaceful state.

It all depends on your willingness to take responsibility for your reactions and emotions.

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